How 3% Man Helped Me Grow From A Broken Man Into Confident & Masculine

A 3% Man success story of how a man grew from broken into confident & masculine.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who shares how he was a broken & codependent man in a toxic relationship into a successful entrepreneur and a healthy relationship. He talks about the process of what he went through and how 3% Man and Mastering Yourself helped him to reach his full potential. He’s engaged and planning his life with his bride to be. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “How 3% Man Helped Me Grow From A Broken Man Into Confident & Masculine”.

So I’ve got another success story. You may have noticed a little bit of a change of scenery. We just had our move yesterday, so shit’s everywhere. So bear with us as we get the studio put back together in our new location. But in honor of our new location, we got a success story.

I would assume it’s probably several years in the making. So this particular email, he says he was a broken man. He was codependent, in a toxic relationship. And ultimately that’s when he came across my work many years ago. And so he talks about the process that he went through.

He read 3% Man many, many times. Mastering Yourself many, many times. And so it just shows. And also on top of that, he’s now a very successful entrepreneur and he’s engaged to his fiancé, who’s easygoing, easy to get along with. She’s nice to him, drama free, just like I say you want to be with.

So let’s see what has happened here.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach Corey,

I wanted to say thank you and share a success story. I found your work after a brutal on‑again, off‑again relationship with a woman who had strong BPD traits.

Borderline personality disorder. You’re not going to have an easy and effortless relationship with somebody that’s got problems like that. Especially when they haven’t addressed them because a lot of people won’t.

I was completely heartbroken, trauma‑bonded, and confused, and I later realized I’d fallen in love with a fantasy version of her and with the Disney fairy‑tale programming I grew up with.

Well, we’re all getting propagandized by the same TV and movie shows or pictures, I should say.

Your book, How to Be a 3% Man became my roadmap out of that mess – between reading the book and listening on Audible, I’ve gone through it about 30 times.

So always the good success stories are guys; you know, I say 10 to 15 times, but guys that really take it seriously, they’re going to read it 20, 30 times, they’re going to get to know the material so well, they could teach a class on it. They don’t have to think about it anymore. And the book at the end of the day is a cheat codes to life for your personal and your professional relationship.

And I also went through Mastering Yourself both in print and on Audible around 10–15 times.

There’s a ton of business and life wisdom, mindset wisdom, discovering your purpose in Mastering Yourself. And if you’re new and you haven’t read any of my books, you can read them at UnderstandingRelationships.com. Just subscribe to the Email Newsletter. Just put your name, your email address, create a password and 3% Man will open up right in your web browser.

There’s little tabs so you can switch back and forth between Mastering Yourself, 3% Man, plus the first Quotes book is in there as well. Quotes, Ruminations, & Contemplations. So even if you think I’m totally full of crap, the books are free to read. You get to try before you buy.

You can read them right on my Website, and then once you see how well they work, then you can go get an audiobook or a paperback or a digital version of it, or a hardcover for that matter. They make great gifts. Sharing is caring.

Together, those books were the foundation for me rebuilding my self‑worth, confidence, and masculine identity. Since then, I’ve devoted my life to self‑help, self‑improvement, and entrepreneurship. I now own a successful electrical contracting business and am actively chasing my dreams of doing more medium‑voltage and line work.

Medium line work? I assume that’s like power lines and stuff like that.

I’ve built a solid base in rental real estate and other investment programs, and I’m consistently executing on the important goals I’ve set for myself, including handcrafting an engagement ring for my beautiful fiancée.

So that shows that he cares. He’s not just buying a ring, he’s getting one custom made for him because he cares. Because she earned it.

The old “Captain Save‑a‑hoe” version of me is gone; I lead, I set and enforce boundaries, and I feel like a true 3% man. The biggest proof is in my relationships. I stayed in no contact with my ex, did the work, and eventually met a genuinely good woman. I’m now engaged to a beautiful fiancée, and our relationship is calm.

Remember, masculinity is calm. You attract how you act. That’s why you’ve got to become what you want to attract. Again, when you read the book 30 times, you read Mastering Yourself ten times you just know the material backwards and forwards. You literally could teach it. It’s in your mind. It reprograms your brain to think in ways that create abundance in your life and attract the things you want in your personal and your professional life naturally, easily, and effortlessly.

Because you’re calm and you’re relaxed and you’re successful. You’re just going to be attracting other people like that. I mean, everybody loves to be around successful people that are doing well, that are friendly, that are outgoing, that are just fun to be around.

Our relationship is calm, loving, and drama‑free in a way I couldn’t even imagine back when I was stuck in that toxic cycle. Funny enough, after close to a decade of no contact, my ex recently resurfaced with a trivial text about still getting my power‑outage alerts – and for the first time in my life, I felt nothing but mild amusement and gratitude that I’d done the work and moved on.

Success is the best revenge. And when somebody like that that did you dirty reaches back out and it was almost ten years. Yeah, a decade. Ten years later, she reaches out. You’re a completely different person, a completely better version of who you are. And you have peace, and you upgraded. Success is always the best revenge.

Your material was the catalyst that started all of this. I just wanted you to know that your books and videos helped transform a broken, codependent guy into a confident, masculine man with a great woman and a life he’s building on his own terms.

Well, that’s what self-reliance is all about.

I hope my story inspires other men who are where I once was to stick with the process and do the work.

Thank you,

Bob

Well at the end of the day everything in life is a series of processes when it comes to taking care of your body. Exercising, Juicing, Green Smoothies, Network Chiropractic Care, getting plenty of sleep. There’s a process to that. When it comes to figuring out what your purpose is in life and what you really want to do to reach your full potential, there’s a process to that.

When it comes to growing a successful business, there’s a process to that. And my books give you the processes and the mindsets that you can apply to any field that you want to get into. Because really the hardest part about life is learning to deal with the conversation that’s happening between your ears.

And despite looking around the world and not seeing things as the way you want, even when success is very incremental and long in coming, you’re committed to the process. Professional athletes in the NFL, Major League Baseball, Soccer, Basketball, that’s what they do. Success is a process. They commit to the process.

You look at somebody like a Steph Curry, I can’t remember how many. There’s a couple hundred free throws. He has three point free throws that he makes every day when he practices. That’s his process of just over and over and over and over and over of repetition.

Same thing when you’re trying to figure out what you want to do, or you’re trying to build a business, or you’re figuring out a marketing plan for it, or what kind of structure you want to have. There’s a process to that, and you can’t get stopped by the first obstacle or challenge that you encounter. You’ve got to keep moving forward. You learn from everything that happens.

And ultimately, we learn most from our failures and things that don’t go well. And like in this guy’s case, he’s moving away from all the pain that he experienced in that old relationship and that old version of him towards the vision that he set for himself. And he used the wisdom that I shared with him to have a great success story to share with you guys.

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