How to go from not having a date in over a year or more to having your choice with women. Being successful with women has as much to do with avoiding the mistakes most guys make that turn women off, as it does with doing the right things that causes women’s sexual attraction for you to grow.
It’s really fun to go from struggling to simply get past a first date with most women so you can get a second date, to having your choice with women. When you start to interact with women in the ways that I talk about, you’ll automatically set yourself apart from 97% of the other men who are approaching and failing with women. The following is an e-mail from a reader who has recently found my work and started to see some success with women. He went from not having a date in about a year to dating two different women. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
Thanks for all you do man. It’s really helped me a ton! I’ve gone from not having a date for about a year to having a very large choice of women. I used to never get past the first date either, that’s all changed. My situation currently is that I’m seeing two girls. I really like both of them. One of them I’ve been seeing for about a month and the other I’ve only gone out with once. The one I had just met, we have that connection you talk about where you could “cut the tension/chemistry with a knife.”
She brings out the kid in me and I will naturally do the stupidest stuff when I was with her, and she’ll do it too! Just like a couple of children. I was actually freaking out after taking her out the first time because the connection was so strong, and I feel like I can do anything around this girl. I was scared to call her, even though I knew she felt it too!
Luckily, the day after she sent the “I had a great time” text, so I used that opportunity to call her up and plan another date, (Very smart! Textbook! That’s the way to do it. Good job! Plus, it starts to condition her to reach out to you more and you’ll set dates when she does.) which she made it VERY easy for me. (Women help you the more they like you. The lower their interest, the harder they will make it for you to date them.) She basically would clear her schedule! =) But, I’m trying to take it with a grain of salt – which brings me to my question.
My main question is about the other one. Now you might say just get rid of her, but I do want to keep seeing her because I really like some things about her as well and I’m hoping there’s a way to open her up. It might be pointless though, because the connection with the other girl seems so strong. It started off pretty weird and slow and then sped up. This girl is majorly old-fashioned when it comes to the physical. She has a lot of rules. I’m somewhat OK with that, really. (You are submitting to her will in hopes that she will like you and let you sleep with her. This is approval seeking and feminine behavior.)
She told me the other day that she’s “not there yet emotionally” on the kissing\holding hands and such. She had given me one of the worst kisses I’ve ever had and later told me that she really did not want to kiss me, but not because she did not want to, just that she’s not ready emotionally for that yet. (She’s not being authentic because you are still acting too feminine which makes her uncomfortable.) It was weird closed mouth, and it felt like she was trying to push her head through mine. Also, when I’ve held hands with her and I let go, after a few minutes SHE would grab my hand again. (That is a good sign of interest.)
She’s not using me for anything, (Why bring it up then?) as we’ll hang out at her place and she’ll cook me stuff. I’m really considering telling her I think her plan is great, (That would be a mistake and only cause you to become a male girlfriend. You are submitting to her. You’re the one with the penis!) and pulling ANY kind of physical intimacy away from her; cuddle, hugs, etc – the stuff she seems fine with for some reason, and see if she comes around. (You’re either acting too feminine, pliable and submissive or she’s simply fucked up.) I stick with your plan of seeing her once a week and I do not contact her during the week. She’s brought this up being like she wants to talk during the week and I told her that she can try to contact me if she wants, but I’m not calling her in between dates. (That is a bad way to phrase it. Makes it sound like you’re playing games with her instead of being authentic.)
Any advice for opening this girl up, or is it pointless? I know from one of her friends that she’s dated a lot of complete jerks that treated her bad and she got hurt. She tends to really fall hard for guys after anything physical starts. She also told me that she is really into me, she’s just like this though. (Pay attention to what a woman does, not what she says. You’re making excuses for how she’s acting.)
Oh, I did let her know also that we are just dating and it’s OK for me and her to see other people – she agreed. (You definitely need to date other women so you have more women to practice your skills of seduction on. I personally would never go out again with a woman who is a lousy kisser, or a woman who is robotic and has tons of rules. She’ll probably suck in bed also. I would not call her at all. Wait to hear from her and then make another date if she does call.
Why? It will cause her to want you more if she likes you as much as she says. She sounds like a lousy date and not really worth your time. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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