How To Get Women To Approach, Chase & Seduce You

How to get women to approach, chase and seduce you so romance is easy & effortless.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 31-year-old viewer who is a 3rd year anesthesia student who is about to graduate in a few months. He shares a success story of how he created the conditions in his life where a hot classmate approached him, started to pursue him and ultimately made it easy for a seduction to happen.

However, after he reached out to set a 2nd date she seemed excited to hear from him, but was also a little slow to respond to his messages. He asks my opinion. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This particular email is from a 31-year-old viewer. He says he’s a third year anesthesia student and he’s about to graduate in a few months. He shares a success story of how he created the conditions in his life where a hot classmate, who happened to, I guess, be a year younger than him, approached him. In other words, put herself in his orbit, started sitting next to him, started pursuing him, started talking to him. Eventually he got her number. He even let her start reaching out. Then he made a date, and they ended up hooking up on the first date. Then about a week later, he reached out to make a second date, and she was excited to hear from him and said she was excited, obviously, that he’s reaching out. Then he noticed that she was kind of slow to respond to his messages. Now he’s getting a little like, “Ah.”

This is a good email just to show, because he really did a good job of starting things off and being totally indifferent. His inaction really turned her on and made her try harder to get his attention. So it’s a really great email for starting things off, starting the courtship off, and creating the conditions where women notice you and they come and try to get your attention. Men who understand 3% Man, that is typically where we live. When you have choice with women, this is your reality. You’re used to women hitting on you. You’re used to women trying to get your attention. Quite frankly, this is where all men should be as long as they do the work. Obviously they apply the things that are in the book.

Before I get into this particular guy’s email, I want to talk about the Member’s Area. So I’ve got exclusive Member’s Only content on YouTube, on Spotify and on my website. If you go in the video description of this particular video, you’ll have the links to there. What we’re doing is I’m doing a couple extra video newsletters a week. As a matter of fact, I’m going to be posting right now two a week. We’ve got a 3% Man study group with the girls and Chunky. They’ve all read the book. What we’re doing is we’re going through it. Just to give you an example, we’ve done two film sessions with Caroline and Jade on this. They went through, they marked up the book, they highlighted passages, so we’re really doing an in-depth discussion of the book and the contents, the techniques, the strategies, the things I teach. The girls are challenging me on things. They maybe troll me a little bit on some of the things, but it’s just really creates a conditions where from a woman’s perspective, they can challenge me on why I teach, what I teach, and why the principles are what they are in the book. Just as another tool to help you guys better learn the book, 3% Man.

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Viewer’s Email:

Good afternoon Coach,

My name is Bob. I’m 31, and I’m third year anesthesia student about to graduate this coming May. On my spare time, I watch and read your book and practice your work on nurses when the chance is right.

What’s interesting is, I’ve been doing this 20 years at this point, so I’ve dealt with a lot of people that have had cheating in their lives. The female nurses are one of the groups of careers where women cheat a lot. Freaky things go on in the hospitals, a lot of promiscuity, a lot of people cheating on their significant others. So if you’re dating a nurse, proceed with caution.

Several months ago, I noticed that student from the class year below me started sitting next to me during my morning coffee breaks.

Women come and they put themselves in your orbit, but typically they’re not going to ask you out. You still have to be the man. You still have to be direct and decisive. Get to the point. Make a definite date, definite time where you’re going to get together on a date. It’s up to you to ask for her number or to give yours out.

Again, I always remember what you teach and don’t lose my head when a pretty girl shows up. We started talking about anesthesia and asked for some advice since she knows I’m about to graduate.

That’s another thing. When a woman likes you, she typically tends to ask you for advice because she admires you. She respects you, she looks up to you, she seeks out your counsel. So when women do that, that typically is another indicator that they’re interested in you and they respect you.

Weeks went by and I started noticing that she would mention that she was, “Single, lived nearby and that had no roommates.”

If a woman’s doing that, it’s like she’s making it really obvious. If you think from this perspective, what if this guy already had more than enough women in his life? What if he was already getting his balls sucked dry and he just didn’t need any more tacos to deal with? He’d be in no rush to make anything happen because he’s already got more than enough. That works to his advantage, as you’ll see.

She would say this in a way that didn’t sound obvious, but would look at me in the eye to see what I’d do with it.

Yeah, because she’s trying to figure out, “Does this guy like me,” or, “What’s he doing?” It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear, and this guy’s doing nothing. He’s just showing up and going to his class, and he’s acting like a guy whose balls are already on empty, and he doesn’t have time for any of that. He’s nice, he’s respectful, but the last thing he needs is another bearded taco in his life.

The next week she sat next to me I asked for her phone number and she quickly had me put on her contacts and texted me shortly after to make sure I had her number too. Again, I had this mentality of, “I’ll wait until she texts me and a couple weeks went by,” until she did.

So she asked for his number, texts him back, her number and she’s doing all the work. Why get in the way of her fun?

She texted me asking about something school related. As a wise man once said, if a woman reaches out assume she wants to see you. So I asked her for a drink a day that I was already in the area practicing anesthesia. I invited her out at a time when I was getting out and told her to show up at a nice Irish local pub at 6 p.m. The girl showed up and looked gorgeous. I could tell she had spent some time looking good for me.

Yeah, she was worried about your approval. She was seeking your attention and your approval and trying to seduce you because again, she’s already hinted, “Hey, I got no roommates. There will be nobody there to interrupt us.” She might as well have said it that way, but when a woman’s hinting like that, she’s making it obvious.

I had two beers and I didn’t want to get drunk for many reasons, including the fact that I still had to drive home. I pay for the drinks and I paid for the both of us, and she immediately says that, “She will pay next time.” I didn’t think much of it and when we get out of the bar I offered to walk her home. By the time we get to her door she asks if I’m OK to drive to which I tell her that I’m a bit tipsy, but that I’ll just stop somewhere to get some water, “Oh I can give you some water. Do you wanna come in?”

Notice how he just kind of, “Well, I’m going to go get some water. I’m going to take off.” She’s like, “I can give you some water. Can I have a hot beef injection?”

I immediately give her a smirk and accept. As soon as we walk in, she gives me some water and sits next to me on the couch.

Once again putting herself into his orbit.

I had already been up for 14 hours and didn’t feel like dicking around too much.

I mean, this guy had wound her up for weeks by doing nothing. She’s inviting him into the house for some water. The reality is, she’s making it easy for a seduction to happen, but still, you’ve got to be the one to pick up on the signs and the signals and make the move. So notice what happens next.

So I tell her to get it over with and kiss me.

I’m pretty sure I read that in a book somewhere. That exact phrase.

This to me seemed like I had just released a beast because she mounted me on the couch and started ripping my clothes off.

Oh, you poor baby! I’m sure you suffered right through that, but you can see that this was like over many weeks of the anticipation building up and him not really doing anything.

Again, he’s acting like a guy whose balls are already dry. He doesn’t need any more. He doesn’t need any more feminine energy in his life. He’s already got enough, and look how aggressive she’s become. Now a dude that ain’t had a date in 10 years, he’s going to be giving off a completely different vibe, and this is never going to happen to him.

Needless to say, we took it to the bedroom. The following day she messages me and mentions the second beer again. I didn’t make the second date then because I had told her I was traveling to see some family for spring break.

I would have said, “I’d love to. I’ll get in touch when I get back from my trip.” That’s all I would have said, because you’re not telling her when exactly you’ll be back. You just say, “When I get back from my trip next week or a week after or in a couple of weeks, we’ll definitely do that. I’ll get in touch.”

During my entire time there (roughly seven days) we didn’t speak. I couldn’t shake the feeling of having her think that I had just used her, but I didn’t see the point on just texting.

Well, she texted you after all. The only thing, again, I would have done differently was like, “Man, I’d love to get that second beer. We’ll definitely do it when I get back in town. When I get back, I’ll hit you up.”

“Texting is just for setting dates.” Today I messaged her after one week and she seemed excited over text, but was taking a bit too long to reply.

Don’t get impatient. It’s just like tennis, hit the ball over the net. Don’t get mad that the kitty cat is a little flaky and a little indecisive, and its behavior is unpredictable. That’s just the way they are. You can’t take it personally. You can’t get butt-hurt. You can’t get perturbed.

There could either be other dude(s) in the picture, she is truly busy with school, or I simply did not manage to leave a long lasting impression. What are your thoughts Coach?

Thank you for your amazing work and I will continue to hone my skills.

Bob

Make the fucking date. Hang out. Have fun. Hook up. Your job is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. To hang out, to have fun, to hook up. She texted you back, but she’s taking her time. There probably is another guy. Maybe there is another guy. As far as you texting her after you had sex, I mean, she texted you the next day. You spoke the next day, so you shouldn’t feel guilty about that at all. Even if she does get mad or upset, that’s one of the reasons why you behave this way, because you want a girl who’s easy going, easy to get along with, doesn’t give you a hard time.

Think about it, if you call her up and she seems to be happy to hear from you, but she’s taken a little long to reply, you don’t get pissed off, you don’t get mad, you don’t get perturbed. You just constantly stay calm. You just assume, “She’ll get back to me when she can. She must be busy,” and just you have that attitude. It’s not a big deal because if you don’t make a big deal out of it, she won’t make a big deal out of it.

Again, you don’t really know this girl. Who knows that in between that week, an ex-boyfriend could have come back in the picture, or another guy who she was hooking up with that went sideways before she got in touch with you and you started hooking up. You don’t know what you don’t know. Bottom line is, just make the next date and then get off the phone. Whenever she does reply, just say, “Hey, I want to see you. When can we get together for that second beer? What’s your schedule like?” Come from a place of presupposing, “Of course she wants to see you.” That’s all I would do.

Typically when a woman is real hot and heavy initially and then she starts to get cold, usually it means there’s another guy in the picture. Especially if she’s hot and in this case, in the medical field, they tend to be more promiscuous. It’s just the way they are. They tend to cheat more too. I didn’t make them that way. Maybe it’s because you’re dealing with death and end of life stuff. So you’re just like people that serve in the military. You’re dealing with death and bodily fluids and things that most people can’t relate to.

So make the date, live in the moment. Don’t worry about it. Once she starts pursuing you and reaching out every couple of days, just use it as an opportunity to set the next date.

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