Here’s a recent email I got from a new coaching client of mine. He’s a retired Army Vet, and he does a great job of taking onboard what I teach and applying it. This is what you want to strive to do. He’s met a new girl and wants to know what I think his chances are with her.
Corey,
I just wanted to drop in and say hello. I’ve been keeping up with the latest newsletters, (VERY INTERESTING). Also, I think I am going to buy that book that you recommend regarding the navy seal who was the soul survivor. That book looks really interesting.
As for everything else in my life, all is good thus far. Oh yeah, by the way, I watched your YouTube video newsletter, and I was shocked that you mentioned my latest success. Thanks brother. That helped boost up my confidence just that much more. I hope it did for all the other dudes out there that need it as well. As for my friend who I recommended to look you up, right now he is having money issues so, as a gift, I think I’m going to buy the book for him on his birthday. I showed it to him, and he couldn’t put it down, Lol.
Well, my latest encounter was with this female that said she wanted to hang out during my spring break, and emailed me her number about 8 days ago. I shot her a text yesterday telling her good morning, and she replied with “Good morning. How are you?” right away. Then I told her I was doing great, asked her if she had any plans tonight and asked if she wanted to go out for a drink.
She replied with, “I think some friends and I are going for a beer at Sammy C’s… not sure yet though,” so I replied with, “No worries then. Maybe next time.” Then she replied with, “You can join us, or we could meet up after at Coal Street Pub?” I didn’t reply back. Now keep in mind, this gal is very attractive, and from what my sister had mentioned, she always sees her with a different dude. Also, this Coal Street Pub that she mentioned is a very popular hangout in my home town, and given that it was St. Patty’s Day, it was going to be packed. What do you think brother? Is it worth my time to pursue, or not? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again Corey.
Very Respectfully,
Tom
Here’s my response to Tom:
Yeah, the book “Lone Survivor” by Marcus Luttrell is one of the most outstanding books I have ever read. (I actually listened to the audio book version. Tom was referring to my article, “The Ultimate Alpha Male.”)
I mentioned you in the YouTube video because you take onboard what I teach, and then you go out and take fearless action, (which, by the way, is very sexy to women), and get results. Some guys take months to do what you have done so far. Why? They have to get past their bullshit story they constantly use to justify and talk themselves out of taking any action to change their lives for the better. That way, at least for a while, they can still do nothing and complain about their circumstances. However, eventually it becomes too uncomfortable to stay where they are.
They start taking action, start getting some results, and this gives them the courage to take some more action, get more results and build their confidence up even more. Like Lao Tzu says, “Mastering others is strength, mastering yourself makes you fearless.” I want guys to do what you do. However, you are simply further along in your willingness to charge after what you want than most. You are a leader. You prove that with your actions. You talk the talk, and then you walk the walk. The better you feel about yourself, the more outgoing and happy you will become. This draws more women and choices to you. Thanks for the referral of your friend. Just tell him to go to my website and sign up for my FREE newsletter.
Now on to your new chick. This is a great interaction and I’m going to point some key things out in (parenthesis like this in your email):
Well, my latest encounter was with this female that said she wanted to hang out during my spring break and emailed me her number about 8 days ago. I shot her a text yesterday telling her good morning, and she replied with “Good morning. How are you?” right away. Then I told her I was doing great, asked her if she had any plans tonight and asked if she wanted to go out for a drink. (Great job in being direct! Textbook brother! Good job!) She replied with, “I think some friends and I are going for a beer at Sammy C’s… Not sure yet though” so I replied with, “No worries then. Maybe next time.”
(That is the called the take away. It causes a woman to reveal her true interest in you.)” Then she replied with, “You can join us, or we could meet up after at Coal Street Pub?” (That’s what we call a counter offer. It’s good you did not accept it. You want to spend time with her, not with any of her potentially cock-blocking friends or girlfriends. Make definite plans, not a definite ‘maybe she’ll call you later while you wait around at home for her to call you.’) I didn’t reply back. (I would have replied, “What other nights are you free this week?” Wait for her to respond, and then when she does, make definite plans on a night she is available.) Now keep in mind, this gal is very attractive, and from what my sister had mentioned, she always sees her with a different dude. (Most guys are pussies and don’t measure up. They talk her right out of sleeping with them. That is why she is always with a different guy. She’s probably dying to meet a guy with some confidence and who knows what to do.) Also, this Coal Street Pub that she mentioned is a very popular hangout in my hometown, and given it was St. Pattys Day, it was going to be packed. What do you think brother? (You did the right thing.) Is it worth my time to pursue or not? (Hell yeah!) Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks again Corey.
Next time, just ask her “What nights are you free this week?” and then make a definite date on one of those nights. This girl obviously has choices, (but so do you!). I am sure her phone is always blowing up with other guys trying to date her. The goal is to be quick on your feet. From her counter-offer response, it sounds like she wanted to meet up with you.
However, you just want to do it on your terms so nothing can interfere with the two of you trying to get to know each other. Be direct, but give women a bigger window of opportunity to meet up by asking them what days/nights are they free. I love your patience with this chick. That already sets you apart from every other guy she meets. If you have not spoken since, text her and ask what days is she free this week, and then make a definite date. Easy as pie.
I definitely want to talk more about this girl on our next coaching call, because I’ve got some more suggestions to help you with her and setting dates. Keep up the good work. You’re going master this stuff in no time!
From my heart to yours,
Corey
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