How to keep yourself focused when you know what you want and where you are going, but life seems to keep bringing you situations that test your resolve to take action and stay in a peaceful, optimistic, resourceful and hopeful state. Why learning to use fear as a tool and motivator instead of being hijacked by it is one of the most useful skills you can develop for success within yourself and your belief systems.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss five different emails from five different viewers. Four of them are men who are getting hijacked by their fears. This causes them to become un-centered and take actions based upon fear of loss and their limiting beliefs.
I also answer a question from a woman whose ex is locked in a legal dispute with her over an expensive home they built together using mostly her money. He has confiscated all of her belongings including some of her sons claiming they are his. She wonders why he acts this way and accuses her of stalking him even though she is engaged to another man. He is still dating the woman who he was cheating on her with that led to their breakup.
“Fear does not exist anywhere except in the mind. Human beings have two primary fears: 1) Fear they don’t have what it takes 2) Fear that they won’t be loved. Your ability to be successful, stay focused and take consistent action to achieve your dreams is directly proportional to your ability to use fear as a motivator to take the desired action, instead of letting fear hijack you into taking no action at all or taking action based upon avoiding what you fear. Action taken upon avoiding fear actually makes what you fear happen. Since people will do more to avoid pain than they will do to gain pleasure, learn to use fear as a tool & motivator by consistently asking yourself these three questions: 1) What will this cost me down the road if I fail to take the proper action I know I need to take? 2) What are the painful consequences of not doing what I know I need to do right now? 3) What are the positive & pleasurable outcomes I will achieve by taking the action I know I need to take right now?” ~ Coach Corey Wayne