Her Father Doesn’t Approve Of Us Dating. What Can I Do?

What you can do if your girlfriends father doesn’t approve of her dating you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 20 year old viewer who has been dating an 18 year old girl he really likes. His father and her father are good friends since high school. Things were going good for awhile, but he turned her off after 2 months of dating and she dumped him. That’s when he found my work and started applying it. She came back a few weeks later after missing him and they got back together based upon his use of 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back. However, if he asks her father if he can take her out, he says yes. If she asks her father he says no. She doesn’t want to disobey her father. He doesn’t know what to do. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter on the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “Her Father Doesn’t Approve Of Us Dating. What Can I Do?”

Well, this is an interesting video because there’s a couple of things going on here. This particular guy, he’s 20 and he’s been dating an 18 year old girl he really likes. And an interesting little wrinkle is his father and her father have been really good friends since they went to high school together. So, the dads are like lifelong friends. And so things are going well for a while, for about two months.

But he kind of turned her off and then she dumped him. So that’s when he started searching YouTube and came across my videos, came across my video and article 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back. And he implemented it, started learning My Book, and then she came back a few weeks later missing him. And he was just stunned. Like “Holy Shit, this actually worked.” And so what’s interesting, he says if he sees her father and says, “hey, can I take your daughter out?”

He’s like, sure. But if her daughter is like, “hey, I’m going to go out. I want to go out with so-and-so on a date. Is that okay?” He’s like, “no.” And she doesn’t want to disobey her dad. And he’s like, I don’t know what to do. So this is kind of a sticky situation, just like, you know, the other video that I released today. You know what to do when she inevitably pulls back like a cat.

And so in that particular one is his hot female next door neighbor he’s been friends with for ten years, and he’s good friends with her father. So he’s always kind of worried about if he dated his daughter, and it didn’t work out that he would lose his friendship with her father. And then obviously things, you know, he would lose his friendship with her as well.

So this is another interesting wrinkle when daddy’s involved. And so it’s not necessarily that the dad doesn’t approve of them dating. Maybe he’s a little old school, a little old fashioned, but she goes to her dad and wants to go out on a date and he’s like, no. So this is interesting.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach,

I know you’ve been doing great. I am for sure my story will fascinate you because I can’t find any videos related to my scenario. As of now I’m on my 7th read of your book and still counting.

Well, that’s pretty good so far. Because he found my work after things went sideways, implemented what’s in 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back, and they started seeing each other again and hooking up. But now there’s the wrinkle about the father, and he’s like, I don’t know what to do. Which quite frankly, is a really great, easy way to fix this.

So here’s why. I’m 20 years old—physically fit, athlete, and I believe that I’m the alpha of the group. My girl is 18 years old—beautiful, sexy, smart, and also a head-turner for a guy. We live in the same area, so the way we met is through playing table tennis just for fun.

We also play badminton as a doubles team and we simply focused on having fun while I’m staying in competitive mode. Things got better, 2 weeks after getting along with each other, we made out at the beach.

And oh, you went and did long walks on the beach. It’s just a dating profile, “I like long walks on the beach.”

And the day after that I invited her in my place, and guess what Coach?

I don’t know. What happened?

We had sex. Things went good for 2 months, and after that as most guys experienced, I got dumped.

Women don’t dump men they’re in love with.

She said “I really don’t feel anything about us, and it is better to end this.”

So what does that tell me? He probably pursued too much because his game wasn’t too tight. Even though he’s a stud. He’s a handsome guy. He has everything that all the Red Pill crybabies say that you got to have the date. But yet he had it all he’s dating the hot girl, but if you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch.

So you probably pursued too much, call too much, texted too much, and communicated that he was way more into her than she was into him. She probably tested him. He didn’t know he was being tested. He acted soft. He probably acted like a pleaser. He was jumping through his butt. He probably got a little dopey. I mean, all the things that pretty much all of us have done at one point, when we didn’t know any better, I certainly did all those things.

I begged, plead, and cry in front of her.

You remember the number one thing that women love in men is confidence. And begging and pleading and crying is not confident. It makes you look like a little girl. And it reaffirms to her. It’s like, man, I’m so glad I dumped that crybaby.

And that’s where I found your work. Right after the breakup, I watch 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back and applied it religiously.

It’s hard to do that, especially when you’re feeling the way you were feeling. But that’s what you have to do. Because what’s happened is women need time and space away from you to wonder about you, to think about you, to miss you, and for their feelings to grow. And what’s happening is when you smother her, you get those kinds of excuses, “I don’t really feel anything about us.” Remember, women don’t care what a great guy you are or how jacked you are or how much money you are.

They only care about how they feel about you. And so even though he had all these odds stacked in his favor, he got in the way of her falling deeply, head over heels in love. Because he just didn’t know. He didn’t know what he didn’t know. But then once he got kicked to the curb, then he changed his attitude and he changed his approach. So he’s applying 7 Principles To Get An Ex Back.

I also started reading your book and I read it three times in just two weeks.

So that’s what a serious student is going to do, and that’s a good start.

Two weeks exactly she messaged me again saying, “Can we talk? I don’t know what to do now.”

Because what happened is she was shocked that he just disappeared and walked away. Because the way she felt was she didn’t feel strong enough attraction. She knew he was a great guy. He’s handsome, he’s athletic, he’s popular, he’s charming, he’s confident. But her feelings weren’t there.

Remember, most women don’t understand how attraction works, especially in 18 year old hottie. He’s not going to understand. All she’s going to know is she’s not feeling it anymore. So when you just let it go, the feelings come back. Because she’s surprised that you just let her go.

And I applied what you teach, I send her the classic “Hey, good to hear from you again. I’d love to see you. When are you free to get together?”

That’s just totally copy and paste. But hey, it works. It’s direct. It’s decisive. It gets right to the point. You know why she’s contacting you. She’s just basically going. My feelings have returned and I’m attracted to you, and I’m kind of missing you.

And it’s confusing me. I don’t understand what the hell happened because I didn’t expect this to happen. I thought that was it. But of course, since he’s following yours truly and reading 3% Man, he’s like, I know what’s going on now.

And she immediately gives me her schedule and we made a definite date at evening to make dinner together.

At his place obviously.

And I can’t believe it works.

Well, women are like cats, dude. You don’t get caught up in their emotions, but it’s good because it was a wake up call for you. It was a wake up call that despite the fact you’re handsome and good looking and jacked and an athlete and popular, and you got all everything going for you, you acted like a bitch and she treated you like a bitch And then you walked away and you no longer acted like a bitch.

And then what happened? Her feelings crept back up on her. It is absolutely true that absence makes the heart grow fonder. And that’s what happened. She got to experience life without you. You’re totally together. And then all of a sudden, you’re a ghost to her, basically. And she didn’t like how that felt. That’s what’s going on there.

She said that she can’t believe that it’s been okay for me to not have her in my life.

Huh? I’m shocked. I’m so shocked.

In that two weeks without her, I started seeing another girl already so I am not in the scarcity mindset. After that, we are officially back, still maintaining my masculine Corey, we are having great 3 times a day sex, and I can say she is head-over-heels in love as I watch her interest level goes up.

Well, dude, it’s better to underrate it so easy. Slow your roll it usually takes about two months for her to really deeply, emotionally bond with you. And you know what? Maybe her dad’s also noticing she’s acting a little dopey and a little crazy. A little boy crazy over this guy.

And so he wants to make him; because probably she was like, oh, I’m not seeing him anymore. He’s a jerk or he’s a pussy or whatever. He’s a pushover or I’m just not feeling it. And now all of a sudden she’s in love with him. And the dad’s probably going, huh, that’s a little weird. And he’s going, mm.

But here’s my problem Coach. Her father become strict to her. fun fact, her father and my father are very close friends since high school.

Dude, you’re in like Flynn. You’re practically family.

Her father is kind of an alpha male, but I can look straight through his eyes and ask for her daughter if we can go out to have dinner. He just simply agrees. But when his daughter ask him if we can go out, he is saying that we can’t. My girl really wants to see me, but she don’t want to disobey her father.

So she respects her father. That’s a really good situation, and I want you to remember that because you’re going to mention that to her dad when you speak to him.

Yesterday, after my basketball game, me and my girl have a talk. She said I should talk to her father because she don’t know what to do.

Yep. You got to talk to daddy. You got to talk to the King. You got to go kiss the fucking ring. Go kiss the king’s ring. That’s what you got to go do. You got to reassure daddy that your intentions are pure. You really do care for his daughter, and you’re really grateful. And you also don’t want to disappoint him. And especially you don’t want to disappoint your father.

She said she wants to see me but can’t do anything because her father won’t agree. What should I do Coach? 

Bob

You gotta go talk to her dad. So call her dad up. Maybe take him to lunch. Or maybe just, you know, at a time when nobody’s there. Or call her dad and say, “hey, I wanted to, you know, I wanted to come by and talk to you. Your daughter expressed some concerns and, you know.” Or maybe if you’re on good enough terms, you just go over and knock on the door and just say, hey, I wanted to come by and chat because, you know, your daughter said that you weren’t okay with her going out and dating, and I wanted to come over and talk and see what we could do.

And, you know, because it seems like maybe you have some concerns or maybe I’ve done something to upset you and it’s like, I’m here. It’s like I really adore your daughter. We have a lot of fun together, and I really want to keep seeing her. She wants to keep seeing me. But obviously you have some concerns, so I’m here to address them. And it’s like, plus, you know, you and my dad have been, good friends since high school. And so I don’t want to disappoint you. I don’t want to especially disappoint my dad. And it’s like, what do I need to do? What do I need to do to give you a level of comfort?

What are the rules? What? How do you expect me to treat your daughter? What do you expect me to do? Should I call you every time we’re going to go out? It’s like, do you want me to share my location with you? What would you like me to do? It’s like because I really adore her. And I don’t want to disappoint you. And I especially don’t want to disappoint my dad because we’re all kind of family already. And, you know, I want everybody to look good. And I want you to be happy.

I want you to feel safe and secure that you trust me and that you know that your daughter is in good hands. So it’s like. And then just hear him out, hear what he has to say. And he’ll appreciate that. It’d be much better just to go over when you know he’s home. Maybe you can ask your girlfriend it’s like, hey, when is your dad home? And that I can come by and talk to him. When’s a good time? Where it’s convenient, where he and I can sit down on the front porch or whatever, and man to man have a talk.

Because in the old days, the old school, what used to happen is you would call and you would go by and you would talk to the father and say, hey, I would like to take your daughter out to dinner, or I would like to take her on a date. And he would say, well, these are the rules. Da da da da da da da da. Because he wants to know is that you’re even though he knows your father, maybe he’s got some concerns or maybe some things have happened, or maybe your daughter or his daughter has said some things.

And so he wants some reassurances, and he’s going to appreciate the fact that you’re man enough to come down to his house, to his castle, come to his kingdom and ask his permission to take his daughter out. And what are the rules? And whatever his rules are, you got to follow him. You got to respect the king. You got to kiss the ring. That’s what you got to do. You got to show him respect. And that way he’s like, if you’re man enough to come over there and you’re not acting like a little bitch and hiding from.

You come over there to talk to him face to face. And it’s like address. Whatever his concerns are, hear him out. Find out what his terms, his conditions, his rules are. I want you to feel comfortable that when your daughter is with me, she’s safe. And I’m looking out for her. I’m taking care of her like she’s my family. Because, quite frankly, no matter what happens with you and your daughter, it’s like if something happened and you were like, your son was a dickhead to my daughter or whatever, he’s like, my dad’s going to kick my ass. I was like, I don’t want my dad kicking my ass. I don’t want to disappoint my father.

I want my father to be going, you know the way you’ve been treating, you know, my best friend’s daughter or my good friend’s daughter is, you know, is really awesome. I really appreciate that you’ve been a gentleman about it. And I really appreciate that, man. It goes a long way. Going and talking to your girlfriend’s dad. And so again, go talk to him face to face. That’s what you need to do. Even your girlfriend told you that. You got to go talk to the dad. So obviously there is some concerns that he has and that’s why he’s not saying yes. So whatever they are, it’s like, you can here’s my phone, I’ll share my location with you.

If that’s what you need. So that way you always know where we are. It might even require it because again, she’s 18. He’s, you know, looking out for her. He probably knows that his daughter is a little bit of a hellion, and he probably suspects that you guys are, “Bom Chicka Wah Wah.” He might even be like, what are your intentions? He’s like, I adore her. We have such a good time together. It’s like, I want to keep dating her and see what happens. Ideally. I mean, I don’t want a fairy tale. I want to live happily ever after.

But this is not. It’s like, you know, your daughter is not some random chick I met on the internet. It’s like she’s a daughter of one of my father’s good friends in high school. And so I gotta make sure my dad’s happy with me. And I gotta make sure you’re happy with me because I don’t want to do anything to make my dad look bad or make me look bad, or get you upset or make your daughter look bad. It’s like, so whatever the rules are, you tell me. If I got to be back by a certain time, I will do that. And he’ll appreciate that. And if you go and do that, it’s everything should be fine.

That’s all you got to do, man. What you fear, you attract and what you look at disappears. And so, for whatever reason, her dad wants to sit you down and talk to you, and probably lay out some ground rules because he probably doesn’t want his daughter getting knocked up. He doesn’t want his daughter getting her heart broken or getting jerked around. And that’s all you have to do. And men really, really appreciate the fact that you’re willing to go do that. And it’s like, “what are the ground rules?” That’s it. He just wants to know that you’re going to take care of his princess and you’re going to treat her properly. That’s it.

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