How you can go from being at rock bottom after a breakup to being more successful than ever before and at the top of your game personally and professionally.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a guy who says he hit rock bottom after he broke up with his ex girlfriend. After they almost broke up in January of last year, he found my work and was able to turn things around before it was too late. However, after several months he got complacent and stopped dating and courting her properly once again. This time she broke up with him after lining up his replacement while they were still together, thereby cheating on him.
A year later he is doing better than ever. He has lots of choices and options with women, he’s making great deals, money is flowing in and he’s in the best shape of his life. He details what he did to turn things around and shares his success in hopes it will inspire other guys who are struggling to get over a breakup. Oh, and his cheating ex? She is still trying to get him back and get another chance, even though at this point, he has zero interest in taking back a liar and a cheater. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
What’s up? How are you doing? I hope you are having the best time of your life, because you fucking deserve it.
I am Bob, and I am 22 years old. I found out about your work when my relationship was about to break up last year in January. My girl was getting distant and cold because I was insecure and needy. When I realized my mistakes with your help, I changed my behavior and my girl got all warm and loving in no time. It worked like magic. I said, “This bald guy really knows his shit!”
(I might not always be right, but I’m never wrong.)
But then I got complacent. I thought I had it all. I didn’t court my girl, I didn’t take her out and give her the attention and love she needed, I didn’t support her when she needed me most, and when she started backing away, I started chasing, acting all needy and desperate again.
(So you didn’t read the book 10-15 times. You read it enough, you cherry picked some information, you did the right things and you got her back, but because you really didn’t own it, things went sideways.)
The relationship was rocky for about 3 months, and then she dumped me. After about 2 months, I heard she had a guy in the background she met at a party, they texted for a while when we were together, and when things went sideways with me, she started dating him.
(A lot of women are like this. When things aren’t going well, and they don’t think it’s going to work out, they start talking to other guys and lining them up, because the thought of being alone and having nobody is just too horrible.)
I was desperate, but I knew that I will not ever forgive her, because any form of cheating means the end for me.
(So from that perspective, it was actually a good thing you delayed learning the material, but eventually you would have figured it out anyway.)
So then I realized I had to get my shit together, and during the breakup I had lost my confidence, my purpose and my drive.
(That right there is what a man is all about, purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, breaking through barriers, overcoming challenges, being courageous and taking risks. That’s the definition of masculinity.)
In that state, no one wanted to talk to me, especially not the hot girls that I wanted. So I started making my life great again.
I started working out harder than ever before. My progress in the gym was outstanding, and after about 2 months of training, my friends didn’t even recognize me.
(Nice job dude. When you focus on those little details, it all pays off.)
I devoted more time to my private business, and it started growing fast. I made great deals and money started coming from all sides.
(You are totally in your masculinity now, living and breathing the alpha male lifestyle.)
Every day I woke up determined to accomplish my goals, and day-by-day I became a better version of myself.
(The goal is just to try to get a little better each and every day.)
Soon the girls started showing up more and more. My phone was blowing up from Instagram and Facebook messages and requests. I got almost 100 requests and 30 messages every day, and those were coming from girls that I thought I would never have a chance to talk to in my life. Smoking hot women who are even 5 to 10 years older than me wanted to have me no matter the cost. It was just insane! And all I was doing was living my own life and chasing my dreams.
(Well, if you’re very active on social media and you’re posting pictures of all the great adventures you’re having, people are going to take notice of that.)
Of course my ex has reached out a few times, but I really didn’t want to have anything to do with her since she cheated on me.
(Amen dude. It takes a lot of balls to do that. A lot of guys would say, “Well, it was just the one time. If I hadn’t been screwing up, she never would have cheated.” But with a cheater and a liar, that’s the way they think. That’s just the way they operate. They don’t place any value on loyalty or commitment. They tend to be more selfish and narcissistic. It’s a bad way to go.)
I was done with her. She couldn’t quite take it, and her friends were stalking me and telling her about the hot girls I was dating, but I really didn’t care if she found out or not. I deserved to live my life to the fullest, not to give it all to someone who cheats and lies.
(It’s your birthright to be awesome. If you do the work, the results will come.)
So, I just want to thank you coach! You are the man! Your work has helped me a lot and made me live my life like I always dreamed!
I hope you share this in your video newsletter so other guys that are going through a breakup can see that it is not the end of the world, and that there is utopia for us guys if we just make the right moves and become the 3% man!
(Well, thanks for the great success story, and thanks for being awesome. Not only do you affect your own life, but you are able to affect the lives of everybody else around you. By becoming your best self, you’re able to unconsciously influence your family and friends all around you.
It’s not about chasing anything. It’s about become a great human being. It’s about becoming the kind of person you want to attract. When you become that person, you become a beacon of light in life, and people just magically show up. It makes life easy and effortless. Do the little details, do the work and you will get results.)
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From my heart to yours,
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