How To Close The Deal In Bed

May 12, 2012 by Coach Corey Wayne

How to get past touching and kissing so you can close the deal in the bedroom and get laid. The purpose of a date is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. The best kind of dates that make that possible, are evening dates. Sexual intercourse is the successful culmination of creating an opportunity for sex to happen. Women want you to know what to do to facilitate sex happening. Women like sex just as much as men do. The problem most guys run into when they encounter a woman they have a chance with, is they do and say things that create an awkward energy or moment. When a woman feels safe and comfortable around a man she is sexually attracted to, she will sleep with him if and only if he demonstrates through his actions and words that he knows what to do. Women don’t want to teach you how to seduce them. They want you to be a man, go for what you want without fear and for you to know what you are doing. They want you to understand how attraction and romance works. Guys who don’t know what to do or who are unsure of themselves communicate inexperience and a lack of confidence. If you asked 100 random women the number one most important quality they find sexually attractive in a man, most of them would tell you it’s confidence. So the very nature of a man doing and saying things that communicate a lack of confidence is the exact opposite of what turns women on about men. The following is an e-mail from a reader who appears to be making some progress converting one of his girl friends into someone he is dating. He’s unsure of what to do next so he can close the deal in the bedroom. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hello Corey,

I have a friend I have been liking for a long time and I have been in the friend zone for six years. (Ouch! That’s too long!) She has been exhibiting the signs of at least 51% interest, i.e. touching, playing with her hair, etc. (Smart guys are observant and look for the signs of attraction/interest I discuss starting on page 120 of my book.) Since I have read your book about three times, with seven more to go, I finally had the balls to go in for the kiss on the lips, but I didn’t go for the French kiss. (With kissing, you take it slow. You gently and probingly lightly touch her lips with your tongue as you kiss. If she wants to french kiss back, she will stick her tongue out far enough to touch yours. It may take a kiss or two before she starts using her tongue. It depends on her experience and her level of comfort/sexual attraction with/for you.) So we have kissed a couple of times since then. I want to know what I should be doing to close the deal. (You should continue to take her out on a date once per week. Evening dates! Do what her lover would do, not her friend. A good date is a date where there is an opportunity for sex to happen. Not a lunch date or a movie. At the end of your dates, you should always go for the kiss. Once you start kissing she’ll invite you in if she is open to more potentially happening. The making out slowly moves towards heavy petting and wandering hands. Keep wandering until she stops you. Then slowly back off for a few minutes and continue kissing. Then as it heats up again, try undoing her bra, pants, zippers, etc. It’s like a slow unwrapping of a gift. Sometimes if she feels it’s moving too fast, she will stop you. Then you simply back off for a few minutes, chat some more and then take another run at her to try and get further than you did before. You keep trying to get away with a little more each time until you’re both naked and sex can happen. Often, many women will not finish taking your clothes off. Why? Sex has to be your fault. Therefore, if she’s naked and you’re not, take the rest of your clothes off and penetrate her. When she’s ready and open to penetration, she won’t stop you anymore. It’s a delicate dance. Have fun and practice this. Meeting & dating many different women gives you plenty of opportunities to practice mastering your skills of seduction.) I know she probably thinks I am weak as water and probably is about to kick me to the curb soon. (That sounds confident.) How do you suggest I handle the situation from here on out? Thanks. (Call and initiate ONLY ONE date per week until she asks/wants to see you more. When she wants to see you more, she’ll start initiating contact and hoping you know why she’s calling, and then simply ask her out for another definite date. When a woman contacts you first, it means she wants you to create an opportunity for sex to happen… a.k.a. an evening date that can lead to sex at her place or yours. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.)

Bob

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Published on May 12, 2012

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  1. Corey is spot on how to seduce the woman when you get alone and to the kissing stage. To his every word is how you actually get to fuck her when she is ready. Virtually every woman I slept with wants the man to take the lead and somehow she get fucked because you seduced them. Its never their doing! LOL.
    You just have to build her up until she wants it in her as Corey explains. It is and ebb and flow, she backs off and you get a little further each time until she`s hot to trot. If she`s confident and horny, she`ll get naked quite easily because she wants it! But this mutual, nothing forced. If she says no and to stop then you must. 99% of the time if you can touch intimate parts, they don’t want to stop. They have built up an attraction in their mind about you and they want to sleep with you.
    I met a woman on a date, via an dating app, I never knew here before that. We met in a bar and at first she was so shy, actually facing the opposite direction to me talking. But over two hours she slowly started to face me and relax. We talked most the evening then noticed the bar was closing.
    I just blurted out shall we go to a club because we were having a nice time. She said no as she had to get her daughters car back she borrowed to the house but she`d like to chat more. So I offered we go for a drive to the beach in the moonlight. She said fine. We drove there then chatted for about an hour. I thought well shes still sitting here, not asking to go home so she must be hanging around for something! I just moved to kiss her and she responded. It was ebb and flow, her holding back, then letting me go further. Boy I was lucky because she had an amazing body when I got her naked. I just moved over on top of her and she didn’t say no, I was in her and she was full steam ahead. Well, we had sex 3 times and I dropped her off home at 4.30am. We met at 8pm the night before! It was really good sex.
    Just read her signals and react to those. If she responds by a particular touch and gets worked up, just stay there and build her up.

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