Get Knocked Down, Get Back Up Again

How a bad rejection can set you up for the best sex of your life with a new girl.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a viewer who I discussed a previous email a few weeks back where he got rejected. However, he redeemed himself with a play-by-play of how he met a girl while out with friends and seduced her that night. He said it was the best sex of his life.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This particular email is from a viewer who gives us an update. I did an email video newsletter for him a few weeks back where he basically went down in flames. I guess he basically got a little needy, a little over-invested, and kind of fumbled the football however he can. He took the advice, he continued to live his life, have a good time, and he was out at a bar with some of his buddies just having a good time, and another girl who was really cute happened to become a part of their group. One of the quickest ways to get over a woman or a rejection is to get underneath another one, and that’s exactly what he did.

So he gives us a nice play-by-play. Especially guys that are licking your wounds, you got rejected, the girl you thought was going to be your future ex-wife rides off into the sunset with somebody else, you can see from this email how quickly things can turn around when you apply what’s in 3% Man.

So let’s go through his email.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

I know and understand it’s very unlikely I’ll ever hear from her again for the reasons you said in the video and my additional over-eagerness. I won’t reach out any further.

So it seems like he continued to reach out after things had gone sideways instead of just letting it be, and obviously he just spun his wheels.

Stinks because I really liked that one, but live and learn.

Well, it’s the pain from those failures that forced you to move in a new direction to modify your behavior. It’s kind of the way life’s change agent works. You experience a lot of pain, you recognize it’s not the right way to go, so you change your approach, and that’s what he did.

ON THE FLIP SIDE, and to that point of living and learning, I want to share something else with you before I wrap up this email. This might stretch the email some but I think you’ll appreciate it.

It’s a pretty good email again for you guys that are struggling, licking your wounds from the rejection. So he loses this girl he really likes.

A couple weekends ago I VERY naturally met a girl at a bar. Let me mention here, before going out that night I re-listened to your good ol’ classic, Body Language That Attracts Women video.

Thing’s probably 15 years old at this point. That will work 100 years from now. That’s what’s beautiful about it, because it’s innate. It triggers women how they’re innately designed to respond. That’s what’s beautiful about it.

A lot of the posture stuff mentioned I think I do naturally. But it more-so put me in a good mental STATE going out that night.

So it’s kind of like watching a film. If you play quarterback or you’re on defense and you’re watching the film or the other guys, it’s filling in your knowledge gap, basically. So he’s watching that particular video because he wants to be cognizant of his body language, because if you’re in an alpha type body language, you’re going to attract women. If you’re all slumped over and beta and depressed physiology, you’re going to repulse women.

So you have to be aware of these things, especially if you’re not feeling so great. Maybe things aren’t going so well in life, it’s important to at least display it on the outside, even if you don’t necessarily feel it on the inside, which he’s just stinging from a rejection, but he’s focused on the body language and it pays dividends. At the end of the day, the next day, he had a great night with his girl. So that’s great for his mental state going forward.

Sort of that easy going, take or leave it state. Back to the girl: Her and a couple she was with ended up standing behind me and my buddies at this bar we were watching a game at. The three of them and a few of my friends got to speaking from basically being right right next to each other at this packed bar.

So they like to go out and hang out, have a few cocktails, watch some sports. Remember, like attracts like. People that like the same things tend to like each other. So you’re all standing there watching the game because you like the sport. Makes it really easy to talk about that sport because you’re there watching it. So that’s why same thing applies if you’re at an art gallery, or maybe you’re at a boat show or you’re there because everybody loves boats. So think about those things. Or a trade show for that matter.

Maybe you’re in a specific business, health care, mortgage, real estate, you’re at a trade show, everybody’s in the same business. It makes it easy to talk about things and come up with conversations that the other person’s going to be interested in talking about because you’re there doing the same activity.

I at first hadn’t really even engaged or paid mind but eventually ended up in, we’ll say, “Jessica’s” orbit. Over the course of hours and hours all of us got to periodically shooting the shit and joking around. Jessica’s friends left but she stuck around by herself.

Women help you when they like you. As Adam Carolla said, the quote I got in I think the beginning of my book, “If a woman Likes you, the door is open and all you have to do is walk through it,” and there it is. She’s just holding the door open for him.

A couple more hours go by, same thing, more shooting the shit and much more laughs. I eventually ended up goofily dancing with her and later when just standing at the bar made a move for a kiss. She actually turned down me, but I could definitely tell she wanted to. She eventually ended up saying how she doesn’t like PDA…

Again, those kind of moments are helpful with the kiss test. So he doesn’t mention that if he did that or not. So maybe he just assumed she was ready. So she was holding back a little bit.

…(Looking back, I think she came out and said that because she appreciated how I handled the turn down).

Yeah, if you’re not really bothered, you’re not diminished, you’re just like, “Hey, what? No kiss?” And you just have the attitude of, “Oh, you’ll be kissing me in a little while anyway. So it doesn’t matter,” if you get upset, then you ain’t going to get no kissy-poo.

Shortly later though, me, her, and my friends were outside of the bar about to make moves to call Ubers, I made another move for the kiss and boom! Now being outside, she DID give in.

Remember, she just told him she doesn’t do PDA or doesn’t like it. Well, she liked the fact that he wasn’t diminished when she rejected him. He handled it in stride. He was indifferent to it. He was amused. What did Rumi say? “Sell your cleverness and purchase bewilderment.” Be enchanted by the ladies and how they’re full of contradictions.

This led to the ol,’ “We should go back to my place.” She asked if I lived alone, and when I replied yes, I could literally see a spark in her eyes.

She was like, “Game time!”

Heading back to my place I made effort to have a more positive, relaxed, and upbeat attitude trying to learn from my previous bedroom failure discussed in my initial email/your video coaching newsletter. I’ve also been doing a nightly hip mobility routine since said “failure.”

So maybe he’s saying he’s beating the bishop in a strategic way, maybe following some of the advice and how men can have multiple orgasms, potentially. So even if he has the premature ejaculation, he stays hard and he can finish the job. It’s important to make sure the ladies enjoy it if you want her to come back for more and more.

We hooked up at my place. First round, the usual, quick LOL. But my mannnnnnn, that second round! I’m 34 years old, and I can truly say that may have been the best bedroom Olympics experience I’ve ever had. Unreal. I’ll leave it at that but will add we both came at the same time…

That’s always fun when you really care for somebody. It’s always fun to do that, but it’s always fun to not do that when she wants you to and make her wait. Then she’ll have multiple orgasms, and then you finally can cum at the same time because it’s the resistance to her telling you what she wants you to do and you doing it when you fucking feel like it. That really turns women on. It’s the resisting. That’s how she feels your strength.

…Then laying there after, we had a mutual “holy sh*t” kind of assessment of it. It was like something out of a movie. 

Well, nice job, Ron fucking Jeremy part deux.

I honestly don’t think that would’ve gone down like that if it wasn’t for the situation I emailed you about in the first place. So take the bad with the good, right?

Yeah well, you had the right mindset. You just went out because every day is a brand new day. It’s like the Etch-A-Sketch, you just shake it a little bit and now you got a clean slate. So who cares about the rejection from a few weeks ago? You treat it like a clean slate. That girl that you met knew nothing about that. In her mind, it’s like a movie. You meet somebody, some stranger while you’re out and boom! It just happens.

And also funny enough, this girl was the same age as the other girl and also a Latina. Strange how the universe works.

Well, you gotta upgrade. See, that’s how it works. Woo! Even the puppies agree. Somebody must be here…

Anyways, big thanks again for the reply, and all of your work in general!

P.S., I’m buying a hard copy of your book.

Which is like this one here. Got hard copies of all Mastering Yourself. If you’re new and you haven’t read these, they’re free to read in the Members Area of the website at UnderstandingRelationships.com. Put your name, your email address, create a password, and they’ll open up right in your web browser. You can try before you buy. Even if you think I’m totally full of shit, if you apply the stuff I teach, you’re going to be writing me success stories like this.

1) Because it’s about time anyway 2) I want to have the ability to highlight sections that hit me upside the head and 3) I want to contribute to your pockets in some way now.

Bob

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