How To Avoid Riding The Female Crazy Train

How to spot crazy women who are toxic and will make your life miserable.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a new viewer who just got off the crazy train with a toxic woman. He was warned before he started dating her that she and her family were nothing but trouble. However, she was hot and he was really into her and didn’t listen.

He shares some of the red flags and glaring issues he ignored and paid the price for it. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Well, these are always good emails to get just because a lot of phone sessions I do are with guys that are just trying to make it work with a woman who are, quite frankly, a train wreck.

This particular email is from a new viewer who just got off the crazy train with a woman who was kind of toxic, she’s all tatted up, cheated on him. When he first started dating her, his friends and family were like, “Hey, that girl and her family are nothing but trouble,” but she was hot and he proceeded anyways. I’ve had that experience as well. When you have people that know a girl and they warn you about her, but and you’re like, “Well, she seems really nice,” remember, people can hide who they are for about the first 90 days of a relationship. So you gotta vet for character. If you don’t, you end up like this guy. Even though people were telling him, “Hey, it’s not a good idea,” he did it anyways and he paid the price.

It’s one of those things you learn a painful life lesson from. So obviously everybody watching this can also learn because you date enough and you date long enough, you’re going to come across a hot girl like this who’s charming, fun, and great in bed, but all the other baggage that comes with it just makes the juice not worth the squeeze.

Viewer Email:

Hello Coach Corey,

I have recently gotten out of a year-long relationship. I am 25 and she is 22. I am a new student and have just started reading the book, How to Be a 3% Man.

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This girl came with many red flags that I had ignored from the start.

Well, what did Ayn Rand say? “You can ignore reality, but you can’t ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.”

High body count, tattoos, no female friends, etc.

Well, that’s another red flag. If a woman only has guy friends, says she doesn’t get along with other women, “women are drama,” and she just has no female friends, that’s a red flag. Usually the reason why they don’t have any friends is because the girls tried to sleep with her friend’s boyfriends and husbands, and they just get tired of the nonsense.

A week into dating, people started reaching out to my mother saying that this girl and the family is nothing but trouble.

They even go into his mom. Wow, that girl must have had a hell of a reputation!

I ignored the red flags and continued on. Eight months later at the end of the relationship, she is liking another guy’s photos on Facebook.

Yeah, no sense of loyalty. Family doesn’t respect the relationship. Kind of narcissistic. If she’s not happy, “Well, all’s fair in love and war.” If you’re not doing the right things or she’s not happy, she’s going to start giving attention to other dudes. Ideally, you want to find out about this as quickly as possible.

This guy is deputy for the local sheriff’s department (Keep this in mind for later).

Well, having coached a lot of people in law enforcement over the years, just some of the situations they get into, dudes that are married, girls that are married, cheating with their spouses with each other, or the hot single girl that works in the department, everybody’s trying to bone her. They start dating, she’s talking to other guys, and it just doesn’t end well. You would think, “Hey, if they go into law enforcement, they’ve got to be mostly honest people,” but maybe it’s just because of the dregs of society that they have to deal with. I mean, I’ve had a lot of conversations about that with my clients, especially when they’re telling me how they’re cheating on their wives or their girlfriends with another girl or their female partner, for that matter. It happens a lot in law enforcement. In the military, is one of the top five careers where people cheat, especially women are likely to cheat.

She dumped me not long after and then came to find out she had been sleeping with this guy. Shocker! 

Fast forward a few months and she returned to me and I ended up taking her back.

Well, it’s not like she’s gonna have a metamorphosis and change into an honorable human being. Again, you can ignore reality, but not the consequences of ignoring reality.

Things had been going decent up until recently, although things took a wild turn. On a Sunday afternoon, my grandma was leaving our house and accidentally backed into my ex-girlfriend’s car. After my ex-girlfriend sees the minimal amount of damage, she then starts yelling and cussing at my grandma.

You can’t be mean to grandma! It’s like, what kind of shit is that? If you’re there, you’re gonna say, “Don’t talk to my grandma like that. You need to treat her with respect! If you can’t do that, you need to leave.” You got to protect the women in your family from your girlfriend and vice versa. You have to protect your girlfriend or your wife from the other people in your family if they’re berating and treating her harshly. As a man, you’re supposed to set the tone in the family because if you tolerate it, you invite more of it. Then again, we know this girl is sleeping with a sheriff’s deputy, so look what happens.

My ex-girlfriend then calls her mother, and she insists calling the county sheriff’s department. She takes this advice.

Well, normally you just call and say, “Hey, we had a minor fender bender,” but if at the time, it’s your girlfriend and grandma backs into it, it’s like, “I’ll take care of it. Don’t worry about it.” She calls her mom and her mom’s like, “Get him! Call that sheriff’s deputy you’re sleeping with!”

A few moments later, guess who the sheriff’s deputy responds to this call? You guessed it, the guy she had been sleeping with! The deputy was confused on why the police were called in the first place, saying that he could just leave and the damages could be paid for out of pocket.

In other words, “This is like amongst family members. Why don’t you guys just handle it?”

My ex instead wanted to have an accident report done and not handle things between us.

Well, that’s because she wasn’t really into him and she was sleeping with the sheriff’s deputy. So it’s just stuff like that just shows she’s not really on your team. She’s there for whatever reason. Backup plan, the sheriff’s deputy got tired of her BS and threw her back to the streets, who knows? Maybe she’s wanting the sheriff’s deputy to do something because she’s trying to make the sheriff’s deputy jealous because now she’s sleeping with her ex-boyfriend again and not him. Or maybe he had a little more common sense, he’s a little older, more experienced, and didn’t want to put up with her BS.

She was crying the whole time during the police interaction. 

Oh, waterworks! Just putting on the show. It’s kind of like flopping. You ever see like LeBron James as a master of flopping?

After this incident, I was in shock and could not understand what had just happened. My then ex-girlfriend was crying and saying that she made a mistake and acted too quickly, also claiming that her mother was sorry as well.

Sure…

This is why. It’s just the family’s constant drama. Freaking out, yelling, screaming, calling the police. This is just one incident. So when you start dating a girl and people come out of the woodwork calling your mom going, “Hey, Bob’s dating this really nutty chick. You should stay away,” and mom’s going, “So we need to talk about this woman that you’ve been seeing. I’ve gotten several calls recently,” like I’ve never had anything like that happen. I’ve never had people calling my family or parents going, “Hey, the girl Corey’s dating, you need to stay away from.” When that’s happening, that’s bad. That’s really bad. A lot of people are calling your mom. That’s not a good sign. They won’t call him because they know he’s probably young and naive, he’s not going to listen anyways.

She was pleading with me saying she could have the report retracted.

Remember, liars and cheaters tend to lie all the time. If she’s cheating and lying to his face, well lying is a way of life for her. So she’s saying things that are simply not true, or in other words, the Kentucky guarantee.

She then called the station and claimed the report was taken no further.

Well, once the report has been made, it’s going to stay there. They don’t just delete those things.

At this point in my mind, the relationship is over. I told her that there was no coming back from this and she should take her things and leave.

Yeah, it’s like you talk shit to grandma. You say one thing and you do another. After the cheating and the fact the guy she’s cheating with shows up, this is like trash TV. It’s like you can’t look away. It’s like rubbernecking. It’s like, “What?”

She then started arguing saying it is not over and she is not taking her things.  She finally left and things would end a few days later.   

Even the puppies are getting riled up, fighting over their rubber key. See that drama? Just the drama vibe from reading the email. Puppies are getting a little excited. Right, Elon?

She took her car to body shop of her choice and just yesterday I paid for the damage out of my own pocket to the tune of $2,000. Oddly enough, more damage has been done to the car in the photos from the body shop. Also, today the report has been uploaded into the police system and is going to be sent into the insurance company. More lies, LOL. 

I would love to hear your thoughts this, Coach.

Bob  

So she took your $2,000 and, on top of that, the insurance company is going to pay her. So she scammed you for two G’s. What a lovely human being this sounds like…

Again, you can ignore reality, but you can’t ignore the consequences of ignoring reality. Lesson learned, dude. Read the book. Got to vet for character. Just because she’s hot, there’s a video, a very famous video on the internet. You can look it up. It’s the hot and crazy matrix. You should check that out.

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