I remember when I was in seventh grade. I had a crush on a girl who I thought was the most beautiful thing in the whole world. Her boyfriend was butt ugly. However, he had a great sense a humor, was always cracking jokes and occasionally getting himself into trouble. I was friends with her, but one of my good friends was really good friends with her.
One day the three of us were at lunch. She starts looking at me and smiling like someone who really had a crush on me. She was trying to give me the impression that she liked me. Then after a while she stopped. Later, as my buddy and I were riding home from school together on our bikes, I asked him about it. He said that he told her to stare at me as if she liked me. He told me that after she did it for a little bit, she told him, “I can’t bear to look at him anymore.” I was devastated. I was pissed off. Her boyfriend was a douche, and he was butt ugly.
Physically, I think I am an average looking guy. However, I also think deep down, that I am one of the sexiest and most awesome guys in the world. I believe in myself. I am a leader. The word lead means to simply go first. I see myself as a catch. Unfortunately, most women that I find attractive do not feel the same way. Here’s how you can get laid no matter your age, background or looks.
Attraction isn’t a choice. In the first 2 to 3 seconds when a woman notices you, she makes up her mind on how physically attractive you are. You either make the cut, or you do not. As I discuss in my book, she must have at least 51% romantic interest in you or higher to start out with, or you don’t have a chance. Even if most other women think you are a 10, if she sees you as a four, then you ain’t got a chance with her! So what this means is that on a scale of 1 to 10, with a 10 being the most attractive man and a one being the ugliest, a woman must find you at least a 5 1/4 or better. A 5 1/4 is basically someone she would consider not really handsome, not really ugly, but just okay. If she thinks you are just okay in her book, she won’t be overly enthusiastic about you at first, but she will give you the benefit of the doubt if, and that is a very big if, you know how to handle yourself around women without communicating neediness, insecurity or unworthiness. If you exude a dominant alpha male energy, then you have a chance. If a woman perceives you as a five to start out with, there is very little you can do wrong before you turn her off completely and ruin your chances with her. If she sees you as an eight to start out with, then you can screw up before you get rejected a lot more than a guy starting out at a five. Therefore, if you pass the minimum attraction test for a woman, and you know what to do and say to raise her interest level, you can get her to fall in love with you in about 60 days. Women fall in love slowly over time by courting and dating them properly.
That is why you see men who are physically a five, with a woman who is a 10. Because that guy understood how attraction works, he was able to successfully raise her level of interest slowly over a few months so she eventually fell in love with him. Men are easy. For most guys, as long as she looks hot, she’s in! For women, you have to engage their emotions on a consistent basis by focusing on keeping things funny and light. No serious subjects about relationships, dating, becoming exclusive, etc. Let her bring those subjects up. Once she falls in love with you, she will make you her boyfriend and you really won’t have much of a choice. The key is to focus on are having fun on your dates which are preferably in the evening. The idea is to go to a few different places, and then end up back at your place or her place for sex later on. Most guys simply do not understand the process of attraction and how it works. Nor do they understand how a woman tests them and their strength to make sure they measure up.
Most guys are getting rejected by doing and saying things that they have no idea actually turns women off. Men often get hung up on one woman and angry when she judges him as a four when she is a 10. It’s simply a numbers game. Don’t believe me? Get a pocket-sized notebook to keep track of women you approach and ask out for dates. Describe their looks in your notebook, and give them a rating on a scale of 1 to 10. You’re simply going to ask them, “would you like to have a date with me?” Ask 100 women who you find attractive out on a date. Keep a tally of the results. Once you get through 100 women, you will be able to see the difference between women you have a chance with, and women you don’t. You must get through the no’s to get to a yes. Besides, all you need is one good woman who thinks you’re the least a 5 1/4 on a scale of 1 to 10 of attractiveness. You simply need to find a beautiful woman who thinks physically, you’re just average or okay. Maybe even kind of cute in her eyes. Physically, members of the opposite sex tend to be attracted to people who have a similar facial structure. A friend and I were talking a while back about beautiful actresses in Hollywood. He named one who is very famous and successful, but she doesn’t do a damn thing for me. He thinks she is the ultimate babe. I think she’s cute, but that’s all. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
The bottom line, some women are going to like you, and some are not. Recently I have been chatting with a few guys on YouTube who are obviously pissed off at women. See this YouTube comment thread and this YouTube comment thread. These guys are convinced they are unsuccessful with women because they are ugly! They have an irrational fear. Plus, they have not read my book and simply have absolutely no idea what to look for. My attitude towards them or anyone else who thinks I am out of my mind, is that they should read my book. You can read it for free on my website, or you can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn what women really want and are attracted to in a man. It will teach you exactly what you need to do and say to get a woman who thinks you are a 5 1/4 or better to fall in love with you slowly over time by treating her properly. Once you finish reading it, then apply what it teaches. Then you will see that it works for yourself. Don’t believe a word I say until you read it for yourself. I guarantee it will work for you if you just have the guts to try something different. Because after all, if you aren’t getting the success with women you feel you deserve, then you must change your approach. Why? Because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
In order to be successful with women, you must first be happy and fulfilled in your life being single. You must feel like you are very successful at what you do for a living. Doing something that brings you great joy, even if you pick up garbage for a living because you love being outside. Guys who are angry, bitter and pissed off at women, are going to find it’s almost impossible to get a date. Why? Women just want to have fun. If you seem like you are miserable and unhappy in your life, they’re not going to want anything to do with you. That’s why I teach men to focus on improving all of the main areas of their lives and learn the skill sets and techniques necessary to get the woman you want, but to also create the life of your dreams. Women want to be with a man who is excited about his future. You can’t give away what you do not have for yourself. If you show up to a relationship feeling like your cup is half empty, then you are going to be looking for the other person to fill up what you feel or think is missing in your life. Healthy relationships are relationships where both people feel complete, whole and fulfilled already. They simply come together to share their completeness, because the purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give. Nothing more. By focusing on giving and making the other person happy, you make yourself even happier and more fulfilled than you already are. That’s something to think about. The following is a bullet point list of some of the most important areas you must have balance/knowledge in for you to be as successful, happy and fulfilled as you are capable of:
1. Love & be happy about your life
2. Feel like a success as a man
3. Learn how to understand women by reading my book
4. Apply proper techniques at appropriate times
5. Practice consistently everywhere-repetition is the mother of skill
6. Take care of your body-low energy foods make you feel like shit
7. Proper exercise
8. Wealth building mindset towards your finances
9. Work in a career/business/purpose you love
10. Focus on trying to get a little better each day
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