Here’s what to do when your girlfriend is openly texting and calling other men in front of you. If you or someone you know has ever been in a relationship that was not going well, or where making up and breaking up constantly is the norm, you may have noticed that the women tend to be in contact with other male “friends” more frequently when the future of the relationship is in doubt. When it comes to breakups, women are simply smarter and more prepared to deal with it than most men are. Maybe it’s because women are so in touch with their emotions and feelings, and therefore they experience pain and loss more intensely than men do. When a breakup does happen, many women have back up in place ready to go because they know the best way to get over a breakup is to get back on the horse and date someone new. Men on the other hand tend to sit in their man cave licking their wounds for weeks and even months at a time before they feel up to meeting and dating some new women. I have to say from my experience that women are simply better prepared for breakups than men are. Not only that, but women tend to get over a breakup much quicker than men do. The following is an e-mail from a reader who broke up with his girlfriend, but then got back together after only a few days apart. However, since they got back together she’s been furiously texting and calling several male friends of hers. He’s obviously worried that she may cheat on him with one of these other male “friends” and he wonders how he should handle the situation. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
I read what you said about what to do about your girlfriend having male-friends and I really liked the article, but I have a question. I’ve been in a serious relationship for about 2 years now. We’ve been through hell and back, but at one point in time we didn’t talk to the opposite sex for a good while until we broke up and then got back together. A few days later everything changed. She went right into talking on the phone to guys and texting them. (Sounds like she is keeping plenty of male “friends” in the background in case things don’t work out with you. Many women who feel the future of their relationship is in doubt, will keep male “friends” as backup so they have someone else to spend time with if a breakup occurs. Women know it’s much easier to get over a breakup if you have someone new lined up.) So my question is what should I do to not be so paranoid that something is going to happen with her and her male-friends? (Well, the short answer is nothing. All you can do is be her best option by being the best man you can be. When you say you’ve been to hell and back, I assume that means you’ve made a lot of mistakes that have turned her off which led to a breakup. Women don’t breakup up with men who they think are the loves of their lives. The courtship never ends in a relationship. You should take your girlfriends actions to be a reflection of low romantic interest/attraction for you right now. Now, if you do more things right going forward than wrong, her attraction for you will grow again and she will spend less and less time texting other dudes because you are once again becoming the center of her life. However, if a woman is going to cheat on you, there is nothing you can do to stop it. Be her best option, and you may still have to walk away and never look back if she cheats. Honest, loyal women will not cheat. Women with low integrity do. Women who cheat are not good exclusive relationship or marriage material. They’re only friends with benefits, sex playmates or open relationship material if they are a cheater. You should read my book to fill in your knowledge gaps. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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