Why freedom is the key to love and attraction and why seeking to control the other person, how they act, how they dress, who they talk to, what they do, etc., is the quickest way to cause them to no longer want to be a part of your life.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is acting like a control freak. He’s getting upset with how a woman he is dating dresses. He is upset that she is not acting like he expects. She defies him and dresses and acts like she wants. He asks what he should do.
“When we seek to control another person, we are really doing so out of our own desire to gain structure and certainty about ourselves. It is simply a projection of our own feelings of inadequacy and lack onto another person. If they do what we want, we feel secure in ourselves. If they don’t, it simply reminds us of how out of control and insecure we feel about ourselves. The true path to love and successful relationships is freedom. When we feel free to love and accept ourselves, we feel free to love another as they are without trying to change them or make them into what we think they should be. True love is about two complete people sharing their completeness, not completing each other.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne