How To Get Women To Break All Of Their Rules For You

How to get women to submit & break all of their rules for you.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who shares an update. He met and started dating a supposed traditional Christian girl. He’s amused that by applying the principles taught in 3% Man she’s breaking all of her own rules around men and wants a commitment sooner than she ever has before. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “How To Get Women To Break All Of Their Rules For You”.

Women often bluff to test your strength. They’ll say things that they’re not really 100% committed to, just to see how committed you are to your principles and values, and obviously, the outcomes that you want. And when it comes to sales, somebody is always getting sold. You’re either selling her on why she should do what you want, or she’s selling you on why she should do what she wants, and you should do what she wants.

But at the end of the day, whoever cares the least has all the leverage in the negotiation. So with that in mind, we’ve got an email update from a guy who I think he had a breakup in the past. I don’t remember the context of his previous email, but he recently met a new woman. I remember what it was. He had gotten over a girl that he was dating. It was like a year later, his ex reached back out. He was like, I don’t feel anything. He finally got into a place of peace.

So this is when you really know you got a space for somebody new. And so after that previous email, which was a month or two ago, this one here, he meets a girl in March. And basically, she’s kind of structured. Christian, no sex till marriage. At least that’s what she says. I don’t know if she’s a virgin or she’s just decided that she wants to wait until the next time. But at the end of the day, a woman is supposed to submit to you and trust your judgment, trust your leadership.

And that includes even, especially if you’re a guy and you’re like, “I’m gonna wait until marriage”, but the girl you’re dating says that’s what she wants. At the end of the day, if you’re applying what’s in the book and she’s normal and healthy, she’s going to submit and go along with your agenda, which is what’s happening here. So in this case, this woman is used to always the guys asking her to be her boyfriend.

And here she is, not even barely a month after dating this guy who’s doing a good job of applying 3% Man. And not only is she not waiting for him to ask her to commit, but she’s locking him down. And this is the way it’s supposed to be. These things are innate in women. I mean, think about it. They’re doing their hair, their nails, their makeup, trying 15 different outfits on a bunch of different shoes, which perfume to wear.

Everything is to entice the man to pay attention to her and penetrate her with his strength. So they’re designed to get our attention and keep it and hold it, because if they didn’t, we wouldn’t care. And if we didn’t care, there would be no more of us. So it’s just again, these things are innate. And so when you act like a man, women will be stuck to you like a sucker fish like this one is becoming.

And one by one, all of her little rules that she lays out for you, like they go right out the window. And he’s kind of amused by that at this point. They haven’t had sex yet, but he did agree to commit to her. I don’t know if he’s a Christian or not and believes and all that, but if you are not interested in waiting until marriage for sex, then I certainly wouldn’t be agreeing to be boyfriend and girlfriend.

Unless of course, she seduced you then that’s another thing. Because at the end of the day, you’re basically submitting to her terms on some level if you go along with her agenda. But at the end of the day, if you act like a man and you send her emotions into the stratosphere, overrule, she’s going to use everything in her power to get you to pay attention only to her, including her magical vagina.

Viewer Email:

Hey Corey,

Got a good update for you. I met this girl on March 20^th, so it has been about 33 days now. She is very traditional, Christian, no sex before marriage, and she told me that in the past she had a 1-year talking stage before becoming official with a guy.

Well, that tells me is that guy was a beta male. He was keeping her very dry. So it’s very easy to maintain the no sex until marriage when a guy is drying you up. However, gets a lot harder when she likes the guy, then she’s going to use everything in her power to get him to fill her up emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

She also told me she usually sees a guy once a week and texts the rest of the time.

Well, this is the rules. This is how I operate. It’s like, yeah, when you hear these things, you can take it all under advisement. But at the end of the day, you’re interested in her submitting and following your lead. You’re supposed to drive the fun bus at the end of the day. And if you act masculine and you make her feel safe and comfortable and you hang out and have fun, the hooking up is going to be not far after.

But with me, none of that really held up. We ended up spending a lot more time together than that, including multiple nights together and a full weekend from Friday to Monday. We still have not had sex, because of her values.

Well, but what about yours? Don’t be too nice just because she says no sex until marriage doesn’t mean you give up and you never try. And especially if you’re like, I’m not waiting till marriage. You just come right out and tell her, it’s like, “Well, that’s not my value system I’m not interested in. Are you kidding me? I’m going to be with you for however many years before we get married, and I’ve got to keep my hands off you.

It’s like, yeah, it’s not happening, sweetheart. And if that’s what you’re looking for, maybe I’m not the right guy for you.” But I wouldn’t commit to somebody, especially if I’m not interested in waiting until marriage and that’s her. So you don’t want to be, in other words, you don’t want to go along with that just to please her.

But again, he didn’t elaborate. So I don’t know, maybe he’s totally cool with waiting until marriage. That’s whatever your values are, that’s fine. If the seduction needs to wait until the wedding night, then that’s whatever. Whatever floats your boat.

But we have been very close physically. Today she called me and basically told me she feels guilty about how much time we are spending together without being officially boyfriend and girlfriend, because in her mind that kind of time and closeness should belong to an actual relationship.

You see how that works? In other words, it’s like the Borg. If you ever watched the Star Trek, The Next Generation, “you will be assimilated.” Hang out, have fun, hook up, rinse, recycle, repeat. Obviously, the hooking up’s not happened, but I’m sure they’re fooling around. Obviously, is what he kind of intimates. Maybe they’re doing cunnilingus and she’s relieving his tension manually.

So I asked her if she is already at that point, and she said yes. I told her I am too. Then she said you do not ask anything in the phone currently. I said, well, I can pick you up at 15:50.

Which is 3:50.

She said yes. What makes this funny is that she also told me she has never brought this kind of thing up with a man before, because she is very traditional and thinks the man should lead.

Well the man should lead and you are leading. That’s the whole point. But she doesn’t, like most women, she doesn’t understand how attraction works. All she knows and mostly cares about is her feelings, and her feelings are going in the right direction, which is up. And the more they go up, the more she tries to make things really amazing for you. So she gets you all to herself.

So basically, the woman with the 1-year rule brought up the relationship talk herself in 33 days.

See, that’s how effective 3% Man can be. Makes it very easy.

I did not push for labels, I did not force anything, and I did not bring up exclusivity first. I just stayed steady, let things develop, and now she is the one wanting clarity.

Thanks Coach

Well again, if you have no intentions of waiting until marriage for sex. I wouldn’t have agreed to be boyfriend girlfriend. I would have just said, “Hey, I’m not interested in no sex until marriage. And so we can consummate our relationship and become exclusive. I’d be down for that.” But she’s like, “no, I’m not ready for that.” Like, “okay, well then let’s just continue to be kind of casual and see how it goes.” But I think he got a shot.

You are kind of cute. And you do treat me pretty good, and you’re a hell of a cook. And you’re a good cuddle bunny, especially when you’re mostly naked in my bed, which is really good. So this is a pretty easy case here. You’re just the guys applying the book. He’s gotten to a place of peace where all the ghosts of his relationship past are not bothering him anymore, and he can kind of take it or leave it.

She’s the one driving the train. So but again, like I said, the big thing that the only thing that really jumped out at me is that you agreed pretty quickly to be your boyfriend without any taste testing. Well, I guess you’re doing some taste testing you’re just not going all the way. But again, if that’s your value system and you want to wait until your wedding night, then whatever floats your boat.

I just want you to be happy. But I also don’t want you committing to things that. Because if you commit to that and you give up exclusivity, then that’s something that’s kind of you gave a little bit of your leverage away because you want to be a challenge. You want her to to be the one winning you over.

And if you’re not down for sex or waiting for sex until marriage, then I wouldn’t agree to be exclusive unless that happens. Then again, I would just phrase it like, “well, hey, you know what? Let’s consummate our relationship and we can be boyfriend and girlfriend, but I don’t want to wait till marriage.” And if she says, “well, that’s my value system.”

It’s like, “okay, well, let’s just casually date then and not be exclusive.” And then she’ll be like, “oh, I don’t like that.” Well, it’s like, “well, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. It’s got to be a win win for both people. And you clearly can’t keep your hands off me as it is. So it’s like, why wait?”

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