Excessive Contact Guarantees Rejection

Apr 7, 2012 by Coach Corey Wayne

Here’s why excessive phone/text/email/etc. contact and hesitation or indecisiveness with women guarantees rejection. You must pull the trigger and go for what you want with women, not dance around in circles for several days displaying indecisiveness, weakness and timidity. This turns women off and makes them perceive you as being weak, and therefore unworthy. It’s definitely NOT dominant alpha male behavior. Alpha males go for what they want as soon as the opportunity is presented. They don’t dick around. They get straight to the point. Women love this! Women love a guy who is honest, sincere and speaks from his heart without hesitation. Most men are not like this. Most men are intimidated by women in general, and especially beautiful women they desire. Women are attracted to men who display dominant male behavior. Act indecisive, get rejected. Act confident. Be direct. Ask for what you want. Get laid. Most women will turn you down at first, because if you’re like most guys who are just finding out about my work, you simply don’t yet know how to tell the difference between women you have a chance with, and ones you don’t. You must PRACTICE what I teach. It’s the only way to build your skills, success and sensory acuity. Sensory acuity is essential to have developed within yourself through your successes with women… and… your failures as well, in order to read/feel/understand women to the point that they literally say, “I feel like you can always read my mind.” Once you master what I teach and learn to understand women, you will hear that all the time from your lovers. All (normal and emotionally healthy) women respond to the same romantic stimuli no matter where they are from. Cultural, religious and state institutions in some countries legally and physically prevent women from acting upon, or responding publicly to what they feel and in the ways I discuss, but, the heart wants what the heart wants. They’ll find a way around it when their romantic interest is high enough, even if it costs them their lives to be with their hearts desire. The state and other men should not interfere in the intimate relations of men and women. The following is an email from a reader. He completely missed a great opportunity to get laid by hesitating, displaying weakness and excessively contacting her after his initial failure to capitalize on her suggestion that he should invite her to his place. This is a great article to teach you the art of seduction, how to immediately capitalize on sex opportunities and getting laid the same day you have a great connection with/or meet a woman. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his email:

Hi Corey,

As always, I appreciate your insight and recommend your book to my friends. (I appreciate the referrals! You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) Recently, a woman I play soccer with has shown an interest in me displaying the sort of behavior which I would say put her in the 50-60% range. We would sit and talk between games. She would do most of the talking… talking like “I was watching the game and it was so blah blah blah and you would have loved watching it too! Oh you climb stairs to get in shape… ha ha, I’m gonna have to come over to your place and show you up! (Translation: “You should invite me over to your place. I feel very safe and comfortable with you. I hope you are smart enough to create an opportunity for sex to happen at your place tonight.” I would have said, “Hey, why don’t we run across/down the street to the grocery store, get some wine and pick out something healthy we can cook together at my place and chill?” If she said, she’d want to shower and change first say, “Well, let’s take our smelly asses over to the grocery store first, get the provisions, and then you can run back to your place and freshen up if you must, or you can take a shower at my place and I can give you some of my extra sweatpants, t-shirt & socks. I got plenty of comfortable things you can wear so we can take it easy and just chill after a hard day of practice.” You got to pay attention to what a woman says, BE DIRECT and BE OBSERVANT AT ALL TIMES!!! That was a total missed opportunity to move the good time and connection you were having from the soccer field, back to your place with some sex later in your bed. If you played your cards right, she would have probably been more touchy-feeley in the grocery store as you playfully tease each other and shop down the isles. Maybe, as she was standing too close making body contact as you stand together in the checkout line, you could have looked at her lips while standing in the checkout line while placing your hand on her lower back. Then you could have looked into her eyes, then down at her lips, back into her eyes again, then back to her lips and finally into her eyes again. If she was ready to be kissed at that point in the evening, she would have also looked at your lips at some point when your eyes were looking back and forth slowly between her eyes/lips during conversation, when she’s so close she’s bumping into you; her leaning into or against you is a sign touching is ok in the present moment ONLY, and that she likes being close to you RIGHT THEN ONLY. Then you just lean in for a nice sweet kiss, the first of many. This is also important to watch CONSTANTLY regarding when touching is ok and when it’s not: if she backs away physically a little bit, let her go. That’s a subtle safety and comfort test. She’ll come back when she feels comfortable again. It will fluctuate constantly during the evening. IF you’re really good, like me, you’d be fucking in the kitchen after about 20-30 minutes upon arriving at your place. It’s simply a matter of slowly escalating touching and passionate kissing. It’s like the salsa dance. Teasing and checking each other out at practice… moves to the grocery store with a little bit of touching, then to your kitchen with a lot more touching, petting and kissing… then to full on sex. You keep slowly pushing and escalating things. When she stops you, you can back off a little bit for a few minutes, chat some more, and then take another run at her in a few minutes. Advance until you get rebuffed. Back off for a few minutes, then advance until you are rebuffed again… rinse, recycle, repeat. Until… you SCORE!!! It’s a back and forth mating dance that leads to penetration once you display constant worthiness as a dominate male. Women mate with the most dominant males. Then, maybe, you continue on with cooking dinner NAKED. A little while later, as you feed each other and enjoy dinner in your living room, The General stands at attention once again… ROUND 2… get it boy!) yada yada yada”

Anyways, after a couple of bantering text messages back and forth over the space of say two-three days, one-two messages per day, I ask her out… this is on Tuesday. (When you contact a woman, she knows it’s BECAUSE you like her. When you dick around, beat around the bush and hesitate, you get rejected for acting weak. The only time you contact a woman is to invite her to meet you out for a drink at first, and then to set up subsequent dates afterwards. The more you talk on the phone and beat around the bush, the greater the chance you say something stupid, or reveal weakness that gets you rejected.) She was busy, so I said “ok we’ll do it another time.” (That was perfect, the take away. She offered no counter offer day for a date, this reveals low interest because you lowered it by failing to be direct on multiple occasions.) Well, I called her one other time, on Thursday, (My book says to wait a week for a second try. Not two days. I would have texted her instead. It’s easier and allows her to contact you back when it’s convenient for her. She may take her time to get back to you when she’s purposely testing you because you’ve acted weak. That’s why I tell everyone to read my book 10-15 times. You’re making too many unnecessary mistakes because you don’t know the material well enough.) and I get no answer… I do not leave a v-mail… and I get no response back. I know what this means, (You’re out!) but I cannot figure it out??? Today we saw each other at the game… I smiled at her, but that was it… I know any further signs of interest from my end will only serve to bury me, LOL. (Don’t be a cold fish) The only thing that makes any sense is that I could have been contacting her too much? (Yep, and you hesitated and failed to be direct.) What are your thoughts? Am I screwed? (It appears you blew it. Do nothing, be cool and friendly with her, don’t bring up getting together or anything. Only ask her out again IF SHE BRINGS IT UP or getting together. The only thing you can do is keep practicing your skills to get better ON OTHER WOMEN. She may have had a boyfriend or another guy she was kind of seeing. You were pushing her buttons and had a real good chance to get laid after practice when she mentioned coming to your place to “show you up.”)

Tom

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