How Being Indifferent Attracts Women & Eliminates Your Competition

How being indifferent to women attracts them and eliminates your male competition.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a viewer in Australia who shares several success stories of how reading 3% Man, 32 times has helped him to land women he used to dream about having. He describes his recent interactions in detail with a female coworker who was being pursued by another male coworker unsuccessfully, but how being indifferent caused her to become aggressive to the point that she texted him about getting together for a date! My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Video Newsletter is, “How Being Indifferent Attracts Women & Eliminates Your Competition.”

Well, this is an email success story. And this is a really good email because I get these questions a lot from time to time. Guys asking me about girls from the office or girls they work with, how to tactfully approach them. And this guy does a really great job of implementing what he’s learned in 3% Man. He shares a bunch of success stories he’s had over the years implementing it. He says he’s read The Book 32 times, and that’s why this is going to be a good success story. So you got a couple of things going on here.

He shares the successes that he’s had, especially hooking up with some women that he’s known his whole life since he was a kid and all. He’s had a fantasy. And got to experience that. But what’s really cool about this particular situation at work is that you got a guy who’s following this girl around trying to date her, or trying to seduce her and not making any progress.

And this guy is just being completely indifferent. He’s mysterious. And the girl is actually following him around. And what you’ll see by the end of the email, the other guy is trying hard and this guy is doing nothing, and then she ends up reaching out to him, to ask him to do something together.

So it’s just a really good email that shows being an attractive male applying what’s in The Book. If you have women that you work with, how powerful this can be. Even when there are dudes that your coworkers may be chasing after them, or even saying crap about you trying to cock block you, that they’ll actually push these other dudes away, these beta male orbiters away and become more aggressive.

And make it really crystal clear that they’re into you to make it easy for you to do something outside of work so you don’t have to risk anything at the office or take any risk of rejection or anything like that, because this woman is the one that does all of the pursuing.

And this is, quite frankly, the way it should be. So it’s a great email. And how, especially when you have women that you work with and ones that you know that are attracted, how just being indifferent, the right way to display it, to cause them to become more attracted, more aggressive, and to be the ones that ask you out or invite you to do things with them.

Viewer’s Email:

Greetings Corey,

Hope things are going well in Florida. I am writing to you not because I have a success story that ends in the Indoor Olympics™ But rather an interesting set of events that perfectly demonstrate how indifference makes the difference with women. For context, I am an Australian man in his mid twenties who has followed your work since June of 2021.

So exactly three years.

I have read 3% Man 32 times.

So that’s at least ten times a year. And then I’ve done plenty of emails over the years where guys are like, “yeah, I’ve been following you five years, and I just now got through The Book one time.” So people that are serious about their success, they really take the time to learn the information backwards and forwards.

So when they’re interacting with women in the real world, they’re not overthinking it. They’re not in their head. They’re not acting like a robot. They come off as natural, smooth, easygoing, easy to get along with, mysterious and very attractive to the ladies, to the point where the ladies are the ones being the aggressors.

I have read 3% Man 32 times and Mastering Yourself 3 times and counting. In that time I have had some harsh lessons and great successes. Including hooking up with a bridesmaid (dream come true) of a girl who I’ve been friends with since Kindergarten.

So the dude got his kindergarten crush. Now that they’re all grown up and in their 20’s. Interesting.

I work with two very beautiful girls at our automotive store. One is 18, the other 23. Both of which get showered in male attention by co-workers. One in particular, we will call Bob.

Beta male Bob or Beta Bob. We’ll call him Beta Bob I like that. Just make that up on the fly.

(Beta) Bob goes up to the front constantly to orbit around them. Both of these girls, I will joke and banter with when I see them, but I never go out of my way to get their attention; I am simply doing what I need to get done before the day is out.

So in other words, if he encounters them, he’s like, hey, what are you guys up to? Hey, what are you doing? He’s cracking a joke. He’s teasing them playfully. You know, if it’s raining out and they come in, the hair is all frizzy. Bad hair day. It’s always a good one.

Whenever they see me they’re grinning like the village idiot and love it when I decide to ride my bike in. Especially the 18 year old. I am also a firm believer in not shitting where you eat.

 Well, if you are going to shit where you eat, you got to make sure you really like the girl. She’s not crazy. She treats you good because if it doesn’t work out and there’s butthurt hard feelings nine times out of ten, especially if you’re a business owner, the girl ends up leaving and you lose a good employee. So you got to make sure that if you’re going to fish off the company pier, that it’s worth the downside risk, and most importantly, that she’s the one being the aggressor.

Because we obviously we live in the #MeToo era. And quite frankly, if you behave the ways that are in The Book, women are going to go out of their way to try to get you to pay attention to them and choose them. Which is the best place to be. Because if they’re being aggressive and coming after you, you really don’t have to worry about anything.

I wanted to write to you about the training night that we just had. I turn up to work at 5PM to for a mandatory training session. When I walked in I immediately saw Bob talking to the 23 year old and could tell straight away that today she was distant from him. He was driving the conversation and she was just sort of present. Bob has been talking to her for months and nothing yet has happened.

Just imagine all the mental and emotional energy that Beta Bob is going through, trying to win this girl over. Looking for the right opportunity to make a move. And meanwhile, our emailer is just showing up on his motorcycle looking like a bad boy that he probably is. And the girls are like, what’s up with that guy?

I walked past them both saying hello while making my way to the break room for the training. To my surprise the 18 year old was sick that night as she is fit as a fiddle and takes her health seriously.

But she wasn’t there.

I sat in my favorite seat on the other side of the doorway, and of all the other chairs that were free, she decides to sit next to me.

Isn’t that interesting? This is what women do when they like you. They come and they put themselves near you. They typically will not ask you out, but you’ll see this girl just gets to the point where she can’t help herself. And plus, with Beta Bob chasing after her all the time and making her feel uncomfortable and knowing that she could always have him, she doesn’t want him. She wants the dude on a motorcycle.

She then asks me questions about the meeting then about myself. What I’ve been doing this week and how I learnt to ride.

So women ask you personal questions when they’re interested. And this guy’s not doing anything. He’s just showing up.

I gave her short and funny answers whilst.

Whilst. That still cracks me up. All these years, all these decades later. Whilst. People in the UK and Australia. Whilst.

Asking her about herself to see what she was actually like. The entire duration of this meeting, her feet were pointed towards me and her arm touching mine on the armrest. The entire time Bob was watching with envious eyes.

It’s probably pissing him off.

After that meeting, we moved onto the floor to have a zoom conference with other stores and the regional manager. When I sat down, she once again sat next to me, even when Bob had specifically reserved a seat for her.

Poor Bob, it sucks to be a Beta male Bob.

Even telling another co-worker that it was for her.

No, that’s for so and so. You can’t sit there. I’m saving this seat for her because she’s gonna like me. Meanwhile, she goes and sits next to the dude who drove in on his motorcycle.

After the conference, we then walked around the store with the managers pointing out the changes that are going to be made. As we walked, I saw in the corner of my eye that Bob was constantly following her around, whilst she was looking for ways to escape him.

See, Beta Bob is the one that causes the me too issues, whereas our emailer, he’s not doing anything.

I couldn’t help but notice that every once in a while, she would magically pop up beside me leaving little personal space when I was listening to what the Managers had to say.

See how subtle that is? They just stand next to you and nudge you. Bump into you. Hey, hey, pay attention to me. Why doesn’t he like me? Why isn’t he choosing me? Why isn’t he hit on me? Bob’s always hitting on me, but he never hit on me. They care about the guy that’s not interested. You know why? Because this forces women to do what they’re designed to do, which is, to get a man’s attention with their beauty.

Beta Bob doesn’t understand this. And besides, in a work environment, it’s much better to behave the way the guy who’s read My Book 32 times behaves. Because you can get the girl and keep your job and have minimal to no downside risk.

Afterwards when the training night was over, she followed me to my car as she had “never seen a car like mine before” and that she “wanted to have a look”.

I’ll bet she wanted to have a look. She wanted you to check her oil.

We ending up chatting for a little longer, all the while she was touching my arm and playing with her hair.

Remember he doesn’t want to screw around. He doesn’t want to shit where he eats. He’s enjoying the flirtation. He’s enjoying the attention. Treats her like a bratty little sister occasionally. Meanwhile, Bob is always lingering. Poor beta Bob.

I then ended the conversation by saying I wanted to get home for an early night’s sleep and will see her next time. Not even two days later I got a message off of her asking what I was doing this weekend and if I do doubles on my bike.

We can do doubles on my bike in my garage with the door down. Unless she’s very voyeuristic and would like the door up a little bit.

I thought this would be an interesting story to share with you, as by applying what I have learnt in the book and embodying it, I have now unintentionally attracted my co-worker.

I hope you have a good one Coach

Regards,

Bob

Unintentionally. Sure. Well, you don’t really have any competition. Like, what do you expect is going to happen? Of course they’re going to be attracted to the most masculine guy, the bad boy on the motorcycle, who seems to not be that interested.

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