Her Changing The Plans A Lot Is A Sign Of Low Interest & Respect

If a woman is disrespecting your time it’s a sign of low interest & respect.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who went on a handful of dates with a woman who was seeing another guy when they met and rejected him initially. Once she became single she reached out to him a few months later and asked him on a date. After several dates she rejected him again saying she couldn’t make time for him and a relationship. He wonders what happened. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “Her Changing The Plans A Lot Is A Sign Of Low Interest & Respect”.

So this particular email is from a viewer. He went on a handful of dates of a woman who was initially seeing another guy when they met, so obviously she rejected him. However, once she became single, because he didn’t burn the bridge, she reached out. And it was you know a couple months later.

But he says after several dates, she rejected him again for a second time, basically saying she couldn’t make time for him in a relationship. Now he’s wondering what happened because he’s like, “Hey, I followed the book. Why did she reject me?” So let’s go through and see if there are any clues as to what could have potentially happened.

Viewer Email:

Hey Corey,

This girl I had asked out a couple months ago said sorry but I’m talking to someone. I accepted it didn’t contact after that then a month later she asked me out we went out on a great first date and then a week later another date. I only used the phone to set dates. She then cancelled on the third date and rescheduled.

Well, it’s important that she reschedule because if she just canceled and doesn’t offer reschedule, that means her interest is low. But the thing that’s kind of jumped out at me about this email is just how she’s constantly changing plans and basically jerking this guy around. And women do that, that have low interest. And they’re trying, especially if they think you’re soft, they’ll jerk you around, change plans last minute. In other words, they’re being a scatterbrain.

It’s like they’ll try to bring that into your life and your interactions. And it’s important to use the takeaway that’s laid out in the book, especially because what I suspect is he’s just come off as a little too nice, a little too soft, a little less than willing to stand up for himself. And that’s one of the ways women test guys. If they think you’re weak and you’re a little soft and squishy.

In other words, if they think they can always kind of get your way or their way with you and you’ll cave to them, that’s when they do things like this. So it’s important that you don’t allow it. Because whatever you tolerate, you’re going to invite more of.

We had a great third date and almost had sex, I could tell she really wanted to, but she said I told myself I wasn’t going to sleep with you yet.

So if you’re with a girl and she says that it’s just like the same thing when she goes, oh, when she invites you in, she says, “Hey, I just want you to know we’re not having sex.” Usually what that means is we’re going to have sex as long as you don’t talk me out of it. And so when you hear something like that, it doesn’t mean you should be Mr. Respectful and turn into a priest or take a vow of celibacy. It just means you’re probably going a little too fast.

And the seduction process. So as the book lays out two steps forward, one step back. You should never just give up. It just means you’re going a little too fast. You’re a little further along than she is. So it just means slow your roll a little bit. And then a little while later, you continue talking, hanging out, and then take another run at it. And each time you’ll get a little further.

Because it’s your job as a man to wear down her interest, or I should say her resistance to your interest. So a lot of guys, as soon as they start advancing the ball, they get a comment like that and they go, “oh, I’m sorry.” And then they just stop. So it shouldn’t derail you from the seduction. It just means, oh, I’m going a little too fast. Let me slow it down a little bit.

We went to third base and I didn’t push it too hard. The day later on Friday she sent me nudes late at night.

Which is like, okay, I’m ready to have sex. So again, I mean, it’s like when you’re younger and you guys are learning this stuff, you’re not going to be perfect. My goal as a coach is to reduce your learning time. Because if I can reduce your learning time, you can do this a lot quicker. Less chance of rejection. Especially losing out on girls you really like.

Come Saturday I set the next date for the following week.

Why so quick? Why a week out? If she’s sending you nudes? “Well, we should get together, what’s your schedule like?” If she’s already been to your house? Especially if she’s texting you nudes. Like after 8 or 9:00. Just say if she’s texting you those, just say, “come over”, send your address, see if she’ll do it. “Oh, I can’t make it.” It’s like, “well, after sending me some pictures like that, you should definitely come over so I can, for my viewing pleasure in person. Because there’s nothing like in person.” So he sets the date for the following week.

We were going to hang out Sunday she said she was available then she cancelled last minute because she was caught up with homework.

So it’s like, making her wait a whole week? A girl sending you nudes. It’s like, unless maybe he was just really busy and couldn’t get to it. Maybe he was thinking, oh, I’ll just put her off for further in the future. But a girl sending nudes is basically like, hey, how about the flesh rocket? So your job, as the book says, is to create the opportunity for sex to happen, to make that happen as quickly as possible, not just trying to set a normal date.

Because again, if she’s been to your house, you’ve been to hers, you’ve been almost naked. She’s sending you nudes. I’d be like, “Well, you should come over later so I can take some nudes of my own of you”, or something along those lines. It’s like, “oh, well, after saying that, you should definitely come by my place later tonight, we’ll see what pops up.” Because that’s just basically, “hey, how about some sex?” So make the sex happen as quick as possible.

It doesn’t have to be an official date. Don’t be a robot because this is how women are. They dangle the carrot and to see how you respond. But the other thing you got to keep in mind that I haven’t mentioned is that she had broken up with somebody else. So more than likely, she’s probably still talking to that guy. So if you act a little too nice, you don’t strike while the iron is hot. She might be sending those nudes to a couple of other guys, and then they make something happen a little quicker.

If you hesitate, you’ll masturbate. Again if a girl is sending nudes and you’re waiting a whole week to see her, I would have made it happen quicker. I would have been like, well, after that, it’s like, when are you available? I was like, I think you should just come by later. Show me some of the other nudes you got in your phone of yourself. Maybe we’ll create some originals.

She cancelled last minute because she was caught up with homework.

Again. She’d much rather hang out and do homework than hang out with you and potentially hook up. It’s all a matter of interest, and there’s probably other guys she’s talking to. You probably weren’t the only one that she reached out after she stopped seeing that other guy. So if you’re competing against another dude that’s got tighter game and he’s getting the same nudes and she’s already going over and getting with him, the sex might have been really good and she might be like, well, she’s just going to see that guy. That’s why she blows you off. It’s probably not for homework. It’s probably to go fuck Chad Thunder Cock.

Rescheduled to Wednesday. Then Monday comes and she asked to move to a different day again, I did the takeaway and she suggested Saturday.

Well, the takeaway is like, well, I’m not sure I may have to move it. Just say, well, it sounds like your schedule is not really flexible right now, so why don’t you figure it out and get back to me and we’ll plan something then I’ll talk to you later. So that’s how you do it. So I don’t know what she actually said, but it just doesn’t look like the takeaway was done.

We hung out Saturday it went well but when I dropped her off she didn’t invite me inside and said she wasn’t ready for that.

So it just goes to show her interest is going down instead of up. Something changed. Like I said, she sent you nudes. Maybe you said something in text that she was like, oh, this guy doesn’t get it. He’s trying to date me. He’s trying to marry me. He’s trying to have a relationship. He’s trying to do official dates again. A girl sending nudes should be it’s, you know, obvious that it’s a booty call. It’s an invitation for a booty call.

It doesn’t have to be an official date. So don’t be a robot when those things happen again. Hey, let’s get together. Hey, come over. We’ll have to send me that kind of text. I think you should stop by later tonight and we can discuss your pictures. Or we can go over them and fine two detail.

I didn’t push and let it be. She texted me before I got home telling me how much of a great time she had and how much she appreciates me. Monday I set up a date. She says she’s really busy this week but we can do Wednesday night because I want to make sure I see you this week, come Tuesday night she sends me a long text saying how she’s having a really hard time juggling her schedule and wants a relationship but isn’t a good time for her she said she really likes me and thinks we connect well but doesn’t think at where she is with school and work she can be a good partner for right now. And said she appreciated everything.

My response would be like, well, we’re just kind of casually dating. I don’t know you well enough to commit to a relationship. I’d like to continue seeing you casually. Unless you’re telling me that you’re becoming a nun enjoying a convent. We should keep hanging out. So let’s get together. What’s your schedule like? And then you invite her over to make dinner at your place.

We never had a talk of being in a relationship and as far as I saw it we were just dating and was a little confused that she sent me nudes and almost had sex with me then didn’t seem interested.

Well, the reason why she kept harping on the relationship is that the vibe she got from you was that you wanted something serious. In other words, she couldn’t just casually hang out and have fun and hook up with you without you getting really attached. And again, that’s just a little too much of the nice guy vibe. You know, wanting to stick to only taking her out on official dates and making her wait a whole week and that kind of stuff. It’s not necessary.

Again, like I said a couple times, it’s girl sending nudes. It’s like, make the opportunity for sex to happen as quickly, as efficiently and as few steps as possible. Don’t say, oh, “How about we get together in a week and do something about that?” It’s like she send those nudes to somebody else who was more available and didn’t have to do an official date and probably said, “well, you should come by later.” And she did, and she came by later.

The whole 9 days before the last date I didn’t text or anything and she was open to touch as we made out at the end and she grabbed my arm when I had my hand on her leg in the car.

So if she’s grabbing your arm, it sounds like you’re saying. She grabbed your arm and pulled it away from her leg. That tells me you’re putting your hand on her leg and she wasn’t open to it. So that just tells me you’re a little sloppy with the seduction process. When you’re on the date and you’re giving off the vibe that you want something serious and you’re acting like she’s going to be your future girlfriend.

And again, your job is just to create the opportunity for sex to happen when the opportunity presents itself arrange to get together. But like I said, that’s why she kept harping on the relationship thing, because that was the vibe you gave her.

When she entered it I just said okay get back in touch if you change your mind.

So he did leave the door open.

Was it too much too soon?

No.

We do live an hour away, so that is a factor. She was sending me stuff on Instagram up until breaking it off and showed high interest.

Well again, at the end of the day, when you’re seeing nudes, you got to understand what that means. And also, like I said, just from your interactions, you didn’t really understand two steps forward, one step back, it looks like you just gave up when you were with her. And remember, she was dating and hooking up with somebody else, and we don’t know if she dumped him or he dumped her, especially if he dumped her she’s on the rebound and looking to get some strange.

And so it just looks like she probably started hooking up with some other guy that whose game was tighter and he knew what he was doing, and he was beating her up her pelvis while you were dithering a little bit. So again, this is why I say you got to read the book 10 to 15 times so your game is a little smoother, you understand two steps forward, one step back a little bit better. And when you get these last minute resistance phrases like she was throwing up that you know how to handle them.

Plus just the fact that she’s jerking you around and changing plans. It just looks like she’s you’re the backup. And when Chad Thunder Cock becomes available, that’s why she cancels and reschedules is because she knows you’ll be cool with it, and you’ll jump through your butt to make another appointment with her. So again, it’s when you see that kind of behavior, just like the title says, it’s a sign of low respect and low romantic interest. So again, you learn from each of these kinds of interactions.

It’s just get better, understand the book better and understand, especially in your case, understanding two steps forward, one step back a little bit better and employing that remember, a delay in seduction is not a denial. And so you interpreted her delay with you seducing her and having sex to outright denial until you gave up. That’s part of the problem. Women don’t want you to give up. They just want you to go a little slower and respect the boundaries, as they tend to move and shift until they just completely drop the boundaries and let you have your way with her.

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