In life we tend to get what we focus on consistently with our thoughts, emotions and the actions we take. However, how many people ever actually take the time to sit down and write out exactly what they want in their perfect ideal mate? Very few.
If you are single and hoping to attract the perfect woman for you, you must have a plan and know what you are looking for. Think about it this way, one of the world’s most successful and wealthiest companies is Apple Inc. It’s a multi-billion-dollar company that has added tremendous value to millions of people’s lives around the world. However, back in the mid-1990s, it was only weeks away from going bankrupt and disappearing forever. When one of the original founders Steve Jobs, was hired back as CEO to save it from bankruptcy, do you know how he turned it around and set it on the path to become one of the most valuable corporations on the planet that it is today? Focus, that’s how he turned Apple around.
When he first took over, Apple was making all kinds of products that were good, but not great. He got them to focus on doing one thing extremely well. That was, making really great computers that simply worked. You are the CEO of your own love life. Do you know exactly what you are looking for in the perfect woman for you? If you don’t, then you are setting yourself up for a life of dating and relationship mediocrity, and simply taking whatever you can get, which is usually nothing for most guys. Here is how you can attract the perfect woman for you so you can be loved and appreciated like you really deserve.
I am going to share with you a few of the exercises found in my book so you can get focused like a laser beam to attract the perfect woman for you. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE. Have you ever started looking for a new car to purchase, and then find a model you really like that you never noticed before? Then as soon as you find a model you like, you see them seemingly everywhere on the road? That is the power of focus. Just imagine that you want to drive your car from Florida, all the way to California. Let’s assume your car does not have a navigation system. Do you think it would be a good idea to jump in your car and just start driving and hoping that someday you will end up in California? Of course not. If you had no navigation system, and you wanted to get there as quickly and as efficiently as possible, you’d have some maps and driving directions. Entering the dating world in order to find the perfect woman for you without knowing what you are looking for, is like trying to drive across country without any idea how you are going to get there. Your chances of succeeding are pretty slim.
Take out a sheet of paper and divide that sheet of paper into two columns. Label the left hand column, “qualities I must have a woman.” Label the right-hand column, “qualities I won’t put up with in a woman.” If you can have a woman who is exactly what you want, what would she be like? How tall would she be? Would her hair be straight, long, curly, short, brown, black, red, etc.? What would her skin be like? Would she have freckles? Would she have a dark tan, would she be fair skinned, black, etc.? What would her body shape be like? Would she be in great shape, or do you like a woman with a little extra weight on her body? What kinds of things would she be interested in? Would she be religious, a Christian, a Muslim, spiritual, atheist, Buddhist, not religious at all, etc.? Would she be into sports or not? What kinds of hobbies would she have that are similar to your hobbies? Would she like the water, or would she be more of a farm girl, etc.? Would she be an intellectual or just a simple girl?
As far as the qualities that you don’t want in a woman, or qualities that are deal breakers for you, what would they be? Dishonest, a liar, devious, short tempered, impulsive, terrible communicator, unfaithful, disloyal, selfish, unaffectionate, etc.? What’s important to you? Write everything down that comes to mind as fast as you can write it. It’s okay if it takes up several pages. The key is to write everything down that you feel in your heart, and that comes to mind without any judgment. The idea is to get in the flow and let it rip so you can write it all down on paper.
Now once you are completely finished, go through the list on each column and circle your top 10 to 15 traits in each column. Now that your list is done of ideal qualities and dealbreaker qualities, we can move on to the next step, which is the love letter exercise. Take out another sheet of paper. Now I want you to write the most passionate love letter that you can think of. The key is to imagine that this perfect ideal woman is already in your life, and that you both are head over heels in love with each other. Just imagine that you are pouring your heart out on Valentine’s Day and describing and writing to her what you love most about her, and why you love her so much. The key is to focus on what you feel towards her. You must engage your emotions.
Once your list is completed and your love letter is finished, you should review them every day. Maybe you even tape them to your medicine cabinet door. The key is to put them somewhere where you will see them and review them every day. You get what you focus on life. Now that you know what you are looking for, I guarantee you as you go about your daily life, you will have the same experience that I talked about with the car earlier. It’s really bizarre how this works. But you will notice yourself noticing women that look physically exactly like what you have described. You will also scratch your head wondering where all these women came from that match your description. When you meet the woman you have described and you are ready and open to meet her, she will simply show up, and interacting with her will be pretty easy and effortless. Until you have experienced what this feels like in person, you will not realize how magical and life-changing that moment will be.
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