Why you should have an attitude of gratitude and be grateful for the experience with women, and how this mindset causes them to want, desire and chase you more.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a viewer who has read my book ten times and listened to the audio version multiple times as well. He details what he did and said to attract and seduce a woman multiple times that he met while he was out clubbing with friends. He is a good, diligent student who learned the fundamentals of what my book teaches. He shares how having an attitude of gratitude, and being grateful without being attached to what may or may not happen in the future, has helped him to resist the urge to over-pursue and instead let her come to him at her own pace.
She lives four hours away, but has recently gotten a job in his city and is now looking for a place to live there. It’s a great example of how he used what my book teaches to attract and seduce her effortlessly and potentially become his girlfriend later on down the road. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I met a girl in in the club and got her number. I got her out on a date, and I was kissing her and fingering her on the first date. I tried to go back to her place, but she couldn’t, but said she wanted to walk by the water. (That’s what we call in sales the trial close. Some women will be ready and say, “yeah, let’s do that,” but in this case she said “let’s walk by the water.” Either way, you weren’t attached to the outcome. The worst thing you can do when she says no is get butt hurt. It’s part of the two steps forward, one step back.) I walked hand in hand to a bench and made out with her and fingered her.
She was moving back to NY, so I thought I wouldn’t see her. I then texted her a few weeks later and met up with her in her state. I set a definite date, she texted me if I was still meeting her, and I said I’m a man of my word. (She was unsure if you really liked her. Remember, it’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. She was a little unsure of herself. This is what will happen. If a girl really wants to see you, and she hasn’t heard from you in several days, a lot of times she’ll reach out and say, “hey are we still on for tonight?” Women that don’t give a shit after you’ve set a date, obviously they weren’t into you.)
We hung out, had fun, and hooked up. She even bought me DINNER! (That tells me the woman’s a giver. That’s a good sign.) I fucked her in the afternoon, midnight, and the next morning. (Indoor Olympics, nice job. Your job as a man is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. This is an exciting, unpredictable love story that is just kind of happening.)
I figured I’d never see her again, and I was pretty bummed, but I accepted it since she lived 4 hours away. Then out of the blue, 1 week later, she texted me saying hi. I responded, and she told me she’s in town! I took it was an opportunity to set a date,(As I teach in my book, if a woman reaches out to you, you should assume she wants to see you, and make the next date), the 3 H’s. (Hang out, have fun and hook up.)
She texted me the next day about having fun and some random question, and I took it as another opportunity to set a date, the 3 H’s again! (If a woman reaches out to you, assume she wants to see you and make the next date. Notice that her frequency of calling and texting is going up. That means her attraction level is going up.)
She then went on a job interview and said she might get it. (All of a sudden she’s in your town unexpectedly, and she’s going on a job interview there. I’d say that’s pretty high interest.) Once again, I figured she probably won’t get the job and that I won’t see her again.
A week and a half later, she texted me saying hi, and that she gotten the job! I told her we would definitely celebrate when she’s in town. She said that sounds good!
I thought she would be in town on Sunday, because she said she was looking for a place, (She goes from living four hours away, to all of a sudden having a job opportunity in town and is now looking at places to live in your city. This is what happens. The more a woman likes you, the more she moves closer to you. This one physically is moving closer to you), so I asked her out on Sunday, and she texted me back that she wasn’t in town yet. I said, okay no problem I thought you were in town, text me when you’re in town, I’d like to see you.
(You hit the ball over the net, and you’re going to wait to hear from her. When a lot of guys don’t hear from the woman in the time period they expect, they will call or text her a few days later. That means they’re not congruent with their words, and it comes off as being needy, clingy and insecure.)
That was 2 and a half weeks ago. It’s funny how the universe works, I thought twice that I would never see her again, and I was so grateful for the experience. Then she reached out to me twice. I have no choice but to assume that she will text me.
(She did say she would do it. You want a woman who says what she means and means what she says. And if you’re used to getting what you want with women, if you know you’re a catch, of course she’s going to reach out. If she never does, well that means she was never really that into you anyway. When women are really hot like this, and then they disappear, most of the time there’s another dude in the picture. That’s why you’ve got to give them the space to mutually choose you also.)
A few times I wanted to reach out again, but I read your book, I have your audiobook and took a bunch of notes. If I reached out, it would just be the illusion of action. (Well, she said she’s going to reach out. And if she doesn’t reach out and then you do, and you’re actually able to get together, what you’ll notice is it has the opposite effect on her attraction. You’ll start to hear, “I’m confused,” or “I’m not sure.”
If you’ve got your shit together, and you have lots of choices, lots of options, and you have this magical connection, you’re used to this. This is your normal, everyday life. This is what you expect to happen. And if somebody doesn’t choose you mutually, you’re just grateful for whatever time you spent together. Even if you never hear from this girl again, it’s a fucking victory. You hardly had to do anything. She put herself into your orbit consistently.)
She told me she would reach out, I think she will, and I will set up another date when she does. I just hope that her interest won’t plummet since we haven’t been in contact, but I’ve got to stick with the program, after all, it fucking worked so far.
(Well, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. As Gerald Celente of the Trans Research Center says, “Current events form future trends.” You don’t want somebody that’s unsure or that’s sitting on the fence about you. You want somebody who would jump fences to be with you, and it looks like this woman is literally moving towards you.
You don’t know what’s really going on because it’s so new, but you’ve done a perfect job of hanging out, having fun and hooking up and seducing this girl. And look how well it went. You really didn’t have to do a whole hell of a lot. It just goes to show, when you learn the fundamentals in my book, it will work for you.)
Thanks! Much love,
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“True love is freedom. When you love and value yourself, you will give others the time and space to choose you also. By having an attitude of gratitude and being grateful for the time you share with others without an attachment to them remaining in your life forever, you create the conditions for them to love and want to spend more time with you. Control is an illusion. Trying to control someone communicates that you think you are of low value and that you have a lack of belief in yourself. When you believe in yourself, those who seek to tear you down do not influence you, and instead you create the space for the right people to show up in your life who recognize and appreciate your value. You must value yourself first in order to attract others who see and appreciate your value.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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