In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who is still in college. He has a female friend he met in class who is making it easy and obvious that she is into him. He shares how she contacts him first, asks him out on dates, reveals her interest and sometimes even tests him to see what he will do and how he will respond.
Recently after she contacted him, she suggested that they get together. They spent the afternoon together, and she kept asking him if he had a girlfriend. He was evasive at first, but then relented and told her he did not. When they were sitting together, he was looking at her lips. She told him that she was attracted to him. At that moment, he kissed her and she offered no resistance. A short time later, she said that she had to go and left. He is fearful that he may have done something wrong and turned her off. He asks my opinion.
I hope you are well. I’m writing you this because I’m very thankful for your book and for the YouTube videos you upload. You have taught me many things I didn’t know about women, and you’ve also changed my point of view about women.
About an hour ago, a friend of mine came over to my house. I met her at college. She sat in front of me and said, “Did you study?” talking about a test, and then I proceeded to ask her name, her age and things about her life. Then, at the next class, she tested me. (You don’t have to be in a rush. Be sure that if you are going to spend time with someone, you take the time to make sure they are enthusiastic about being with you.) She didn’t sit in front of me, but sat leaving a gap in front of me, and then went away and came back after a few minutes. I knew it was a test, so I didn’t sit in front of her the moment she entered the classroom. (It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. If you have choices with women, you will take time.) When she came back, I spoke to her, and she was very interested in my WhatsApp number. She asked me twice about it. (She wants to make sure that you don’t leave before she gets your number.) That night, she was chasing and texting me, so I just ignored her and gave her short answers to her questions. She offered to come to my place to hang out and also offered to hang out at the park in the future. (She’s giving you multiple options and making it easy for you to be in her life.) Well, she came over and we had a good time, we ate pizza, we watched anime, we listened to some music, etc., and I was gazing at her lips the whole time. She even fell into my shoulder. (Women put themselves into your orbit and expect you to do the rest.) She told me she was attracted to me because she felt good near me. (This is because she feels free. There is no pressure.) The moment she told me that, I went for the kiss. It was a short one, but SHE DIDN’T hesitate, and she let me do it. After the kiss she said, “Well, it’s late and I have to go.” I haven’t talked to her yet because I want her to think about me and think about the kiss, and I also want her to think of me as an enigmatic person. She asked me four or five times if I had a girlfriend, and at first I didn’t tell her, but in the end I told her that I don’t have one. (You want to be playful about it, but you also don’t want to be evasive about it like you’re covering something up.) She also sent a friend request to me on Facebook, but I haven’t accepted her yet. (Take your time.) The thing is, she felt very confused when I kissed her, like she was angry or something. Where did I go wrong Corey? (Maybe it was something you said, but I wouldn’t worry about it at all. I don’t see anywhere in your email that you did something wrong. Just see how she is in class and say, “Call me later.” The next time she reaches out, make a date.)
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“When it comes to pickup, sex, dating and relationships, it will always be easier and more effortless to make sure you only date people who seem to reciprocate a high level of attraction and interest in you from the start. The higher your attraction is for someone when their attraction for you is lower, the harder you will have to work to keep the conversation going, get them to accept date invitations and escalate things sexually. Most people have seen way too many movies where one person wants someone who is unavailable, taken, indifferent or simply disinterested, and throughout the course of the movie they are able to attract this person and create interest with extravagant gifts, dates or outrageous stories and lies. This is fantasy, not what dating and attraction are really like in the real world. Set a minimum quality standard for yourself that you will only date and ask out potential lovers who are excited to talk with you, very friendly, reciprocate interest & curiosity, and who enthusiastically accept your date initiations.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne