Why the size of a man’s penis or the length and width of his shaft are not the most important thing when it comes to pleasuring a woman sexually, and what you can do instead to satisfy a woman in the bedroom if you “ain’t packin heat.”
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who is a black man, who says he is not hung like a horse. He feels inferior and is totally emasculating himself, because he has convinced himself that his penis is not big enough to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. He has invented this negative story he tells himself, and it is having a debilitating, negative effect on his self-confidence, self-esteem, sex-life and his ability to attract women.
Any time a woman looks at his crotch, and especially if she smiles or laughs, he assumes she is making fun of his small size. I explain to him why his perception of himself is total BS and what he really needs to focus on in order to attract and sexually satisfy the kind of woman he really wants. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
Hello Mr. Wayne,
I am a young man in need of accepting who I am. (As long as you’re comfortable with you, the rest doesn’t matter.) It goes like this, and you’ll probably laugh, because I sure did at the irony and the effects of social media, as well as the porn industry. (That tells me you’re probably watching too much porn, and you definitely give a fuck what other people think about you. I did an article called, “What Other People Think Of You Is… Irrelevant,” where I discuss how all that matters is how you view yourself. When you don’t feel comfortable, a woman will sense that and won’t feel safe and comfortable with you letting you have your way with her.)
I am a young black male in the USA. I’ve been told by women that I am attractive, and I don’t think they’re full of shit, but hey, I’m not the best looking man in the world. (If you don’t view yourself as sexy, it will be hard for somebody else to think you’re sexy.) The thing is not that I have a problem getting women to go out with me initially, or spitting game or making that first genuine spark; its all Roscoe’s chicken and gravy until it comes to the bedroom. (You need to read my book 10-15 times, and learn the fundamentals of what I teach.) Now, I’m not hung like a race horse like some of my competition are, (If you read my book, you’d know you don’t have any competition, because most guys you encounter in life are 97 percenters, and they’re always going to be that way), and I don’t think that size or stroke skill should make up the bulk of a mans value, (You’re totally focused on your dick size. That’s your whole story); but I feel that as a black male in this generation, there are stereotypes that I can say, quite frankly, put me at odds with most of the attractive/hot, voluptuous women that like black men for that one stereotypical reason… being hung like a Motherfucker. (At the end of the day, you could be hung and not know how to fuck, and it wouldn’t matter. A vagina is four inches deep. If you are four inches long, you can maneuver yourself physically into a position where you have all access. It’s important to understand what stimulates a woman. Ask a woman what she likes, and do that.)
Now, I don’t have a micro, but damn, I ain’t gonna lie bro, I ain’t packin’ heat… at all. I’m tall, muscular, athletic, outgoing, kind and respectful. (You don’t believe in yourself, and you don’t know the fundamentals in my book, so your game is fucked. If you don’t know what’s in the book you won’t have an edge up on your competition. Look at my article and video, “How Men Can Have Multiple Orgasms,” and learn that also.) These are my pros. My cons are that I’m not hung like the “black man should be.” Literally, I think this is the only nail, in a multitude of nails, in my coffin per se. (You probably don’t ask enough women out, because this is your story.) When I was in high school, it got to me a little bit, but we all think we’re late bloomers. Shiiit let me tell you, what I have looks like it finished blooming waaaaay back. I wont go into too much detail about what I do, but it involves being face to face with people all day and my whole body is within view, including the infamous Dot candy cock print. I’m not bullshitting. The women I see at my job, more or less, are fucking beautiful, I always see them glance at my crotch, I am not joking, and it pains me when I see that, not because I don’t want their mouths on my yam, but because the thing is, it seems like, what they’re looking for when they see me will leave them very disappointed if I were to ever engage in any type of contact that would eventually lead to my favorite “sport” in the world. (You don’t sound like a guy who’s had a lot of sex. You’re not even in the game dude.) I’ve seen women glance at it while acting like I’m not paying attention, and one, I kid you not, laughed at my Dot cock print. (You’re not even trying. You miss 100% of the pitches you don’t swing at.) She straight up held her hand over her mouth. And if I was a hung dude watching this situation from the outside, you know what? I’d laugh my ass off too; just at the lack proportion… a tall, muscular, athletic black man with a Serrano pepper. FML.
I know my self-belittling sounds pathetic, but I’m amazed at how one thing, such as penis size, can potentially make or break a relationship before it even starts, (Again, more of your story coming out. You’re acting like an insecure, shy woman), especially when referring to black men, who have built up a reputation in porn for having contractible baseball bats. (Quit watching porn dude. Get out there and start making dates.) Because in any intimate relationship, sex will be an activity that either may want to participate in. I envy my competition. (At least they’re participating. You’re doing nothing.) Most women I’ve slept with who are also avid “players,” as I still get lucky sometimes, have ceased contact with me after the first bout. (Maybe it’s because you’re lousy in bed. Check out the Better Sex Video Series, get in touch with your body and learn how to use it.) Now, I don’t want to believe it is because of my size. I wasn’t an asshole to these women either, some of which were hot, and some okay. The one I was able to have sexual relations with the most, was an undocumented woman who, when compared to the multitude of women, would fall in the lower percentile of “attractiveness.” (That tells me you’re good with women you’re not into. Real women probably don’t stick around, because you get needy and clingy.) In my opinion she was okay, but even with her, she’d say I was big. She preferred black males. I’m definitely not her first or biggest, and when she’d tell me this, I’d think she was just trying to make me bone her brains out, which I did, but she knows I’m not big, and I know as well. I’m 5’ 5,” WEAAAAKKKK.
It is irritating though, that media can shape minds this way, to where a woman won’t even want see what you have to offer, (Your problem is not your dick size. It’s your mind. You don’t think you’re good enough, and you talk women out of liking and sleeping with you, because you don’t think you deserve to be there), excluding monetary, unless an initial physical approval is checked off the list. I’ve heard it from my own sister’s mouth, “No woman wants a small one.” I laughed and was angry at the same time. I can visually understand the utility of wielding a larger penis. It is difficult to perform the comfortable positions when you are focused on not having your gobstopper popping out, and I don’t mean the gobstoppers from the movie. Those were some jawbreakers, LOL. These droughts kill too, by the way. Like, I have to go bone a hooker instead, because to me, it seems like the standard to sleep with a woman who is not a hooker, but still loves having sex, is a standard I just don’t meet. And I see some of these “better” off dudes pull these women, (You just need to clean up you’re game. It has nothing to do with your dick size), and they’re straight assholes to them, sleeping around, etc. If I could have the hot, beautiful, voluptuous woman, and I was hung as well, with this mindset of course, I’d probably stick with her and enjoy the many bouts we’d have in the future without worry of not fulfilling my side of the “sport.” And I wouldn’t worry about her sleeping around on me because I couldn’t stimulate her well enough.
Please forgive my rant Mr. Wayne. I’m literally in limbo, and this very minute issue, no pun intended, is weighing me down, because I do want to find a beautiful woman to be with. However, at the same time, I don’t want to settle just because it’s all I can get. Do you have any non-clichéd advice? (Read my book 10-15 times, get out there and participate in life.)
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“Does size really matter to women? Some women will absolutely say yes and that they prefer a man who is long and wide. However, the reality is that most of a woman’s sexual nerve endings are on the outside of her body. The average size of a woman’s vagina is usually no deeper than four inches. Men who are, or who feel they are, physically challenged in the size department, need to learn how to properly stimulate a woman’s sexual nerve endings by focusing on “the little man in the boat,” and positioning their body and their woman’s body in such a way as to give her the maximum benefit of his full manhood. If size really mattered to women, there would be no lesbians.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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