First Rate Pussy Is The Best Way To Get Over A Breakup!

Why first rate pussy is the best way to get over a breakup.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a viewer who studied my work for several years before having the courage to apply it to help him get over a breakup with his ex who moved in with her new boyfriend down the street from him shortly after they broke up.

He shares how he attracted a new woman who is everything on his list of ideal qualities and how seeing his ex drive by no longer triggers or bothers him. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

The topic of today’s Members Only newsletter is inspired by something that Donald J. Trump said, First Rate Pussy Is The Best Way To Get Over A Breakup!

It’s kind of a success story of a guy who has been following me for about four years. He read the book a bunch, but like a lot of guys, he was kind of already in the situation where he’s emotionally invested, and it was just hard for him to exercise emotional self-control and do the right thing. Eventually he ends up breaking up with this particular girl that he was with, so he’s really suffering to get over the breakup. Then literally days or few weeks after they broke up, the ex is already Facebook official with some new guy. On top of that, she moves down the down the street, so you can imagine he walks out, goes to work in the morning or whatever, and who does he see driving down the street often? His ex. Probably sometimes he sees his ex with her new man, literally lives down the street. Maybe she did that to troll him. Maybe there was a good deal in a place, a rental place or something down the street, but you can imagine you’re trying to get over a breakup and your girl moves in with the guy literally down the street from you.

There is a happy ending in all of this, because I know a lot of guys that come to me, probably 70%, 80% of them are in some kind of similar situation to this where they’re in a breakup or they were dating a girl that they really liked and then it went sideways and they’re hoping to get another shot with her or they got served divorce papers. Whatever it happens to be, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Viewer Email:

I have a success story and have you to thank for it. I have written a few times and never got a response, but this time I just wanted to reach out to give my sincerest thank you.

Well, I always appreciate the emails. Obviously we can’t answer every single one of them that we send in, but the good ones or they have an interesting story or interesting take and they’re well written, obviously those will make it.

Things have changed drastically for me in all aspects of life. I am happier in my personal life, career, mentally and physically.

I want to tell you how I came across your work. Back in August 2021, I had a girlfriend I wasn’t really happy with and decided to take a break. Out of the blue, another ex had reached out and I was ecstatic about it.

I assume probably more than likely in the past, this guy was used to being the one that got dumped. In other words, he was always the dumpee and not the dumper. So that would make sense of why he was happy that an old ex came back after this particular relationship he was talking about didn’t work out because even though it was an ex, he’s recycling her. It’s kind of like heating up leftovers. It is helpful. The best medicine when you’ve had a breakup or rejection is a new girl, or in this case, sometimes an old girl or an old ex that takes your mind off of things. As Trump said, “There’s nothing like first rate pussy in the world.”

Within a month, I was over-pursuing and being a bitch and pushed her out of my life. Unfortunately, I found your work too late for that particular one. I read the book for free a few times then started listening to the audio-book once a week for countless weeks. By this point, into the 30s or 40s or maybe even 50s.

So he’s claiming he’s listened to it 40 or 50 times. It’s great that you listen to it a lot, but the most important thing about the book is you got to apply it, because the idea is you got to see the things that are in the book happening in your own life and the lives of other people that you may be observing. Friends, family, or maybe you’re just out with some buddies having a few beers on a Friday night, and you’re just kind of watching the dudes making their approaches to the cute single girls that are out and watch them go down in flames. That’s always amusing. You can read body language and noticing things they are doing and saying can be really helpful.

The one I wasn’t that happy with reached out eventually too and we started seeing each other and hanging out having fun and hooking up. Things went well for a while, BUT I believe her to have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).

Well, that can definitely be difficult.

Unfortunately, with these types of women they have an insatiable appetite and nothing is ever good enough in the long run.

Well, obviously this particular person was just not happy. Yeah, it’s much better to get to a happy place yourself and then attract somebody who’s also in a happy place, because if you’re miserable, like attracts like. You’ll probably attract somebody else who is miserable, and thinking that two miserable people are going to arrive at a happy place together is kind of a recipe for a shit sandwich.

We went through our ups and down over time and in November of 2023 I couldn’t do it anymore. I called it off around our 3rd anniversary. It was a case of me knowing the material and just not applying it.

We continued to sleep together and see each other and eventually she found someone else.

So they were kind of friends of benefits, it sounds like.

The kicker is she came and fucked me one last time in May 2024 and the last thing she said to me was, ” You are going to be mad soon.” I said, “I will see you later.” I never messaged her again after that day. Four days later, she was in a Facebook relationship, and a month and a half after that, they moved in together right down the street.

Well, that makes things interesting, huh? “Hello, neighbor. Won’t you be my neighbor?” How many of you are familiar with Mr. Rogers? For us older, older dudes, “Won’t you be my neighbor? Hi, neighbor! Oh shit, that’s my crazy ex with BPD! Well, this will be interesting.”

It was tough mentally at first, I had a really hard time.

Yeah, because in the situation he was in, they weren’t together. They were friends with benefits. So he assumed it was just going to continue while he continued to look for somebody else and then all of a sudden, that’s probably why she said, “You’re going to be mad real soon.” I guess that was probably why she wanted to have one last lay before she committed to the new guy as a parting gift. “Thanks for the chocha!”

I committed to getting back into the work and have been listening once every week or two again for months.

Well, whatever you observe, you participate in.

When I was ready to date, I got back on the horse this time equipped with all the tools necessary. Met an amazing woman that was literally everything on my list I created. I am a Canadian and she is an immigrant from Nigeria. I remember our first date back in September. She was bumping into me asking questions and we were sitting in her car and I said, “You should just get it over with and kiss me.”

That’s like, literally right out of the book.

She said, “I will give you a hug.” I said, “Suit yourself…”

So it showed he was totally unattached, was unbothered, he could take it, he could leave it, he was indifferent.

…And hugged her for about three seconds and pulled away. After that she said, “OK, just one kiss.” Then it was another and another and another. 

It’s kind of how women often will submit to you. “OK, just one kiss. OK well, I’ll stay for another hour. Just one more drink. OK well at 1:00 a.m., I’m definitely going to have to go home. I got to get up early.” The next day, she wakes up, “Ahh OK. I think I’m gonna call in sick to work.” Indoor Olympics, rinse, recycle, repeat.

After about five or six weeks of hanging out, she asked me, “How many women are you talking to?” I said, “Oh, all kinds, but none of them are as awesome as you are.”

That’s a good comeback.

The next day, I got the “What are we?” Talk. I have kept it cool, always level headed and never upset or angry with her.

Indifference is the difference that makes the difference, but sometimes you got to gurgle and growl a little bit. Kind of like a lion does when his balls are getting poked and tweaked a little too much. He’s like, “Hey, don’t fuck with the chicken bag.“

If I have a problem, I bring it up and we talk about it. If I can tell something is troubling her, I dig until I can pull it out of her and make her feel better. This is by far the most adult relationship I have ever been in, all thanks to you!

Well, it really helps to be easygoing, easy to get along with and have a woman who can be calm as well, instead of a hot head or a woman who is always trolling you, creating drama and just being a pain-in-the-ass. Not everybody can be as chill as Rocky. Right, buddy?

Today was a big day. I left the house at 5:30 a.m. to go to work and since it is January in Canada, it is cold.

Yep, definitely got shrinkage problems.

I walked out, and who did I see drive by? The ex that lives up the street. It used to bother me when I’d see her or her car and would mentally fuck me for days or weeks.

Like Donald Trump said, “There’s nothing in the world like first rate pussy.“

This time, nothing! I feel empowered and bullet proof.

I realize this is a touch long winded and probably won’t be made into a success story video but, that isn’t the point. I continue to listen to the audio-book, listened to the episodes on Spotify you have. I have gotten a few heart comments and have donated on the YouTube page a few times (I am due again soon. Sorry it’s Canadian dollars and not worth much).

Well, we always appreciate the super thanks and all the love and all the cash flow flowing. It’s much appreciated. Got bills to pay like everybody else, and pretty soon we’re going to have at least four, maybe five puppies with Ocean. She’s not a happy camper right now. She’s got about 10, 12 days before she’s going to be popping those babies out. You can tell she doesn’t feel that great. Plus, the babies are kicking in her belly. Like, I got my hand on them right now and they’re moving around in there. Pretty crazy.

I have tried to show your work to so many people, but not one wants to do the work it takes to change.

Yep, pretty much. I had that experience when I learned this stuff, trying to teach every guy I knew and like 99% of them, they didn’t care. “I’m busy. I’ll get around to that. Yeah, I got to look at that book.” Then once I’ve written a book, “Oh yeah, I’m going to get around to that,” and they just don’t because again, most people major in minor things. So give it to people who will appreciate it and who will actually take action.

Ideally, you give it to people who say what they mean and mean what they say. Not people that are constantly, “I’m going to do this. I’m going to do that. I’m going to lose weight. I’m going to go back to school. I’m going to start a business. I’m going to quit that shitty job. I’m going to find a better job,” and they never do it.

I have done so much to improve myself. Working out several times a week (Down 30 pounds and gaining muscle), eating better, drinking green juice, have stopped smoking pot and drinking, which was out of control.

Well, if you’re unable to restrain yourself and do things in moderation, it’s probably more often than not better that you just simply abstain.

Thank you for helping me get my life back. I am truly the happiest I have been in my adult life and I am almost 41. I say it time and again, COACH WAYNE IS THE MAYNE!

Bob

Well, I appreciate the new slogan. It just goes to show that’s not easy. You imagine? I mean, they had split up and they were just friends with benefits, but he probably wasn’t ready for it to end. Then all of a sudden, to end so quickly and like, “I was just all up inside you, and four days later, you’re Facebook official with some other dude, and then you’re moving down the street from me.” That’s got to be a massive troll. I mean, what did she say to him? “You’re going to be mad soon.” I mean, she literally said that to him. Some women are just evil. Like I said, the best medicine, the best revenge is success. It’s a dish best served cold. So there’s going to come a day where he’s going to be probably strolling down his driveway with his new cute girl from Nigeria, they’re going to be all over each other and the ex is going to be driving down the street and she’s going to notice. It’s very satisfying.

We were talking it about yesterday. We were filming an episode of the 3% Man Study Group, and we were talking about the situation that I had with a girlfriend of mine that I was trying to get her to a point where she was my girlfriend, but I had fucked up and it was kind of not really going anywhere. She was too available or too unavailable, I should say, wasn’t willing to make dates and wasn’t really going anywhere because I had made too many mistakes. Then I run into another girl that I had screwed up with about three years before and ran into her. Then we went out on a date and it was like everything was completely brand new because I had completely changed. I had completely grown from the guy I was when I was with her just three years before.

Needless to say, she was into me, she was all over me. We’re on our way back to my car, to go back to my place, and then we run into this woman and her husband, who is actually the boss of the other girl. That kind of wasn’t going anywhere. I just remember I could see it right now in my mind’s eye. This was 25 years ago that this happened. Just the way she looked at me with this shit eating grin on her face, looking at me, looking at my hot date, looking at me again and looking at my hot date, and you could just tell the wheels are turning and she’s going, “Oh, I can’t wait to tell so-and-so that I ran into you with this beautiful girl who was definitely first rate pussy,” who was next to me. Sure enough, the very next day, I don’t know, 9:30, 9:45, I’m driving to the office, phone rings. It’s the girl that couldn’t find time in her schedule for me. Yet she’s calling me, telling me that I need to make sure I consider all the possibilities that I have before I get serious with anybody else. In other words, “Hey, don’t get serious with that other hot girl that you’re with. I heard how beautiful she was,” because her boss went out of her way to tell her how gorgeous she was, which she was. She looked like fucking Cindy Crawford, at least to me. I was like, blown away, we had a good time, but it changed things for the better and that particular girl had broken up like a month before I went out with her and unbeknownst to me, when she went home that night, her ex-boyfriend was sitting on the doorstep waiting for her, and they ended up getting back together and riding off into the sunset.

Last I heard, they were living happily ever after, but by that point, I was over it because I had been crushed three years before when I screwed up and chased her out of my life. Here the night before, I got to redeem myself and have a great time with her. Then we run into this other girl’s boss and that just completely changed the dynamic and the girl at the time I was really in love with. So she and I rode off into the sunset together, and this other girl rode off into the sunset together with her ex-boyfriend and they had a family and lived happily ever after, last I heard.

It’s kind of magical how life tends to work out like that. It’s why you got to keep moving forward. You got to put one foot in front of the other. Keep moving towards your destination, even when it sucks, even when it doesn’t feel like it, even when you walk out of your house and you see your ex driving down the street with her new man because she moved in a few doors down from you just to kind of give you the middle finger. That’s why she said, “You’re going to be mad soon.” She probably knew then that they were going to be moving in together and moving in right down the street from this poor guy, but better always comes. That’s why with enough time, enough repetition and new first rate pussy completely changes your attitude.

So, if you’ve got a question or a challenge and you’d like to get my help, go to UnderstandingRelationships.com, click the Products tab at the top of your screen on any page, and book a coaching session with yours truly. Until next time, I will talk to you soon.