If you are a man who would like to learn how to get a girlfriend, turn your girl “friend” into a girlfriend, or date the type of beautiful woman you’ve always dreamed of, then this will be the most exciting message you will ever read. The short and simple answer of how to get a girlfriend is to read my book “How To Be A 3% Man, Winning The Heart Of The Woman Of Your Dreams”. Getting a girlfriend is a process. As I mentioned in my previous article women want to be in a love story, women fall in love slowly. Men tend to want instant gratification. They want the be all end all of pickup lines. Give me the quick fix.
A common analogy I give to my coaching clients is that creating a relationship with a woman is like baking a cake. Once you put it in the oven, you have to give it time to cook properly. You can’t keep opening and closing the door every few minutes to see if it’s done, otherwise you’ll ruin it. So I’m going to take you through the process of how to get a girlfriend.
Like I said before, you need to read my book which is located in the members section. However, this will give you the Cliff Notes. First things first is, you need to dress sharp. You need to act like a dominant male acts. An alpha male. I am not going to go into detail about what an alpha male is. You can read my article the ultimate alpha male.
Women like men that are sure of themselves and sure of their opinions. Men that don’t change their opinion to match hers. Men that have confidence. Looks are usually third or fourth on the list of things a woman wants in a man. Women want to be around a guy who’s easy to talk to. Who’s relaxed, and when he speaks, he speaks deliberately and calmly. He’s not affected by her beauty. He makes her feel like she can be herself around him.
Attraction is not a choice. Women either have 51% interest level in you or they don’t. If it’s below 51%, you don’t have a chance with her. So what I teach guys to do is to look for the body language and subtle cues that give away a woman’s true romantic interest in him. That way you don’t waste your time and energy pursuing a woman who has absolutely no interest in you. It saves you time and heartache.
When a woman likes you she’s going to stand too close, touch your arm, lean towards you, ask you personal questions about yourself, her body will face you and she will help keep the conversation going. Women help you when they like you. In other words, they’ll make it easy for you to get their number and set a date with them. Women that have low interest in you, will use stall tactics, will be cold and distant, will give you short answers to your questions, and generally seem disinterested. The key is to recognize these things right away.
When you see a girl you like, whether it’s online or in person, you’re going to have to talk to her to find out if she likes you, and if she does, to get her phone number to call her later for a date. Everything she does can give away her true feelings about you. That’s why you really got to pay attention to details. How quickly or how hesitant she is to give you her phone number communicates her level of interest in you.
Here’s The 12 Steps To Getting A Steady Girlfriend You Love & Who Loves You…
1. You want to read her level of attraction/interest, body language, etc. towards you
2. You want her phone number or contact information to set up a date later on… or… set one on the spot!
3. A few days after you meet her you call her and set up a definite date with a definite time to meet her out, or to pick her up at her house depending on how comfortable she is with you
4. Provided she keeps the date, you’re going to show her a good time
5. When you take her home or the date is ending, you want to go for the kiss
6. After a few days have passed, you will call her to make another date
7. Continue to call her and take her out no more than once a week for the first two months; unless she asks to see you more
8. Make sure she calls and initiates contact 70-80% of the time
9. By only calling her once per week to set up dates, she’ll start calling you more as she likes you more
10. When she calls you more as she falls for you, simply set up your next date; then, get off the phone
11. Rinse, recycle, repeat. Eventually, she’ll call you every day & want to see & be with you constantly
12. When she falls in love, she’ll ask you to be her boyfriend. Accept. Congratulations! She’s your girlfriend.
So if you got a girl who has caught your eye, you have to go up to her and start talking to her. You could use an opinion opener where you ask her opinion about something. Since women love to give their opinions on things, they’ll usually talk your ear off. I go over this subject in depth in my book. Guys always ask me what do I say? My mind always goes blank when I meet a woman I like. It’s simple. Just ask them questions. Simple things: Where did you grow up? Where did you go to school? Etc. Simple things. The bottom line is if she likes you, she’ll be happy to talk to you. And if she doesn’t, her answers will be short and disinterested.
So after 2 to 3 minutes just say “I got to run but I’d love to chat with you some more. What’s your phone number?” As you’re asking her this, pull out your phone with confidence that she’s going to give it to you. And if you’ve really got some balls, you can ask her out right there on the spot and plan a definite date with her. It just depends on how comfortable and how confident you are to start out.
When you call her to make your first date, let’s say her name is Jennifer. Here’s what you say, “Hi Jennifer, this is Corey how are you?” And wait for her to answer. Notice I didn’t offer her my last name or where we met. Why? I want to find out if she remembers me. If she remembers me when I give her my first name that’s a sign of high interest. If she says “Who?” Or “Where do I know you from?” That’s not good. You’re thinking you met your future wife, and then when you call her she doesn’t even remember who you are. If she doesn’t remember you, say “I’m sorry I must have the wrong number” and hang up. There’s no need to waste your time and money going on a date with a girl who didn’t even remember who you were.
Let’s talk about how to handle yourself on the first date. Now we’re assuming that she remembered who you were when you called, she’s kept your date and you’re pulling into her driveway. Be a gentleman. Open the car door for her. Be relaxed and make sure she does 80% of the talking. How do you do that? By asking questions. Sincerely be interested in who she is, what she does, where she’s from, etc. Keep it funny and light, no heavy subjects or talk of ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriend’s.
From a biological standpoint, your job as a man is simply to create an opportunity for sex to happen. Most guys talk women right out of sleeping with them. So if you keep the date funny and light, ask questions and be interested in what she’s got to say, her romantic interest level in you will go up.
The reason you go for the kiss at the end of the date is because if she likes you, she’ll kiss you back. if she doesn’t, she will turn her head and you’ll get her cheek instead of her lips. If she turns her head when you try to kiss her she’s out. Flush her number.
If she invites you into her house after you start making out, then you got a live one! Have fun! Now the reason that I say to only ask her out once a week, is this will cause her interest level in you to slowly rise over time. When it hits 70 to 80% she’ll start calling and texting you more and wanting to see you more. She will actually start to pursue you more than you do her. If she’s chasing you, she can’t be getting rid of you anymore than she can sit down and stand up at the same time. You don’t need to bring up relationships, dating, getting serious, her being your girlfriend, you being her boyfriend, etc. She will bring that up. The more things you do right, the sooner she will ask you or tell you to be her boyfriend. It’s a slow dance of back-and-forth. Taking two steps forward and one step back and just taking your time with her. Women fall in love slowly over time.
So if you’re an impatient quick-fix kind of guy, you got some work to do on yourself. Women like a man who is patient and has self control over himself and his emotions. Impatience communicates neediness and insecurity which will cause her to drop you faster than a bad habit.
Now there are 1000 other things to be doing, looking out for and knowing about women. I go into much further detail in my book. But this is the basic overall plan.
The biggest mistakes guys make with women when they are first meeting them is they talk too long. They also tend to project their own high interest level onto the woman they have just met, and they pay no attention to her interest level in him. You should spend no more than a few minutes talking to any one woman, reading her interest level in you and getting her phone number. If you’re at a nightclub, some social event or function, you want to get as many phone numbers as possible. However, make sure you are discreet about it. Repetition is the mother of skill. If you’re not talking to women, and not getting phone numbers, you won’t have any dates with any ladies.
“Impatience never commanded success.” ~ Edwin H. Chapin
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