How To Get Her Addicted So She Makes You Her Boyfriend

How to get her addicted to you so she makes you her boyfriend.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who shares how he met a girl off of the Bumble dating app and the process by which they quickly became exclusive.  She deleted her dating profile and said she was addicted to him and never felt so safe and comfortable with a man before. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “How To Get Her Addicted So She Makes You Her Boyfriend.”

Well, I got a short success story for You. So this particular viewer, he shares a story of how he met a girl off Bumble, the dating app, and the process by which they became exclusive. So shortly, just within a few weeks of them dating, she really liked him. And not only did she delete her dating profile, but she said she was, “addicted to him.

And never felt so safe and comfortable with a man before.” And so, as I say often with 3% Man, you’ve got to read it 10 to 15 times, get to know it backwards and forwards. If you’re new here and you haven’t read it, you can go to UnderstandingRelationships.com. Just subscribe to the free Email Newsletter and you can read the book for free right in your web browser, so there’s no reason for you not to get this information.

So these Video Newsletters are based on the assumption that you’ve read the book and know at least the basics. So the goal is to help you kind of fine tune your approach and what you’re doing. So with that said, let’s go through his email and see what we can see.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach, 

Writing to you from Ontario, Canada. 

Well, I bet you guys hopefully are glad that, that Justin Trudeau is no longer your Prime Minister. What a joke that guy was.

I want to thank you for helping me get an absolutely gorgeous girl, who checks all my boxes. I’ve been listening to you for close to a decade now, and read your book over a dozen times. 

So often what I say is the guys that got the best success stories, they read the book ten, 15 times. He’s been following me ten years. So we assume after reading the book multiple times, and all the practice he’s had over the last decade, that his game is tight, and he’s really good. And that’s why you see short success stories like this, where things just go very easily and effortlessly the way they should be. And the woman gets the experience of like, “hey, it’s just like a movie. It just happened.”

We matched on Bumble and met up a couple weeks later. We hit it off right from the start. We went to a couple different places, like you suggested. 

So again, when I talk about in 3% Man is that when you go on a date, ideally because most guys go to dinner or whatever, they pick a girl up, take her to dinner, and then they take her home, that’s the end of the date. And so if you start out at like, maybe a wine bar, have a glass of wine, Maybe they’ve got somebody playing some live music there. It’s not too loud to where you can converse. If that goes well, especially if you’re doing online dating, then you’re risking basically a glass of wine, and some time.

And so if the date goes really well, then after the wine bar, then you can say, “hey, let’s go here and go grab some food or do this and have some appetizers.” And so you go to a second place, maybe get in a car or you get into an Uber, or you take a train or a bus if you live in a big city, and you go to or you just walk down the street to another place. Especially like if you live in like a downtown area where all the action is, you got to think about the logistics of sex. What if things go really well like the book says? You don’t want to be an hour away from your house and then driving her back, because then you got an awkward car ride.

Unless, of course, you’re getting a Hummer* (editor does not think he knows what he meant to say here. Corey probably meant a “blowjob”) on the way back. But the idea is that you go to a second place, you have dinner, you invest a little bit more and a little bit of more money spent. And then a third place is like a Dave and Busters or a top golf or a miniature golf, or throwing axes or some kind of thing where you can interact with each other playing darts, going bowling, shooting pool. The third place should be something that facilitates physical touch and physical interaction that makes it easy to kiss, start making out.

That leads to heavy petting, and then you can say, “hey, why don’t we get out here and go back to my place and open a bottle of wine?” And if you’re close by because you thought about the logistical logistics of sex, then it’s a short walk to your place or a short car ride. Because most women sleep with a guy by the second or third date, typically. And so each time you get into a car or an Uber or a train or a bus, short bus ride, or just even walking down the street, it’s like three different dates all in one night. So it helps speed up the seduction process so you can hook up the first night. It’s about stacking the deck in your favor.

At the end of the date, I went for the kiss when dropping her off at her apartment. We kissed passionately and she asked me to come up. 

So she asked you to come up and then the next sentence is, but we’re not going to have sex. She says something like that. What it really means is we’re going to have sex, as long as you don’t talk me out of it, which usually guys that don’t know any better, start fumbling their words go, “oh!” They’ll come back and be like, “well, who said you’re getting lucky tonight? You are a pretty good kisser. But we’ll see what happens. But you’re cute. You’re kind of growing on me.” And then you go upstairs. And so what happens?

She asked me to come up. I gave her the flesh rocket within ten minutes. She texted me the next day.

So if she texts you that night, like an hour later after your date. “Hey, I had a really great time.” You’re not going to take that as an opportunity to set the next date. Because as the book says, you’re trying to facilitate going slightly slower than the woman. So she starts reaching out to you more and then her reaching out is her idea. Then you make the next date because it was her idea. And that way she speeds the courtship process up or slows it down. And so she actually texted him the next day. So if she does like the book says, we assume that she wants to see you again. So you make the next date.

She texted me the next day. So I made plans to see her again and stayed off the phone until I saw her. I did this for four dates. She reached out, I made plans, and then I stayed off the phone. After the fourth date, she was already telling me she wanted to be exclusive and deleted her Bumble profile. 

You can imagine it’s probably such a relief for her, because for a woman to find a good dude on a dating app is very hard. Even though they have all the choices, most guys got no game. Especially the guys that exclusively rely on dating apps to progress their personal life. And here’s the important thing.

She said she felt addicted to me and never felt so safe and comfortable with a man. 

And that’s what happens when you apply what’s in the book and you master it. And this guy’s been following me for ten years, so he had a lot of time with the material. I assume he had a lot of practice and things just flowed effortlessly. And so this is like preparation, meeting opportunity. And as Confucius said, “Success depends upon prior preparation. And without said preparation, there’s sure to be failure.” This is why I always say you guys should date a lot.

You should have multiple women that you’re dating women date multiple guys at the same time because they’re trying to find the best man for them. Because some guys start out really great in the beginning. And then after about 2 or 3 weeks, then they start doing and saying things that turn the woman off. So even though initially the first week or so they were dating, she had high hopes for him. By the third or fourth week, he’s usually turned her off, and any girl that’s been on a dating app will tell you there’s a lot of garbage, a lot of bad experiences, a lot of work, almost like a second job.

And so when she comes across a guy that’s a 3% Man that’s put the time in with the book and is prepared. To her, it’s like a Disney movie. But we know that he put the time in. He focused on the things that were most important and it was necessary. And he allowed her, because attraction is not a choice, to fall for him. Because part of loving somebody really is allowing them, you’re allowing them to love you. You’re allowing them to come to you at their pace. You’re not trying to rush it. As Thích Nhất Hạnh used to say, “You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.”

I will keep reading your book to keep my skills sharp and keep her attraction high.

Thank you,

Bob

So my recommendation is at least once every six months, go back through 3% Man just to keep it fresh. Because remember, whatever you observe, you participate in. If you’re watching TV and movies and consuming traditional media and what’s in the culture, whether you realize it or not, you’re getting re brainwashed into thinking and acting in ways that are dysfunctional and really unattractive to women. The book will keep you focused on doing what is natural and innate to you as a man, to keep you most attracted to the women who find you attractive.

Because again, attraction is not a choice. This girl already liked him and unlike most dudes that she’s met, he didn’t talk her out of liking him. And it just looks like she was relieved to find a good dude. And so this is how easy and effortless it can be if you spend the time and you get prepared.

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