How sexual experiences, being loved, time and repetition can heal any wounds to our inner child that cause us to feel unworthy, unloved and unloveable, so we can finally let go of childish limiting beliefs that may be getting in the way of allowing another to love us unconditionally.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who I have been coaching for several months. He has been doing phenomenally well with new women he has been meeting online and in person. Recently he has been dating a woman who really knocks his socks off. She has been falling hard for him very quickly and brought up being exclusive after a few weeks of dating. When they were having sex recently he said there seemed to be some sexual chemistry problems. He had difficulty staying hard and she starting getting pissed at him. He told her in a calm but firm tone that he was not a robot and to not talk to him in that tone. She apologized profusely and things got back to normal.
He really likes her but he realizes that he is still struggling with his own inner demons that cause him to fear that he is not good enough for her. He asks my opinion on dealing with his own fears and insecurities so he does not do something out of fear to screw things up until he develops a high level of comfort and confidence. This is a new experience for him dating “the ultimate” woman in his eyes. He was previously in a twenty year mediocre marriage with an average woman that lacked passion and love. This is something every man must deal with and overcome when becoming a 3% man.
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“Most obstacles that get in the way of us having healthy, loving, effortless relationships, are really just barriers to loving ourselves that sometimes have been created in childhood. If our desire to be loved in childhood often was not met, or worse, we were abused verbally and/or physically by those around us, we many times will carry these wounds and fears of unworthiness into our adulthood relationships. This can lead us to pre-suppose that it is only a matter of time before we are disappointed by those we love, and want to be loved by. This often will show up as over-pursuing, needy and desperate behavior, irrational fears of being rejected or hurt, and generally doing and saying things because we are driven by fear to the point that we chase those who are trying to love us right out of our lives. We literally will talk those who are pre-disposed to love us right out of what we desire most: being loved. We can start to heal our wounds and dissolve our false limiting beliefs by thinking from the end, not taking ourself too goddamn seriously, learning to practice infinite patience, and developing an attitude and demeanor where we are unattached to, and ok with any outcome. In other words, no matter what happens, we are choosing ahead of time to be happy and grateful. Only by creating new and successful experiences, and allowing them to mutually develop slowly over time, will we be able to permanently banish our self-built barriers to love that exist in our hearts.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne