Here’s how you can make any woman who has at least a 51% level of interest in you or higher to start with, fall in love with you. I discuss how to determine a woman’s level of interest in you starting on page 120 of my book “How To Be A 3% Man”.
If you have not read it in a while, I encourage you to read and re-read the interest level table info. You should know it by heart. Its your bible for determining when a woman really likes you, and when she doesn’t. That way you only spend your time dating and spending your money on chicks you have a chance with.
One of my coaching clients has been dating this woman who lives in Italy. He lives in the US, but frequently spends months at a time in other countries. He’s very successful, driven and a hard worker. What I love about coaching guys like him is that when he learns something, he goes right out and applies it faithfully. He follows what I teach and therefore, he gets the expected results.
His girlfriend is very successful, driven and confident. He’s played all his cards beautifully. He read my book enough times to know the material mostly by heart. Therefore, he almost always does everything right. His girlfriend just told him she was in love with him. He’s doing backflips in his mind because he is totally in love with her.
He still has doubts about himself like we all do from time to time. My comments are in (bold brackets like this in the body of his email):
I hope things are going well with you. Website is looking good! (thanks man-we’ve put a shit-load of time into it).
So, I have been dating this girl Dina long distance as you know. I think it’s going well for the most part. She came to the USA for several days last week and we went to her friend’s wedding and went on some fun dates together. She stayed with me at my house while she was here. She confessed she loved me because she thought I told her that I loved her. I think I said I loved her pancakes or something, no lie. Nonetheless, she said, “I love you too”. I am in love with her for sure as you know. (awesome! Good job).
In any event, recently she brought up that she wants to go on vacation in August and she has been pressing me to do some research on what to do, where to stay. She does her fare share of research. I keep telling her I will and then I get busy with other things or, for example, last night I hung up the phone with her and fell asleep at 8 pm. The night before I was doing plyometrics in my living room at 11 pm, go figure. I didn’t tell her that cuz it doesn’t matter to her. Today I confessed to her that I fell asleep at 8 pm and did no research (that communicates that you don’t care enough about her to make a joint effort-not good. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Your actions must reflect your words). Maybe stupid of me, but I thought if I engaged her first to tell her that, it would seem more genuine than lying to her after her asking me how I made out with the research. Rookie move maybe I need to reread certain chapters 😉 (yep-do the research and contribute-it takes two).
Anyway, this chic is super ambitious. I mean, she landed in Italy on Tuesday morning from the USA and took the train right to work. Then she worked 10-12 hour days all week. I feel like a real asshole falling asleep at 8 pm after listening to her hectic week she had. So I ask you, is this chick too ambitious for me (that’s a bullshit weak statement-you should always date up and date women out of your league-you will grow more and become a better man that way. Plus she will challenge you)? I dig deep in life often, but I get the sense that she might be thinking I am a sloth compared to her (nonsense).
The last two days, she hasn’t seemed very enthusiastic to speak with me (probably hurt that you did not do what you said-this causes a woman to question your masculine core and pull away). I’m not even sweating her or anything (good attitude). She called me at midnight this morning to say she got home from dinner with friends in France (good sign). I did not tell her to call me. This seems pretty flaky to me (heh? She’s chasing you dude. That’s what you want. Its called… incoming!) and I wanted your opinion. Would appreciate it as always.
Enjoy the weekend! Peace!
1) Don’t doubt your alpha male self or the fact that you are a FUCKING STUD!!!!!!!!
2) Surprise her with the research ASAP, but make sure you let her know you have several surprises and things planned you want to take her to that you are not going to tell her about on your august trip together. Why? Its a surprise. Plus it builds anticipation and raises her interest level.
3) Relax-you have the best coach in the world helping you. Its in the bag dude 🙂
From my heart to yours,
My client by being successful, loving what he does and working his ass off to make things happen… is… BUSY! Successful men are busy and taking care of shit. When his girl calls or tries to instant message him, he has to get back with her later. Why? He’s busy. He loves and adores her, but right now he’s slaying the dragons.
This causes him to be mostly unavailable and she has to work to get a hold of him. He is a challenge in this way. She presents her beauty, sex appeal and charm to lure him in. He wants her, but he must focus on his purpose. This lets the sexual anticipation and tension build in her, and in him. His strength to hold out, let her calls go to voicemail, emails go unanswered for hours, etc. causes her to wonder where she stands until she finally hears from him.
When he gets home from work, he contacts her and they talk for a little while. He ends the calls first so he can get to bed. They go several weeks in-between the times they actually see each other. Once they finally see each other, the sexual tension can finally be released. Ohhhhhhhhhhh-yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 🙂
Successful men love their women, but focus on their purpose first. Then, once we’ve slayed the days dragons, we can come home to ravish our queen and make her know, feel and experience that she is loved and adored by us. The man goes off to war to serve his country even though she protests and wishes he could stay with her and be safe, but still he must go. Its what we do.
Women must feel our resistance and our strength. She will try to pull you in, but you must resist until your days work is done. If you are always at her beckon call, she will not trust your masculine core and pull away. Needy men chase, which drives her away and lowers her interest even more. If being with a woman means a man must give up his purpose to be with her, then he will give up his woman because a man can not live without a purpose or mission in life.
Be her rock and her mountain, but do not chase. Let her be your joy when she wants to feel your strength. When the cat runs away, focus on your purpose. She’ll be back later. This is all a part of her feeling and testing your strength without her.
Over time by building the tension, planning dates as I discuss in my book, only using the phone, texting, email, Facebook, etc. to set dates and not to chit chat (that’s what the date is for), making sure she does 70%-80% of the talking by asking questions on your dates, making definite dates with no call back to verify crap, etc… you will remain enough of a mystery to the woman of your desires that she will fall in love with you over time.
As long as the woman has at least 51% interest level in you to start with, and if you do everything right with a woman because you have read my book 10-15 times to the point that you could give a seminar on it, then she will fall in love with you within 60 days.
The more mistakes you make because you do not know the material in my book well enough, the longer its going to take to get her to fall in love with you. So prepare properly so you can win at the game of love every time. Just like my client is. If I can do it, so can you!
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Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Coach, Entrepreneur
“Most people have the will to win, few have the will to prepare to win.”-Bobby Knight