How being mysterious, exercising emotional self-control, taking measured steps and not being in a rush when you are dating creates attraction and causes women to think about you and grow their attraction towards you, even when you are not around.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a recent success story of how he has completely transformed his dating life and mindset. He details how he used to be a spineless jellyfish when he met women that he really liked. This lead to him over-pursuing, being extra nice, compliant and generally being treated like a doormat. One woman even conned him into lending her money, and he sent it to her, only to be given a BS story about how she could not pay him back. He also talks about the things the current woman he is dating does and says that make things so easy and effortless for him now that he is following my work. She does all of the pursuing, and makes him feel like a king and a stud. It’s another great example of how successful anyone can become even if they’ve never experienced much success with members of the opposite sex by applying what I teach. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
My name is Bob, and I’m a 35-year-old single guy from California. I don’t need a response from you. I just wanted to tell you about the immediate success I’ve experienced from applying your teachings and wanted to express my gratitude. (If you start applying the stuff you’re learning from me today, you’re going to start seeing results.) I found your material on YouTube and bought your eBook, which I’ve read twice so far, and am currently on read number three. The catalyst for seeking you out was lousy dating results. I didn’t have trouble finding dates, but if I really liked the girl, I would turn into a spineless jellyfish. I was trying so hard to be sweet and kind, that I was either rejected or walked all over. I was so much of a weakling, that I even had a long-distance girlfriend hitting me up for money, and I gave it to her! That’s how weak I had become. I wired her the cash and, big surprise, she made up some big story about how she couldn’t pay me back. (She is probably thinking you deserve what you get. Guys who do things like this are inviting the other person to do this to them and enabling their behavior.) I was trying to be the nice guy, trying to “friend” my way to her heart, and getting walked all over — typical 97% behavior.
So here’s the upside to things. I met this new gal that is just really stellar. (At the end of the day, I want you to have somebody who knocks your socks off.) I met her within days of finishing the first read of your book, and it has been such a great experience for both of us. She does all the contacting. She says hello to me by text, I respond by asking when she is free to get together, and it just rolls from there. (Change it up a little bit. Don’t be a robot and say the same thing over and over.) It either happens like that, or she texts me with a specific day and time to get together. It was unsettling at first to take a backseat approach, as I was so accustomed to heavily pursuing, but this shit works! (Less really is more. It’s a scientific fact that women really are attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. You have to give them space. Hang back and wait to hear from her.)
Last night we were together, it was date five I guess. She started opening up to me a little about her experience with me, and how it made her feel. It took every ounce of self-control for me to not bust out laughing from amusement. (You knew what was coming next.) She told me how after our first two dates, when I didn’t contact her right away, she wasn’t sure where my head was. (She doesn’t know if you like her or not, and it has a positive effect on her attraction level.) A couple days passed, and it drove her nuts, so she contacted me, (This is another reason why you should only go out with a girl once a week), but since she contacted me after 8:00 pm, I waited until the next day to get back to her. I guess this drove her up the wall, not hearing from me right away. Her curiosity and interest level soared. (The higher a woman’s attraction level for you grows, the more attention she wants from you.) She went on to tell me that she really likes that we are not in contact every day. (That would bother insecure, needy women. This girl sounds like she has a healthy self-esteem. You know she’s worth your time.) She says it gives us more to talk about when we do see each other. (This is another reason why the phone is for setting dates only.) It’s as though she read your book or something, ha-ha! (No, women are just designed this way.) So after all that, she told me how sweet and kind I am, how I’m so macho and manly, and that she is totally comfortable with me. I take this to mean that I’m remaining in my masculine, and this in turn allows her to stay in her feminine, and she digs it.
Thank you, Corey. Your teachings have made the dating process so much more enjoyable for both Jessica and me. I’ve not felt this way before, because I was always so worried about pleasing the woman in my life, that I became a neurotic mess, constantly trying to seek out approval and make her happy. I’m now behaving in a way that I seek out what I want, and the crazy thing is, she digs it. I will continue reading your book for the prescribed 10-15 times, because the last thing I want to do is get caught up in my old ways. Keep up the great work sir! (As long as you read my book 10-15 times, you’ll be fine. Where a lot of guys go wrong is, they don’t think it’s important to read it that many times.)
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“No matter what women say or think that they really want, the reality is women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear, and guys who are mysterious, confident, strong and unpredictable. Men who are too nice, compliant, available, who don’t stand up for themselves and who wait on women to tell them what to do, predictably get rejected or the “Let’s just be friends speech.” Women test men to determine whether or not they have a spine, will stand up to them and for themselves and to test their strength and worthiness. Women lose respect and attraction for men who let women jerk them around. Being too nice reveals that deep down, you don’t think you are worthy of a woman’s time, desires or attention. This gives women no choice but to agree with you that you are not worthy.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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