How Corey Wayne Helped Save Our Relationship & Now We’re Married!

How Corey Wayne’s work can help to save your relationship if it’s not working.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a female viewer who shares how my work helped her husband to overcome the loss of all his family members and to help him show up and be present and be a great lover and teammate. This led to them becoming closer and eventually getting married over the past 8 years. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “How Corey Wayne Helped Save Our Relationship & Now We’re Married!”

So these two, this is actually from this guy’s wife. And she writes a really nice email talking about how eight years ago, her husband was in a very dark place, and he came across my work. And so there are several instances over the last eight years where, I mean, he had like family members just dropped like flies in a really short period of time. It’s awful. You know, we basically lost all of his family over the course of about a year, a year and a half.

And so that’s going to take its toll on you. That’s not easy when everybody you love, everybody you look up to just gets wiped out in a short period of time. I mean, it happens to all of us, but that’s tough to deal with. And so she shares how my work enabled him to get through that, while also remaining present and being a good boyfriend and then later a great husband.

Viewer Email:

Corey,

My husband 8 years ago was in a dark place when the person that meant most to him passed, and he felt alone and was a definitely an introvert. He decided to read and learn from you and because of that we talked, we went on the best first date ever. He listened and asked questions and kept my focus like you taught.

Then we kept dating. We got engaged and now have been married for over a year. Your words helped him get out of his shell. He is always telling me it was because of you! Then our life 4 years ago took a turn for the worst he lost his sister, mother, cousin, grandfather and then a year and a half ago lost his father.

It’s like, damn, that’s awful. That’s a tough; that’s life, man. It’s like things are going great and then you lose a bunch of people you love. That’s the way life is. Like the way Andy Andrews describes it. He says, “we’re either in a crisis, headed for a crisis or coming out of a crisis.” That’s fucking life. So you just have to learn to deal with that shit and get past it, because it’s going to happen to you as well. It’s going to happen to me. It happens all of us.

Nobody gets out of life alive. We all turn to dust in the end. Everyone you love, everything you build eventually is “poof.” It’s fucking gone. So you got to find a way to be of service. And to enjoy your life and share it with people you love and who hopefully love you back because it’s not going to last.

All his family was gone, and he again went back into his hole. It was right before our wedding and again he read your instructions on how to be present with me, so we didn’t lose ourselves. Thank you again. But our intimacy obviously was down because of his sadness and guilt. He felt he should be grieving not enjoying himself.

Well, when you lose all his family members, you got to remember, especially your parents. What parents want for their kids is they want you to be happier, more successful and better shape. Find somebody better. They loved you. And all around just have a better life and be happy. That’s what all parents want. And so feeling bad and denying yourself joy and love.

No parent, no family member that truly loves you and cares about you is going to be okay with that. The best way you can honor their memory is fucking rock out your cock out, and enjoy your life to its fullest extent.

And he never initiated, and I felt like I forced him to be intimate, but I know it wasn’t the case he was in pain.

So you’re being a good wife. The fact that he was checked out. And what did you do? You focused on making him happy and giving him happy finishes, even when he felt like he didn’t deserve it. That’s awesome. Because quite frankly, most women would not. They’d be like, “you’re not doing this. You’re not doing that. The box is closed.”

Well I went to help my mother through open heart surgery, and my trip was longer than we planned, and he felt alone and depressed and went for your advice again and you help him learn he needs to initiate sometimes and take my “panties off” he calls it.

Yep. You’re supposed to lead 2 to 3 times a week, even when you don’t feel like it. This is like, when you’re going through a period like this and you’re really struggling, and your girl is, you know, getting a little frisky. The last thing you want to do is lay the pipe when you’re grieving, but it’s required. You got to be disciplined. You got to do your duty, and you got to keep your girl properly fucked. Statistically, at least 2 to 3 times a week is what all, you know, what most marriages and long term relationships, it’s the one thing they have in common, is 2 to 3 times a week.

When it’s less than two times a week. Usually in the long run, it doesn’t work out. So as a man, especially the longer you’re together, just shit like it’s going to happen and you’re not going to feel like laying the pipe, and sometimes you’re just going to have to, because there’s going to be times where the shoes on the other foot. Where she’s not going to feel like it, and you’re going to want to bust a nut, and she’s going to do it because she loves you and she wants to make you happy. That’s what a good woman will do, even when she doesn’t feel like it.

Well let me tell you something your relationship is the best it’s been and every time you have helped him when he was low and because of you we found each other and have an amazing marriage, we’re best friends and lovers. We are empathetic and understanding towards each other because of you. You probably get these all the time.

I do. But it’s really nice to see from time to time.

But this is something kind of silly, would you be open to sending a signed picture or a note to him?

Well, how about the video? I don’t do sign pictures because that’s just fucking weird. It’s just imagine this. Imagine somebody coming up to you and going, “oh, can I have a signed picture, please? Can I have your autograph?” You’re like, what? Why are you gonna do that? So the way I prefer it is, this email and the video. There you go. You got a video dedicated to the two of you and your beautiful love story.

You made our lives for the better and we would love to have you somewhere in our home. 

Thank you and sincerely the happiest wife anyone could have.

Well, you got this video. You can always review it. That just sounds weird. Having my picture in your home like a shrine, it’s like, don’t do that. It’s not. It’s just weird. Again, how would you feel if somebody’s like, I got a shrine in. Oh my God. Pictures of you. You’re like, why? I’m just an average, pasty white guy from Pompano Beach, Florida. But I appreciate the thought, and I appreciate the fact that you took the time to write this in, because you’re going to help a lot of people over the coming years that are going to be skeptical of me, and they’re going to come across this and go, wow, it was a really good success story.

That’s very beautiful. So thank you for sharing. Congratulations to you both. Congratulations on your love story. And as Jocko Willing says, “discipline equals freedom.” Make sure that you both keep each other properly fucked, even when you don’t feel like it. It really is super important for the health and the long term survivability of your beautiful marriage. Thank you for sharing.

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