How To Avoid Being Beta Bob & Harry Honda The Side Piece

How to avoid being a Beta Bob & Harry Honda her disposable side piece.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a guy who appears to have low integrity. He became Beta Bob and Harry Honda the side piece of a woman who lived with her boyfriend. Eventually, she moved out but also stopped seeing him romantically. Now he only hears from her when she needs a favor. He’s stuck in limbo as karma for trying to rip off another man’s woman. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “How To Avoid Being Beta Bob & Harry Honda The Side Piece.”

Well, this particular email is from a guy who quite frankly doesn’t look like he’s got a very high level of integrity because he was basically mowing another man’s lawn and hoping to get with her once she broke up and moved out with him. Delusionally thinking that he saw too many Disney movies.

And therefore, in the Disney movie, when you start having an affair with somebody else, they leave their significant other and you live happily ever after. But typically what happens is she leaves the guy, she gets together with you, and then when she’s not happy with you, she starts fucking somebody else because that’s how they operate. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

That’s just how they are. And if you go and get involved with somebody else’s girl like this, especially down in South Florida where I live, you end up with oftentimes a Hialeah divorce. And you end up on the news and not in a good way. It’s just a bad way to go, dude. And if this guy isn’t following me for any amount of time, he should know better than to behave this way.

So eventually, this girl moved out of her boyfriend’s place, but then she stopped seeing him romantically as well. And now he’s kind of stuck in limbo. And he’s like, the only time I hear from her is when she wants something. And so he’s not not a fan of being Harry Honda.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach,

Thank you for all the work you have done. It has helped me a lot to understand women and what they are actually saying. I have been through 3% Man 10 times. 

Why are you still trying to fuck somebody else’s girl? It’s like, come on dude, have some character and some integrity. If she cheats on him, she will cheat on you.

So I am having a little bit of difficulty navigating this situation with a girl that I work with. To keep a long story short, we started hooking up in February of 2024 and have been on and off for the past year. She was also living with her boyfriend at this time.

Come on man, you’ve been following me this amount of time and you think it’s a good idea to be fucking some other guy’s chick when they live together? That’s some ratchet ass behavior.

The dynamic was usually me chasing too much and being needy which led to her breaking things off and trying to friend zone me, which I declined every time.

It’s like bro. Single, available, ready, willing, able and open to dating. This girl is not single.

I would constantly make her a priority in my life while I was always at the bottom of her priorities. I was constantly in limbo and wondering where I stood with her.

I mean, she was somebody else’s chick, dude. She lived with him. You should have been dating other women. Shouldn’t have been fucking with some other guy’s girl. That’s just stupid.

She broke things off with her boyfriend and moved out at the beginning of this year. We hooked up one last time back at the end of February and then afterwards she pretty much just stopped engaging with me romantically.

More than likely, he kept pursuing. You don’t pursue a chick who lives with another guy. That’s just nutty.

I pulled back and tried to let her come to me but every time she did it seemed like she only showed up when she needed a favor or wanted me to do something for her. I was foolish and always did what she wanted when she wanted, but the few times I asked her for favors she would always take her time and get to it whenever she felt like it.

Because she didn’t care. This is what happens when you only focus on how much you like a girl, and you completely ignore the reality of the situation. She’s somebody else’s girlfriend. She lives with her boyfriend. This is a coworker. This has got to be one of the dumbest things you could possibly do. Cheat was somebody at the office who lives with their boyfriend. I mean, do you ever think this through? What happens if he finds out and shows up at work wanting to kick your ass? It’s like, that’s just stupid. I mean, come on, man. Seriously.

After finally noticing this pattern and having enough of being treated this way, I became cold towards her and stopped giving her the attention that I used to give her and started putting it into other coworkers that actually valued my time and didn’t treat me like she was.

Well that’s what you should be doing. But again, if they’re taken, it should just go no further than joking and teasing and a little light flirting. You don’t go on a date. You don’t ask girls out, you don’t text them after hours, because all you’re doing is encouraging disloyal behavior. And if you behave this way, all you’re going to end up doing is attracting a liar and a cheater who’s going to lie and cheat on you once you start slipping up.

I have been cordial but don’t laugh and joke around with her like I used to and try to keep our conversations to a minimum. She noticed and asked me what’s wrong and I told her “I’m just putting my time and energy where it is appreciated” She brushed it off and continued to try to say, “I looked stressed.”

She’s trolling you.

Even though I had been having a good time with all of my other co-workers. I ended up just telling her “I’m fine and not to worry about me” and that was it. The next day she tried to talk to me and came up to me multiple times and I was cordial but not overly engaged in our interactions. There is a part of me that feels bad for this, but I also have wasted a lot of time waiting on this girl to show up the way that I wanted and I don’t want to fall back into that space of being in limbo again. My question is how do I move forward in our interactions, and should I give her another chance as friends with benefits?

Well, this is not girlfriend material. This is not a wife material. This is not a girl that’s going to be loyal and faithful to anybody. When she’s not happy, she fucks somebody else. That’s how she operates. I would definitely wear a raincoat if you’re going to hook up with her, but I would never call her or text her for any reason, ever. You let her reach out. If she reaches out, you invite her over. Hang out. Have fun. Hook up. That’s all I would do.

If you see her at the office, smile. Wave. Go about your business. But don’t go over to talk to her or interact with her. And always be the one to, “Hey, I gotta get back to work. Or, hey, I’ll talk to you later.” And then go about your day. How would you treat her if you were tired of fucking her? It looks like you finally started doing that. And that’s the right way to behave, but you gotta date women that actually are available.

I am currently in the process of trying to get my own place but don’t have one yet. She has her own apartment now, would going over to her place be a wrong move?

Well, she should be coming to you. But you know, maybe you still live with your parents or whatever. I mean, what’s the reason why you don’t have your own place yet? It’s like you got to be an adult. I mean, I’m here. We’re doing adult conversations. We’re not children anymore. So if you’re going to hook up with a girl, you got to have your own place. Even if it’s just a little studio apartment somewhere. Get a life, dude.

I know she is not girlfriend material because she is not a loyal woman, but we have a lot of history together and I am finding it hard to let her go. At the same time, I am tired of being treated like a Harry Honda. 

Your thoughts and advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks again Coach

Bob

Well, no one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. And so you did this to yourself through your behavior, and it looks like you’re continuing to do that because you are flirtatious with your other coworkers. I just hope you learned your lesson and you’re not trying to fuck some other married or other girl who’s in a relationship with their boyfriend. That’s just, that’s pretty low rent and shitty, dude. It’s time to grow the fuck up and start acting like a man and be responsible. So if she reaches out, invite her over. But you know, figure out the situation with your living situation.

And if you still don’t have anything going on, then I guess you’ll have to go to her house because you don’t really have a choice, and you’re not man enough to get your own place. It’s like, again, you got to grow up. I mean, we’re adults here. We’re dealing with adult conversations. We’re not children who live with mommy and daddy. So it’s time to grow up and be a man. Pay your bills. I mean, this girl’s got her own place. It’s like, why don’t you have your own place? Definitely something to think about.

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