Why having multiple romantic options builds confidence, cultivates a vibe of abundance and will perfect your pickup, dating and seduction skills so you can attract the perfect long term relationship partner for you.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who recovered from a bad breakup by practicing an abundance mentality in his dating life. After his marriage ended, he forced himself to get out and start dating new women. He really struggled at first and made a lot of mistakes, but over time he corrected his bad behaviors. He’s dating many different women and keeping his options open until he finds the next great love of his life. Recently he went out with five different women in one week, which he says was extremely exhausting. He’s dating two high-quality women whom he really likes right now and he’s going to take his time before he decides to get serious with any of them. He shares some of his experiences, what he has learned, and what’s working for him. Here’s his original email:
After making a $50 donation a couple of months ago, I wrote you about the current state of my relationships, which was pretty fucked up. My wife had lied and left me for Asia, abducting my children. In the aftermath of filing for divorce and pursuing a means of recovering the family, I was actively dating, but still somewhat of a nervous wreck, not yet able to hold things together as a man with the women I was seeing.
Well, practice is the mother of skill. A few weeks back I had five dates in one week. It was exhausting! However, out of those options I narrowed my focus to two women with very high attraction levels for me. I’m 40, one is 36, Italian/Polish, with long, straight brunette hair, and the other is a busty Nordic blonde, 39 years old. Both are tall and long-legged, just like me. The older one is a corporate pharmacist, while the younger one is a respiratory therapist. There is something about women in the medical field that makes them horny! I don’t know what it is, but I like it. My first fuck, post-divorce, was a nursing home nurse as well.
So now, I am actively dating both women and having a lot of fun. They live in separate towns. I find them both charming and funny. The sex is amazing. Last night the respiratory therapist was an animal in bed. Even though she’d wanted to wait a while, I got us a nice hotel room after dining out. After our movie got out, I just escorted her there with James Bond-like expectations, and she went for it. (When you communicate in that language, all of her resistance goes away. Its rare and refreshing for women when they come across a man with relaxed confidence.) She went out of her way to please me, begging me to come twice. Afterwards she told me her vagina needed rest and she was going to have trouble walking back to our car, LOL.
The pharmacist has cute little whimpers and told me I’d made her come 3 times last Wednesday evening. The second time was “especially intense.” I’d invited her over to my place, cooked salmon, and asked her to bring a bottle of wine, textbook Corey Wayne.
Reading your book, I understand it’s important to date them both simultaneously and handle things. I’m going to let the women help me by waiting for them to profess love and demand exclusivity. (That’s all a guy needs to do, hang out, have fun, hook up, and create a fun-filled, romantic opportunity for sex to happen.) Reading your book, I also understand that doing so is helping prevent me from developing feelings too early. (Having multiple women prevents being in a scarcity mindset.)
I went on Date #2 last night with the respiratory therapist, and I’m going to a festival this afternoon on Date #5 with the pharmacist, then sleeping at her place. I predict that I’ll end up with the pharmacist permanently, she and I are more on the same level intellectually, however she’s still active in online dating so I think it’s wise to protect my heart and wait it out until dates 10-13 like you advise. Either choice, or continuing with both, would be spectacular long-term, in my view. (Take your time. Why rush it when all of these beautiful women are helping you with your grief therapy.)
Thanks again man. This year has gone from being the worst year of my life to one of the best.
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“Having multiple romantic options while you are dating is the best way to build your confidence, cultivate an abundance mentality, overcome feelings of neediness and desperation, and perfect your dating and seduction skills, so you can attract the perfect long term partner for you. When you have few romantic options and meet someone you really like when you still do not have emotional self control, you will most likely chase them right out of your life and talk them out of liking you. Most women have many romantic options, and this helps them get over breakups way faster than the average male does. Plus, women are never really out of the dating game. Why? They are constantly being hit on when they are single, dating, in a relationship or married. Women who were previously off the market, simply can start saying yes to dates instead of rejecting men when they become single again. We all deserve to have the best that we can get. When we have lots of choices, we won’t settle for someone that is less than what we really deserve because we don’t have to.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne