How To Get Her To Like You So She Helps You Become Her Boyfriend

How to get a woman to like you so she makes it easy to date & seduce her.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email success story from a guy who found my work after a relationship that made him question his self confidence. He shares how 3% Man helped him to successfully land a woman he met on the Hinge dating app.

He details how their first few dates and month together have gone very easy and effortlessly. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Well, as you probably heard me say many times, love is allowing. The reality is attraction is not a choice. Mother nature has already handled that. The problem that most of us guys do is that we end up talking women out of liking us. When that happens, they ride off into the sunset, usually with Chad Thundercock or somebody else. Unfortunately, sometimes you’re like, “That’s a lesser man that she chose,” but if you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch.

So I know a lot of guys come to me and they just had a breakup, or they were dating what they thought was going to be their future ex-wife or future girlfriend, and all of a sudden she wants to friend-zone you or she just disappears or she gets back together with her boyfriend. Then you’re heartbroken over it. Feels like it’s never getting any better. I always say the quickest way to get over a woman is to get underneath a new one, which I wasn’t the first one to say that, but it’s true.

So in this particular email, he had a relationship end that after he got out of it, he was questioning his own self-confidence. I mean, a lot of us have been there after a relationship doesn’t work out, especially if you’re dating somebody that is constantly putting you down and making you question yourself, or you just get dumped and you don’t really understand why, the woman doesn’t tell you why, she’s like, “It’s not you, it’s me.” You hear things like that and you’re like, “What the fuck does that mean?” And you get feedback that, quite frankly, is unhelpful. They can’t explain it. They don’t want to explain it. They don’t want to hurt your feelings either. That’s usually what leads people to finding my work.

So this particular email is from a guy who was questioning his own self-confidence after he had a breakup. I assume probably like most guys, he got dumped, didn’t see it coming, but he started reading 3% Man and applying it. He met a girl on Hinge about a month or so ago, and things just came together effortlessly. As he’s noticed, women help you when they like you, they make it easy. So the key is not to talk them out of it. Obviously the book will help you do that. If you’re new and you haven’t read it, it’s free to read at Understandingrelationships.com. Just put your first name, your email address, create a password, and the book will open up right in your web browser and you can start reading. I say all the time, even if you think I’m totally full of crap, if you read 3% Man, you read Mastering Yourself and you apply what’s in there, you’re going to get way better results than you were getting on your own. Then you can invest some money buying a book, paperback, hardcover, audio-book, digital version, whatever.

So this is a good email just because it shows it’s not real long, but it just shows how things are going after about a month and how they go well.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

First off, thank you for all you do, Coach. With your teachings, I have been able to successfully land a wonderful woman. Coming off of a relationship that made me question my self confidence, I found your work.

Yeah, because at the end of the day, you’re like trying to figure out what the fuck happened. “Well, I thought we were going to be together forever,” and she says she’s not feeling a chemistry or spark. It’s like, “What does that mean? How does that happen? She was all over me before.” Pretty much most guys have had that kind of an experience. The girls they really like seem to lose interest, but the girls that they’re kind of indifferent to, they can take it or leave it, are just all over them and crazy about them.

Reading your book allowed me to constantly remind myself that masculinity is calm. I matched with a girl on Hinge and I was head over heels for her.

Well, there’s nothing wrong with that, but you can’t get dopey and drunk on your feelings. That’s what a lot of guys do. What do you see in the movies? A bunch of dudes are hanging out. A hot woman walks by and they all just start falling all over themselves and fumbling all over themselves, like they put her on a pedestal, like she’s just this unattainable celebrity. Of course, one of them ends up bumbling into a relationship with her when they act that way, but you do that in real life, you can follow her on Instagram, you can be one of her fans, but that’s as far as it’ll go with her.

Instead of drooling over her like I would have in the past…

Which that’s when women start to lose interest because they see that we’re hypnotized by their beauty, and they basically can make us do anything in order to get a taste, which is not attractive. They want us to be able to stand up to them and put them in their place when they’re out of line.

…We exchanged a few messages and I set up a date. First date went extremely well! So well in fact that I “got the gold medal” as you would say.

So that means the indoor Olympics happened on the first date. That’s what happens when you read the book. Again, she’s already predisposed to liking you. You just have to not talk her out of it. To her, it just feels like a love story because she wants to feel that she wants to be in that, and she’s with a guy that’s prepared. He did the work ahead of time. So for her, it goes like a movie. It’s just easy. It’s effortless. She just says yes to all of his advances because he’s so different than every other guy she meets, especially with online dating.

She even told me on the second date that she cancelled on another guy to see me again.

See, this is what happens because, especially online dating, women got all this attention, just thousands of dicks being thrown at them, and they have to test the strength of all the guys they’re talking to because they’re going to be drawn to the most masculine one. So you’re being calm, relaxed, taking your time, trying to go slightly slower than she is. It’s just simple things. Like on a date, you don’t start touching her until she starts bumping into and touching you. It’s like everything in the book is designed to create the conditions where the woman is chasing you from the get-go, and then you’re just basically saying yes to her advances.

I mean, here in this case, she’s got a date with another guy, but why did she blow the other guy off for him? Even if the other guy was way better looking, more successful, had more money, why would that happen? Well, it’s because he acts the most masculine. She feels the most attraction. Therefore, she didn’t respect the other guy, blew him off. Probably in the back of her mind. She knew she could get away with blowing him off, and he’ll just be all too happy. He’ll probably continue calling and texting, trying to set other dates. You know, this guy’s just got his game together. Meanwhile, she’s sleeping with this guy and talking to the other dude and then blowing him off.

She strives for emotional connection so we got into a lot of deep topics and the fact I did not shy away from any discussions and remained grounded secured my positioning.

So what’s important about that is he’s not changing his opinions to match hers, which a lot of guys do. They become compliant and soft, and women can pick up on that. When they see they can get you to jump through your butt and change your opinions to match hers just to get a taste, you’re going to dry her up. She’s going to end the date early, and then she’s going to text Chad Thundercock to come over and beat up her pelvis or the other guy.

Fast forward to now, about a month into our relationship, she and I have an extremely healthy level for boundaries and communication.

So the other thing is that she got into these deep subjects because she felt safe and comfortable discussing them. He’s not trying to solve her problems or give her advice to everything that comes out of her mouth. He’s just listening and letting her talk, makes her feel safe, he shares some things that he thinks and feels about the topic, she probably tests him to see if he’ll change his opinion, and obviously, as he mentioned, he remained grounded. So he didn’t. He stuck to his guns and she respected that. Even if she disagreed with him on things, he stuck to his guns. His beliefs were going to stay his beliefs, no matter what she thought of it. That’s what a man is all about.

I foresee this one going for awhile at least but I appreciate all you do for us guys who stumble into your work and become good students.

Well, I don’t look at it as stumbling, even though over the years, the last 20 years, people say, “I stumbled across your videos. I stumbled across your website.” Nobody stumbles across it. You’re experiencing pain from a rejection, and you’re trying to figure out, “What the fuck happened?” Then a video comes up, or you end up on my website, or maybe you see an ad or something, and you start listening and you’re like, “Man, that exact thing happened to me. A girl said exactly that, and now I understand what it means. Let me see this guy’s book. He lets me read it for free, for Christ’s sake!”

You’re a life saver when it comes to a mans self esteem if they’re willing to put in the work.

And that’s the difference. You could read the book a hundred times, but if you never apply it, you’re not going to get any better. As Confucius said, “Success depends upon prior preparation. Without said preparation, there is sure to be failure.” So he got prepared, he read the book, he practiced, and then when he met this girl that absolutely knocked his socks off, he was able to maintain his composure. He exercised self-control. She didn’t become his Kryptonite. In other words, he didn’t completely fall apart and turn into a bitch ass beta male, if you will. Which is what? It’s what we see on TV all the time.

So how could guys that don’t know any better, especially if they don’t have a good example at home set for them? How could they know any better? They watch that and they go, “Well, this is how a man’s supposed to be. That’s what they do on TV and on TV they always get the girl,” but in real life you get stuck in friend-zone and then you can unclog her toilet after Chad Thundercock spends the night and blows it up in the morning, and you get a nice little peck on the cheek and a hug. “You’re such a great guy, Harry Honda!”

If this is read in a video series, its true fellas, when a woman likes you, she will make it easy for you. 

Bob

Well, there’s a quote in the beginning of the book I heard from Adam Carolla many years ago. “When a woman likes you, the door is open and all you got to do is walk through,” but if the doors start closing in your face, you’ll walk away. It’s so true. So she was ready to open the door for a guy that displayed the masculine, attractive qualities that I talk about in 3% Man. So he did it. He was prepared. He practiced enough that when a girl came along and knocked his socks off, he did more things right than wrong. Now they’re about a month into it and hopefully in a month or two they’ll probably be getting serious, I would imagine. Maybe he’ll send us an email update and let us know how things have progressed.

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