Why asking a woman you work with or know, “what she thinks of dating” you is a bad way to ask for a date. It communicates “relationship, you’re mine, I want you to be my girlfriend, date me, let’s be an item, you can’t date anyone else, etc.” before she knows anything about you. Why this causes her to feel less free and back away while losing interest.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who brought up the topic of dating with a woman he worked with, instead of being direct and inviting her out for a drink. She said she doesn’t date people she works with. I give him a way to get his female coworkers to ask for his number and call him so he can set up dates.
“A woman’s attraction grows due to emotional connection that comes through time spent together having fun, her talking with you, laughing with you and generally feeling good with you. That makes her feel free, loved and accepted to be her sexy self. To open up to receive you emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. If you make her feel less free by seeking to possess her, control her, manipulate her or get her to commit to you before she feels ready, then she will seek to remove herself from your presence.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne