The importance of executing your own grand vision for your life, resisting the influence of others and using laser-like focus when responding to other people who attempt to hijack and alter your success, life, resources and trajectory for their own purposes.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a fifty-three year old viewer who thinks I should be altering my life, purpose, plans and vision to achieve a grand vision he thinks I should be focused on. He has good intentions and seeks to make a positive difference in a world that seems obsessed with the wussification of men to make them more feminine, compliant and less masculine, in order to conform to societal conditioning.
This dysfunctional societal conditioning is actually destructive to the freedom, creativity, independence, self-confidence, self-reliance and dreams of men and women everywhere. I explain my grand vision for my life and why he should focus on creating his own, the importance of personal focus and why he should not be trying to hijack the success of other people, and what he really should be focusing on instead. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I found you through YouTube and immediately understood the value in your approach. I’m 53 and dating, was doing okay, but realized I had issues with pursuit. Anyway, that’s my little blurb and not the intent of this email.
I have an idea for you. Most of the guys that write to you are younger and they all seem to have the same basic issues. (I don’t agree with that, because I coach a lot of women and also men of all ages who are trying to get it right and better themselves. I would say the median age of people I coach are between 30 and 50 years old.) It’s amusing to follow along and see how far some of them make it through “the maze” before they fuck up and get needy. Have you ever wondered why all guys do this? (This is not a mystery for me. Being a life coach, you have to understand what motivates people to do what they do. People will do more to avoid pain than they’ll do to gain pleasure. Most people, instead of moving towards their dream, move towards things that feel comfortable, things that will give them instant gratification, and things they feel are less risky than going after what they really want. Deep down people have two primary fears, fear they won’t get what they want and fear they won’t be loved, and that’s what drives people. People who become successful in life and achieve their goals and dreams have emotionally compelling reasons why.) You allude to modern movies and social themes, which is correct, but it goes deeper than that. I read a book called “The Trouble With Boys,” by Per Tyre, and she spells out in detail, with back up data, exactly what the problem is, which is basically the pussification of boys starting in grade school. (You can see this in our culture and I talk about this all the time regarding people in movies and on TV. They portray guys who act like women and women tend to act like men, and that screws up the sexual polarity. That is the influence of the feminist movement.) After watching your stuff, I started thinking, a lot, as it’s an upside of ADHD, about how this problem might be addressed. (Kids tend to eat too much sugar and carbohydrates, which sometimes makes them hyperactive. Our bodies fill up with toxins over the process of our life. I am a big advocate of what Dr. Young teaches regarding balancing out the acid ash that is left behind after our bodies metabolize carbohydrates and sugar with alkaline food in our diets.) I have a 9-year old son in grade school, so I see firsthand the stuff boys must endure just as Peg Tyre talks about. It is sickening how boys are being made to act like girls so the teacher’s job is easier. The boys that don’t conform are labeled as such, and then the parent conferences begin, which tend to end up with an “independent evaluation” with a diagnosis of ADD and a suggested drug regimen. (That’s where you as a father, by learning the things I teach, can in turn influence your son on how to operate like a male in society. You might want to look at his diet as well.)
So here’s the idea: Coach Corey Wayne taps the intelligence of people he associates with, Tony Robbins types, and he teams up with the Peg Tyre types to come up with a program that teaches these boys and their parents how to start their boys on the path of being 3% men before they actually are. It would be a “mini me” version of what you already do. It could be something that grows to the point of holding education seminars for teachers and administrators to curb the trends in Peg’s book. (Well, you’re making a lot of assumptions about my life, my purpose and what I’m all about. I don’t have any desire to become involved in seminars. I love the business model I have. It’s perfectly aligned with my personality and the way I like to teach. This is your idea and your vision. Why don’t you go do that? Master the things that I teach, because you have a child who could benefit from learning these things.) However, the main focus would be workshops for the boys that the parents could take them to, where they can learn “survival skills” to operate within the fucked systematic emasculation of boys. (When you understand truth, it cuts through all the bullshit. If you could teach your son the truths you’re learning from me, it won’t matter what the people at school teach your son. He’ll see through the bullshit.) This is an idea that needs refining, but I think with the contacts you have, you could take it from rough form to realization. (This is obviously something you care about, so you would be the better person to do it. You should figure out how you could put together a program, and come up with your own plan based on the things you’re learning from me and the other author.) The satisfaction of guiding these boys thru the BS system with their manhood intact would be equal to the financial return. (This is your compelling reason to do this, not mine. You should be thinking of how to formulate a plan you can execute with your own resources.) You could even set up franchise outlets, like Sylvan learning centers, or make the program a “plug-in” for existing franchised learning centers. There are a lot of possibilities. Of course you would need a different slogan than “Rock Out With your Cock Out,” LOL.
P.S. I’m not associated with Peg Tyre, and I’m not looking for a piece of the action. Her book is an easy read, and she is fairly accessible, as I have emailed her previously to get further insight to help with single parenting my son with an ex who, of all things, is a teacher and the epitome of the trouble with boys.
Keep up the good work you do with the rest of us and give this some thought. (This is a great vision for you, but not something I’m interested in. Instead of trying to get other people to do this for you, come up with a reason to do this yourself, because this is something you’re passionate about.)
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“The more successful you become, the more money you have and the greater your personal prosperity becomes, the more you’ll be approached by people who are envious of what you have, want what you have and who seek to influence, control and hijack your life and resources to meet their own needs. In order to resist the influence of others who use guilt, shame, manipulation and deception to exert their influence over your thoughts and life, knowledge of and mastery of oneself is most important. When you know what you want, you have emotionally compelling reasons why you want what you want and are laser focused on making it a reality, you’ll be able to resist, repel and redirect the unwanted, unwarranted and uninvited self interests of people who have ulterior motives.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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