How To Become The Kind Of Man She Breaks Her Rules For

How to become the man women will break their rules for.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who shares an update on his 2^nd date after a successful first date. He says what he did and said to seduce her effortlessly. She told him about all of her rules that she makes other guys follow, but broke them for him.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “How To Become The Kind Of Man She Breaks Her Rules For”.

So this particular email is actually an update from a video I did a few weeks ago where the guy had a successful first date, wrote in, ended in little kissy poo, and she mentioned that she wanted to see him again at the end of that date. Told him her availability. And so he writes in after the second date happened, which ends up being about a total of nine days after the first.

So it’s important to be patient; take your time. Because this guy, he’s actually dating a woman who’s a few years older. I think he met her online. She looked way hotter in person and things got hot and heavy on the second date. And he’s doing things well. And so after their an afterglow, if you will. They’re laying in bed together.

She starts telling him all the rules that she had that she broke for him, that she makes other guys follow. So it just goes to show trust The Book trust the process and you won’t talk a woman out of liking you who is predisposed already to liking you and sleeping with you.

Viewer Email:

Dear Corey,

I recently wrote in a couple of weeks ago regarding my first date success story, and I wanted to give you an update on the second date. Our second date happened 9 days after the first. As mentioned in the first video she contacted me later that night saying she had a great time and wants to meet up.

So it was actually after.

So I made plans with her there and then. 

Well, it’s her idea. So even though it’s in the same day, the first date, she’s eager for a second one. So that’s good. That’s a good sign that she really had a good time and wants to see him again.

She came over to mine and I took us to a nearby lake for a picnic since it was a scorching hot day.

So he’s got her coming over for like a, some kind of like a daytime type of date. And so notice what he does. He doesn’t have her like, hey, let’s make dinner together. He’s like, “Hey, come by, let’s meet my place. And then we’ll go around the corner to a lake so she can continue to feel safe and comfortable.” It’s important to point to point that out. I see guys I’ve done Video Newsletters in the past where they just they have a good first date.

They’re all over each other. The guy thinks, “Hey, we’ll just pick up right where we left off in a second date. I’ll just have her come to my house.” And women know if you’re inviting them right over to your place. Oh, you’re expecting to have sex and you’ll usually have a hard time making that happen, so it’s better to do it like with this guy did. So he is doing a daytime date, which I typically wouldn’t recommend, but this girl is really eager.

And again, the rules are not set in stone. The key is to do more things right than wrong and to be masculine and confident and to lead the date. So it’s kind of like she comes over, sees this place. He’s like, all right, let’s, you know, hop in the car, we’ll go here.

We got on incredibly well and once again I focused on letting her do around 80% of the talking while I listened, teased and asked good questions.

And those are the kind of questions that she would enjoy answering.

We played card games, chilled out and laughed a lot. At one point she asked what happened with my ex. I smiled and replied, “I’m not here to talk about my ex, I’m here to find out all about you.” She smiled and the conversation flowed naturally from there.

See, he just kind of. Gentlemen don’t kiss and tell. Because if you start ragging on your ex, then she’s gonna be like, “Oh, that’s how he’s going to talk about me eventually.”

Later on she openly told me she was still dating other people and asked if that was an issue. I calmly replied, “That’s cool me too, we’re not in a relationship.” She actually looked surprised at how relaxed I was.

Because most guys would get upset about that.

And admitted most guys react badly when she says that.

Well, it just shows. It’s like it’s one of the ways, especially an older woman, it’s going to test, are you going to get butthurt or are you going to have the attitude of those other guys you’re dating? Well, you won’t be dating them for long because you’ll be focused 100% on me. Not that you’re going to say that, but that’ll kind of be your attitude. You’ll be amused by it. Oh, competition.

I took it as a sign she was gauging my confidence and emotional composure.

Yeah, because if you bitch out or you get upset about that, it’s like, guess what? You’re not getting any pussy that afternoon here. It’s like you’re indifferent to it. You can take it or leave it. So these are the things that she’s going through as she’s testing you to see if she’s down to hook up on the second date. And if you fumble the football like the other guys, that’s why she makes them wait.

Because if the guy gets upset, it usually means he’s going to get upset at other things, and she’s trying to see if he’s going to turn into a bitch or a control freak later on so she can weed him out now before he gets too attached and too obnoxious. That’s why they’ll do those things. If you’re like, you have a take it or leave it kind of attitude and you’re already dating other girls, you’re like, hey, may the best girl win.

As the day went on, things became more physical and playful. We moved into the sun and before I knew it she was rubbing sunscreen into me and giving me a full massage on the picnic blanket.

Hey boo boo, let’s get some bud lights and a picnic blanket.

I returned the favor and she admitted she hadn’t had that much physical contact with someone in months. She also asked me what I have told my friends about her, to which I playfully responded “I don’t kiss and tell. “She laughed and playfully slapped my arm and said she told her friends she was seeing a younger man. 

Well, part of that why the girls blabbed. Number one, they can’t keep a secret. Number two, they want their girlfriends to know where they’re at and who they’re with, just as a safety thing. That’s why what he did when he had her come meet him at his house. He’s you can say, “Hey, here’s my house. You want to check it out? Great. Otherwise, he can come back later.” And then you just hop in the car and you go.

We later went back to mine where I taught her some Muay Thai since she comes from a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu background and loves martial arts.

People that like the same things tend to like each other.

The training naturally became very playful and hands-on.

So he’s like, oh, let me show you some my moves around martial arts. Ah ha. I mean, it’s a great way to get physical. Great way to initiate physical contact and lots of pressure in nice places.

After showering and eating, we ended up on the sofa kissing and fooling around. Before things escalated, she jokingly said, “I hope you know what you’re doing.” I laughed and replied, “You’ll have to come find out.” Then I held out my hand and led her upstairs to the bedroom. 

Look at you, Casanova. This looks like something out of a love story, but he’s just prepared. He’s reading the signs and the signals and her body language, and he knows when the next move is ready to happen. He’s not getting shot down. He’s not getting rejected. He already knows where it’s going. So the book is the cheat codes.

Needless to say, the chemistry was incredible. Not long into the Indoor Olympics she said “I apologize. You really know what you’re doing!” Afterwards we lay in bed cuddling, kissing and talking. She admitted she normally wouldn’t sleep with someone until way further down the road.

Well we know most of the average guys she’s gonna date longer term, that’s probably true just because they’re getting upset and butthurt at some of the things that I pointed out. And so that just in their cases, delays the seduction because she doesn’t know whether the guy can basically handle a taste of her puswa without losing his shit. And getting too possessive and controlling.

She also said, “I can’t believe you made me orgasm this never happens on the first time”. 

Well, if the girl likes having sex with you, it’s going to be pretty easy after that to have sex again. She’ll be looking forward to it.

She also told me she hadn’t slept with anyone for around 8 months. Whether that’s completely true or not.

Well, if he has a condom on, that doesn’t count. It’s not technically sleeping with someone. I’m just being facetious, but some of them think, well, most of them anyways.

I honestly don’t know, but the level of comfort, chemistry and connection between us certainly felt very genuine. Whilst laying there cuddling, she asked if she could come over the following weekend and cook me her specialty dish.

It was like, so she’s basically saying, hey, I want to spend even more time with you. So again, it’s her idea.

I told her she was more than welcome to stay the night, and we could do something the morning after too. She happily agreed.

So he picked up on that because she’s in her mind probably thinking, oh, the date’s going to end, but I’d really like to see him again. And he’s like, well, you should stay the night then. See how effortless that is. Just. Women help you and they like you. She’s, you know, instead of going, okay, I need to make a date next week and then take her out and pick her up. Your girl right there, after you just took her to pound town, is basically saying she wants to see you more than she’s already seeing you.

And you’re like, well, obviously, why don’t I just invite her to continue to stick around for the weekend? She’ll probably say yes. Because that’s the important thing to recognize about that she wants to spend more time together. So just make more time together happen. And if he was available, which obviously I guess he was, he says, well, just stay the weekend. And she’s like, sure.

She happily agreed. To me, the biggest takeaway from this whole experience is that women really do break their rules for men who make them feel comfortable, safe, desired and emotionally relaxed. 

Well masculinity is calm. And you basically acted like a man. So she felt totally comfortable taking all of her clothes off and getting her freak on and sleeping with you, even though she doesn’t do that with most guys. That aren’t named Chad Thunder Cock, obviously.

I never pressured her, never talked about relationships, never acted needy and simply focused on creating a fun and playful environment where she could open up naturally.

And that includes the legs.

She hopped on the fun bus, as you say Coach.

Yep. And you’re a good driver, obviously. She even complimented you.

What has surprised me most, Coach, is that although it has only been two dates, I genuinely like this girl more than most women I’ve dated previously. Including the ones I am seeing right now. 

Well, that is the benefit of dating a woman who’s a little bit older. She’s a little more mature. You can converse better. You have more interesting conversations. So there’s that. And she’s experienced in the bedroom. She knows what she wants. She’s been around the block. If she can tell that you got your shit together, which obviously you have so far, maintain your composure. That’s why the doors just open and you know you’re beating up her pelvis in the second date.

However, I’ve made a conscious effort not to let that affect my behavior. My focus has remained on hanging out, having fun and hooking up while allowing things to unfold naturally.

Yeah, because she’ll make it unfold naturally. And she’s doing that. She’s trying to get more time with you.

I’ve treated her warmly and confidently throughout, kissing her, touching her, teasing and bantering with her in a playful way, which she gives right back. The connection feels effortless and very natural. I’m also aware she is still dating other men, but it hasn’t really perturbed me. I am also dating other women. However if this had happened 5 years ago, I probably would have become insecure, over pursued, double texted or sought reassurance and pushed her away. 

Which is what happens with most guys. Remember, if you’re the prize, she’s trying to win you over so she gets rid of all the other dudes and can only focus on you then.

Instead, I’ve stayed grounded, continued leading confidently and trusted that if the connection is genuinely strong, her actions over time will reveal that naturally. Her actions are already speaking louder than her words. 

Thanks again Coach, your work has completely changed the way I approach dating and relationships. As I said in the last video who knows what will happen from here, but I plan to stick to the principles in the book and see where it takes me. 

All the best.

Bob

Well congratulations Bob.

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