How to recognize the subtle clues to make your move when a woman wants to have sex with you & when she doesn’t. When I was still learning to master my skills of seduction, I had countless times where I could’ve gotten laid, but I fumbled the football by talking women right out of sleeping with me. This feminist movement that has so damaged our society, has most men walking around afraid of being men. Us guys are so worried about offending women, that we basically act like women by expecting the women to make the move on us. Women will put themselves in your orbit so they can be seduced by you. If you are hesitant or unsure of when to make a move, they can tell and they’ll get turned off. Women want men to recognize when they are open to their advances. Sex has to be the man’s fault. If you sit around waiting for the woman to make the first move and be the aggressor, 99.999% of the time they will not. The only thing you will get is a case of blue balls. She will walk away frustrated feeling like you don’t know how to be a man. The following is an e-mail from a reader who walked away after he got dumped. His former girlfriend started calling and so he set up a definite date. On top of that, she told him to get a hotel room for the both of them. However, even though she gave him countless chances to be a man and seduce her, he still went home with blue balls. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
It’s James, I wrote you a few weeks ago about she’s constantly on my mind. Well she’s back. First she moved to a neighboring state for school and started to contact me. When she first contacted me I played it cool and she texted me at 12:30. The next time she contacted me was at 10:30 or so at night by text. The most recent time she contacted me was about 9:30 in the morning. Now these times to me are her way of checking out to see if I’m with someone without saying it. So her final text I replied back the next day and told her let’s get together and have dinner, she agreed. I told her I’ll stay with relatives in the area and I’ll meet her when she was out of class. The next day she suggested I get a hotel room and she would stay with me, (Translation: “Get a hotel room so I can fuck your brains out.”) so I took that as her having some interest in me. (She suggested a hotel because she wanted to fuck you! You were clueless dude. Have you read my book yet?) For one she’s contacting me and two said to get a room.
So I get there and had her meet me at the hotel room. She came in and I left the door cracked so she could walk in, so when she got there I laid on the bed and didn’t get up to hug her, (Fuck hugging! Do you want to be her lover or her male girlfriend?) all I did was say hi. She went to the bathroom, came out and I said, “so you gonna give me a hug now?” so we hugged. (Translation: “Will you please show me some affection your highness? I’m still the needy boy that you dumped, but I’m hoping you won’t notice I have not changed. I’m still afraid to go for what I want.” I would have said, “why don’t you get your cute little ass over here and kiss me!) We went to dinner that night and she said that she would come visit me on her way back home after school was over and I left it at that; again another sign from her. (She was ready to fuck when she came to your hotel room dude.) So we went out to a club and before she started to drink, I asked her in the car, “so you plan on giving me a kiss? I just want to know before you start drinking so I would know if you did how you felt sober about kissing me and not drinking.” So she said, “no I don’t plan on kissing you.” (Translation: “Since you had to ask instead of just being a man and going for it, that turns me off and therefore, I’m not interested in kissing you right now.”) So we went to the club and she started dancing with me. She got up on me close like making love close, she jumped in my arms and we were dancing like that, so I held my composure. (You should have kissed her dude! She was frisky and touching you. This means that touching is ok and that you should reciprocate slowly.) When we got back to the room, I told her I’m not gonna live through this hell of not making love to you, I can’t just be your friend. So when we woke up she told me that if we couldn’t be friends, then how we can explore our relationship any further? (That was a test: “Do you deserve me and do you think you are worthy as my lover, or are you weak and better off as a friend?” You failed that test. Women bluff to test your strength.) She then told me she has feelings for me, but she didn’t want to rush basically. She said the reason she broke up with me was because of my poor communication in the past. She said she didn’t want to kiss me because she didn’t want me to think it was more than it was. (Translation: “You can’t tell when I’m ready to kiss you and you keep trying to act like my friend. You are being too nice. Nice guys finish last. I want a man who knows what to do with a horny woman. You asking me for permission is weak and turns me off because you act like a man servant.”) So when I was leaving to go back home we sat and talked about when she moved closer to me in the summer, how were we going to see each other. I told her, “well if I had someone worth coming to see that the 3 hour trip would be worth it.” (Translation: “I’m at your beck and call your highness.”) So when I was leaving, she gave me a hug and tried to kiss me. (You are acting like women don’t kiss you very often. You’re being a cold fish. Men who are successful with women are direct and go for what they want. You sound like a typical frustrated guy who puts all women on a pedestal and treats them like a celebrity.) I pulled back by accident, and I asked her, “you were going to kiss me?” (That’s pathetically weak. Come on dude!) She smiled and played it off. (Translation: “Again you prove to me you feel you are unworthy of me. What a turn off.”) So I attempted to kiss her, but I only got her cheek. (You had blown it by that point by so much weak and approval-seeking behavior.”) Again she’s smiling and acting playful. Before I drove off she tells me “maybe next time.” (Translation: “There probably won’t be a next time.”)
I texted her to let her know I made it home. She texted me back saying she was glad to see me and that she wanted to kiss me. So I told her it’s always a pleasure to see you and that next time don’t hold back. I won’t bite unless you want me to, lol. The next text I got back from her basically said there would have been no feelings involved, and that she can hold out till she got back home. (Translation: “I’m getting laid by my new boyfriend instead.”) So I said well he’s a lucky man, and that I won’t interfere with what they got going on and that I am not interested in being a minute replacement. If you ever change your mind, my arms are open for you; she didn’t text back. (Wow, you just emotionally vomited all over her. Of course she did not text you back. You talk and act like a woman around her.) My guess is she will text me back the next day or in a few days. So I have no idea what this woman is up to. (She wanted to fuck you, but you talked her right out of it.) I’m not affected like I would have been a few months ago after our break up. But her mixed feelings are confusing. (Act like a man and she will stop acting flakey.) First she contacts me, then she puts me back as a friend on facebook. She says she has feelings, but she wants to be friends. (Translation: “I only have feelings of friendship for you right now because you continually do more things wrong than right.”) It’s like she don’t want to jump back together because she thinks things would be the same, or I would bring the same bs back to the table. She knows she wants me but she’s bsing. (You keep blowing it by acting weak. She gave you the chance on a silver platter, but you fumbled the football.) I’m not gonna sweat it. So do you have any take on this crap that she started? I don’t contact her at all. I only reply to her text or answer when she calls. (Let all calls go to voicemail. Only respond via text. Invite her to drive 3 hours to come see you. Don’t go see her anymore until she comes to see you.) I think she’s confused and scared to get back with me, because why else would she initiate contact after months? (She gave you a shot, but you blew it.) I told her my feelings are there for her, but I’m not gonna chase or pursue her. The door is open if she changes her mind. (Get busy meeting and dating other women so you can improve and master your skills of seduction. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)
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