How Corey Wayne Helped Me Reach My Full Potential

How to reach your full potential even when you’ve hit rock bottom.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a 13 year long success story in the making and how 3% Man, & Mastering Yourself, helped him to turn his life around after he hit rock bottom and thought his life was over and considered ending it all at one point. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “How Corey Wayne Helped Me Reach My Full Potential.”

Well, I’ve got a success story for you that’s about 13 years in the making. This guy has been following me for that long. He’s been following me since 2013, when he was 17. And now he’s basically 30 years old. That’s a long, almost half of his life he’s been following me. That’s pretty crazy. So it’s sort of, you know, we had a lot of ups and downs. He got married, got divorced.

He had a point in his life where after he got divorced, he was like, he was seriously considering ending it all. And some things clicked for him. He got back into the work, started reading it, and now life is better than ever. So life is a long journey, and the kind of stuff that I teach is not the kind of thing that fixes your life overnight. It’s usually many months, many years to really make your life the way you want it.

Like I said, when you look at great successes in life, it always takes ten years or more. So you got to learn to think in terms of decades if you want great success in your life. Great things take time. Most people, 99.99% of people don’t come up with a business idea, and six weeks later they’re millionaires. It just doesn’t work like that. The average person has got to work for things.

Viewer Email:

Hey Corey,

This message has been over a decade in the making. I found your work back in 2013 when I was 17, and over the years, I’ve read or listened to How to Be a 3% Man at least 30 to 40 times—and Mastering Yourself about five times. Your content played a huge role in shaping the man I’ve become, even though the journey hasn’t been easy or linear.

Well, that’s pretty much everybody’s life, dude. Success is not a straight line. It’s just like this squiggly thing. It’s just. And the tough thing is you just got to keep moving forward, you know? Life is fucking hair floating around. Life is hard. It’s difficult. It’s long. You have constant setbacks. Things go sideways, things start to look good for a bit, and you’re like, “finally I’ve made it.” And then something happens. It’s, you know, you gotta learn to roll with the punches and always have the attitude of, “hey, what’s good about this? What can I learn from this? How can I become better? How can I improve? What do I need to change in my approach? What things can I do more of that I’ve worked in the past?” His life is just not easy. It requires your participation. You must participate in your own rescue.

At 19, I used what I learned to attract my now ex-wife. Like many young men, I made the mistake of settling down with the first beautiful woman who was really into me.

So it doesn’t sound like he really paid much attention to vetting her. Character is destiny.

We were together for five years and had two children. But due to my unresolved childhood trauma, mental health struggles, and anger issues, the relationship fell apart. She left me. Once I got comfortable in the relationship, I forgot all about the book and eventually became a person that I don’t even recognize today. Dishonest, disloyal, lying, cheating and verbally, mentally abusive.

It’s like, wow, dude. Talk about coming off the rails.

From age 24 to 28, I felt completely lost. I couldn’t even drive for a long time due to unpaid vehicle taxes, and I didn’t sign my first lease on an apartment of my own until just this past January.

This is like learned helplessness. So you tell he hit the wall, his life came apart, and he just kind of tapped out and didn’t really make much of an effort to get by.

But the one thing that kept me going was MMA. I’ve been on that path for four years now. About a year and a half ago, I hit rock bottom. I stopped fighting and seriously considered ending it all.

Well, for all guys, it’s like, you know, when you look at your life and you look around and you’re like, I fucking regress. My life’s a mess. Success is making progress. And in order to feel successful and happy, you got to feel like you’re making progress towards your grandest goals and dreams. And when you go from having a family and kids, and then you totally fuck it up and you’re couch surfing or whatever this guy was doing to get by during that time, it’s pretty hard to look at your life and going, oh yeah, I’m getting closer. Any day things are going to turn around. You know, you got to participate in your own rescue. And so it’s pretty clear he wasn’t doing anything.

I believed the only way to be taken seriously as a fighter was to be broke, desperate, and hungry.

Yeah, I guess if you look at what Conor McGregor went through with his wife, you know, because there’s a lot of stories of guys that had nothing. And, you know, the his in his case, his wife stuck with him when they had nothing. They didn’t have a pot to piss in. And so there’s a lot of that in the MMA world. And so like even my brother, I you know, he was always looking at guys like Sly Stallone, all these other people that basically became broke or homeless. Like Sly Stallone famously, if you ever saw the original Rocky the Dog Butkus, I was like a bulldog. I think, he actually sold the dog for a couple of hundred dollars to a guy because he couldn’t afford.

He had no money to buy a dog food, and he needed the cash. And he thought, I’ll sell it to somebody that’ll take good care of him. And, um, and so after he got his movie signed, I think he had to give that guy, like, $10,000 because the guy got attached the dog, he wanted to buy him back. He’s like, no, I’m not selling him. And so he had to give the guy I think was like $10,000 and a part in the movie, and it gave him a little bit part in the movie. I can’t remember which character he was, but it was like a cameo type thing. So ten G’s and he sold the dog for a couple hundred bucks, ten G’s, and a part in the movie to get his dog back because, you know, I think it was his name was Butkus.

But you see that? And it’s like even my brother hopped on a plane. He had like $100 in his account, and he’s like, I’m gonna go make it in Hollywood. And he flew out to Hollywood and he slept on a bench for like, um, like, I guess a week or two or whatever. Met some other homeless guys, and I kind of showed him the ropes, and, um, there was somebody banging on the slab. So the dogs think it’s fucking knocking on the door, and, uh. And he ended up getting, like, a ticket for sleeping on a park bench. So, you know, it’s like, if you see that a lot. Oh, well, this must be the path to redemption. And so this guy sounds like he kind of got influenced by that a little bit.

That belief nearly destroyed me. I purposely brought hardship on myself to fit that classic story about fighters. But I finally made the choice to live my own story, I’ve had more struggles in my 30 years on earth than most people do in 100. But over the past three months, everything changed. I fully committed to rebuilding myself from the ground up. I started training hard again. I became consistent with posting on Instagram and YouTube. I took a restaurant management job that sent me out of state for training, and during those seven weeks, I doubled down on discipline, routine, and vision.

Surrounded by beautiful younger women all vying for my attention, I realized something: I was finally becoming the kind of man I’d always wanted to be—physically, mentally, spiritually. I’m attractive, turning 30 soon, in shape, and clearly look like an MMA fighter. I used to entertain low-quality hookups out of insecurity or habit, but I’ve recently had a huge internal shift. I got control of my urges, something I’ve struggled with for over a decade due to early trauma and addiction to porn and sex.

Yeah, that’s a bad way to go to get involved in that stuff.

Then, right before finishing my training, a young woman who had clearly been interested for weeks made a move. She was gorgeous—tall, brunette, fit, sweet—and we ended up spending a couple of incredible days together. The first night we hung out, she completely blew off hanging out with her roommate and later in the night her roommate called me worried she wasn’t answering lol.

Must have been a good date.

She also commented how surprised she was that I took her to dinner, then bowling, then on a drive, she said she halfway expected me to take her straight to my hotel. She was intense, I could tell she’d been dying to tear my clothes off for weeks lol. She said I was the first guy to ever make her finish, that she wants to come visit me back home, all the usual. I just kept it light and fun, but It wasn’t just about sex; it was fun, playful, and we had a great connected. For the first time in a long while, I felt like a man again. Confident. Present. Free. 

So if you notice what happened here, he completely started focusing on himself in his life and becoming a competent and confident man. And women notice these things. And so she noticed it and she approached him. This is what happens when you really develop yourself and get a great life and lifestyle, and a life that you’re happy of happy about and that you’re proud of. Because if you’re not happy about your life and you’re not proud of it. She’s not going to be either. So first and foremost, you got to get to a happy place. You shouldn’t have the mindset of I’ll meet a girl and then we’ll get happy together. Because then you end up attracting somebody that’s also unhappy. And so you want to get to a happy place so you can attract somebody who’s also happy, and then you can share your completeness and your happiness together.

To top it all off, the week before I returned home, an old employer I loved working for offered me a better-paying position with more flexible hours. Now, I have structure, income, time to train, time to post, and most importantly—time to be with my daughters. I wanted to thank you for being a part of my journey. Your work planted seeds that stuck with me even when I was at my lowest. And if I could pass on one lesson to your audience, it would be this: “When I stopped obsessing over fixing myself and started asking God how I could serve others, everything started to change.”

Well, anything in life. Especially as a man, when you’re choosing your purpose and your mission in life. If you’re an entrepreneur like me, the one thing you should always focus on is finding a way to add value. I talked about that in Mastering Yourself, and that’s the one thing that is the common thread in all of my businesses that I’ve had. It’s in the business I have here. I’m always thinking in terms of how I’m going to do something, or film a video or do livestreams or Members Only Content. What’s the value proposition? What value am I adding to people’s lives? And so when you focus, because the other interesting thing is one of our six human needs is contribution.

And so when you focus on contributing to other people and making their lives better. You fulfill all other five needs. Your other five needs are certainty, variety, significance, love and connection and growth as in spiritual growth. And so when you focus on contributing to other people or adding value, things seem to fall in place and you do things that reward you. Because when it comes to getting compensated, we get paid based upon the value that we bring to the marketplace. We get paid for developing our gifts, our skills, and our talents.

So that’s what you’re noticing this guy is doing. Going to the gym. All those things. Eating right. Stop watching porn. Stop doing things that are a waste of your time and aren’t adding any value to your life. And so when you focus on adding value to other people’s lives and adding value in business or career, Then the opportunities come along and so do the women, they just start showing up. Because women are attracted to confidence and competence. And it’s easy to spot somebody that’s competent.

I believe our mission in life is to identify the pain that’s plagued us, heal it, and then teach others how to do the same. That’s why I fight—not just to win, but to inspire. To show the forgotten, the broken, the ones society labels “trash,” that they have the power to turn it all around. This week I even released a short, free eBook about my journey—from my darkest moments to a life of discipline and purpose through diet, exercise, and consistency. Within two days, I had my first three downloads. That meant more to me than anything since becoming a father.

Thanks again for everything you’ve done. You helped me find the light.

All the best,

Bob

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