Here’s how to attract and seduce women who like you, so they become sex playmates and friends with benefits. You’ll also be able to put yourself in a position where your sex playmates contact you to hang out because they adore you so much; plus you rock their world in the bedroom.
If you become a great lover, you’ll never have a shortage of sexy playmates who love having sex with you! Women love sex just as much as men do. The problem is, most men (97% to be exact) don’t understand women, what women want or what women emotionally respond to. Therefore, most men are constantly blowing their chances and talking women right out of sleeping with them.
When I look back on my dating life from the time I became a teenager, there were literally hundreds of opportunities I had to seduce women who wanted me where I blew it. When you understand women, what they want and what they emotionally respond to, it’s easy to get laid and have plenty of sexy playmates. This is really important: if you want to be successful at seducing women who like you instead of blowing it like I always used to when I was younger, then you must learn to lose your attachment to getting what you want. You must let go of your need to be right, your desire to make something happen and accept what is. Learning to state what you want or tell a woman what you want, and then letting it go without any expectations, is an extremely difficult thing for most guys to master. What makes it so hard, is that men and masculine energy are all about purpose, drive, and mission in life. Men are used to, and conditioned to take action to make things happen. However, it’s a man’s inaction that makes him more sexually appealing to women. Why? Because it forces women to try harder to get a man’s attention and communicate that she is open to his advances. Since most men are used to chasing and pursuing their goals and dreams in life, it’s extremely difficult to shift gears, hang back and let women come to them. It requires learning to have infinite patience with women.
Because us men are so driven to succeed by taking action, and because men are visual creatures, we tend to zero in and focus on women we find attractive without paying any attention or giving any thought to the possibility that the feeling is not mutual. This is especially true where our society is bombarded by TV shows and movies that constantly present the false archetype to men that they must persist until a woman throws in the towel. What men don’t realize, is that this false archetype causes them to ignore a woman’s low interest. When men ignore a woman’s low interest and charge ahead anyways, sometimes they will come across women who have a low self-esteem or women who are users. These type of women will date and marry men they don’t love, and men they are not sexually attracted to because they are looking for comfort. The guy sees what he wants to see. When the kids come along, the sex stops and she spends all of her love and emotional energy on the children. You don’t want to become one of those guys.
If you let women who like you come and go as they please, they will do most of the pursuing and calling. This makes it very easy to date and seduce really amazing women who help you seduce them! Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. Women need to have the space and silence from you to feel what they feel for you. When women become really familiar with you, they can become bored and seemingly disinterested. It’s in their time away from you, that their feelings of attraction for you rise. When enough time passes, their feelings shift from being bored and disinterested, to feelings of uncertainty of where they stand with you. It is your interaction and failure to chase after them that makes them want you more and try harder to get you. When a woman becomes uncertain of where she stands with you, then she will initiate some form of contact i.e. texting, e-mail, phone calls, etc. Then all you have to do when she contacts you, is invite her to come over and hang out for a romantic evening at your house, or to make a date with her. A romantic opportunity for sex to happen. Do things her lover would do if you want to be her lover. Do things a friend would do if you only want to be her friend and get blue-balls; i.e. going to the movies, going to lunch, talking to her on the phone for hours on end, etc.
The following is an e-mail I got from a reader. He has an 18-year-old hottie who is exploring her sexuality and is constantly presenting herself to him so he can seduce her. The problem? He hasn’t read my book yet, and is therefore doing things to push her away and turn her off. However, she still calls him after a few days when she becomes unsure of herself, and is still giving him opportunities to get it right. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:
First off, I’ve watched a bunch of your YouTube videos and I feel like they’ve taught me a lot already. I plan to read your book within the next few days. (You can download the Amazon Kindle version to your Smartphone, iPad, Mac or PC in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE.) Thanks!
So long story super short, I’ve been talking to this 18 year old girl on and off for the past 2 months. She kept going back to her ex, then back to me like every 5 days or so. Every time she would try to be just friends but I would tell her that’s not what I wanted. (Smart! She obviously is testing you on this. Stick to your guns. Say, “I’m not looking for a relationship, but I would like to be friends with benefits or sex playmates to each other. But I’m not interested in being your male girlfriend.”) A day or two later she’d be asking to hangout, I’d cave, and things would go good for a few days until she would go cold again. Happened like 5 times. (You obviously are coming on too strong at times because you don’t know the material in my book yet. When you do, that is why she gets cold and disappears. When she does, just hang back and wait for her to contact you. Women are like cats. You MUST let them come and go as they please.)The last time however, she had told me she wanted to be my gf. Things were good for about 5 days, then Bam… cold… Then came the “I just want to be single and party and have fun” text. She had made mention that she wasn’t emotionally ready for a relationship (That is a true statement of her feelings at that time.) but then later said “although physically I’m ready.” (Translation: “I’m not looking for a relationship, but could decide I want to be in one with you over time if you let me come to you at my own pace. Until then, I’m happy to let you fuck my brains out and be friends with benefits if you play your cards right.”) She asked if I was ok with just being friends and just letting whatever happen, happen. (Translation: “Stop trying to get me to commit to being your girlfriend and worrying what kind of label to put on what we are to each other. Just go with the flow and I will let you seduce me.” Women help you seduce them when they like you. However, you are flying blind by not knowing the material in my book. Therefore, you are making unnecessary mistakes that keep pushing her away.) I figured since doing what I had been doing wasn’t working, I would try to remain in her life. (You must stick to what you want. Never agree to be “just friends.” Friends with benefits or sex playmates is great, but you’re not interested in being her male girlfriend.)
The confusing part is, she keeps kissing me. (She is young and exploring her sexuality. She wants you to be a man and fuck her when she comes over. She obviously likes kissing you and finds you sexually attractive. If she did not, you would never hear from her.) She keeps hugging me, and laying on me. We’ve made out a couple times but not for very long. (That is because you are not going with the flow. You are too worried and focused on boyfriend/girlfriend or a relationship label to just let things happen between you two slowly over time.) She always makes sexual jokes and innuendos toward me. (She is horny and wants to fuck you when she does. When she says things like that say, “I want you” and then kiss her. Or you could say, “Oh yea? Then kiss me passionately right now.”) We haven’t had sex but we were about to prob 2 weeks ago but I was nervous and had problems keeping it up 🙁 Haven’t had the opportunity since. She has probably slept over like 10 times with no sex mind you, and I assume she still wants to in the future. (If she is calling you and chasing you, then she will continue to do so. Never initiate any contact with her. Instead, only respond to her texts and use them as an opportunity to invite her over to hang out; make definite plans. If she says no, then say, “Text me if you change your mind” and then walk away and wait to hear from her. When she calls or texts again, keep doing the same thing until she agrees.) She’s even told me I should still take her out on dates. (Dude, this girl wants you and you are fucking it up because you don’t know what to do. Read my book ASAP!!!!)Basically my question is, clearly this girl is no good for a GF, (Based upon what?) But I would like to know if you think there’s still a chance I could have sex with her. (Hell yea if she is still pursuing you.) We’ve prob hungout 3 times since we “broke up” (Dude, you were never together. Forget about relationships and dating labels. That’s the woman’s department. When a woman wants to be your girlfriend, she will bring it up. Until then, just have fun and GET LAID!!!) And although we’ve made out a couple times, it doesn’t seem to be progressing any toward sex. (You keep pushing her away by being weak and indecisive.) Is she just looking for a cuddle buddy and using kissing to keep me around? (No, you keep pushing her away by being needy. Plus, its up to you to seduce her when she presents herself to you. Sex must be your fault. Go for what you want and slowly escalate things when you are with her. I cover this extensively in my book.) Or is there still a chance I can get this girl to have sex with me? (From what you have shared here, I would say yes, but I only know what you tell me.) Should I just tell her friends was a mistake and to call me if she changes her mind? (no) Or should I hang in there and keep having fun with her and hope she comes around? (Like I said before, let her come to you. Never initiate contact unless you are responding to her.)
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