How To Seduce Her Instead Of Talking Her Out Of It

How to seduce women when they’re open to it instead of talking them out of it.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email update from a viewer who was traveling in London and ran into an occasional booty call of his. He was hanging out with his friends, they saw each other and she came up to him. She was open to being seduced but he missed the signs, turned into a robotic cold fish statue and ended up going home alone. I tell him what he should have done instead. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “How To Seduce Her Instead Of Talking Her Out Of It”.

So this is a guy I’ve done a few emails on. He’s the one that has like an occasional booty call, and I guess she is from the States, maybe like Michigan or something. They basically live in different countries, but they’re from the same area. And so she lives in London. And so sometimes he travels to London for business or visit friends or whatever. And sometimes she’s back in the States in the same city as him.

And so like when she’s in the city, sometimes she reaches out, they hook up. Sometimes when he’s in her city, same thing. So the last time the last email was, I don’t know, a few months ago, “Keeping The International Booty Call Going With Realistic Expectations”. That was a month or two ago, maybe it was longer, I don’t know. But I do vaguely remember the case.

And so they would get together and he would kind of fumble the football a little bit. And so he kind of gives an update and you know, admits his mistakes here. So obviously it’s good to learn from because he didn’t do what he was instructed to do. And he paid the price. Which is as predictable as the Sun coming up in the East and setting in the West.

If women are confusing to you, read the book. It’s free in the Members Area of the Website, so you have no reason not to learn the baseline fundamentals of what I teach. But again, this is a good email to learn from because this stuff’s not easy. When you really care about a girl, it’s hard to do the right thing because our emotions are clouding our judgment.

Viewer Email:

Hi Corey,

Thanks for making a video of my last email titled, “Keeping The International Booty Call Going With Realistic Expectations”. I have an update for you. I’ll keep it brief and concise. 

But you know, sometimes, obviously you just can’t always fit it into 500 words. Just don’t send me a fucking 15 page term paper because I won’t read that.

Summary – Girl I met aboard comes back home to visit her family a couple times a year – we’ve been on 4 to 5 dates and always have a great time. After my last email, I didn’t follow the book and left off getting really drunk and basically berating her with needy, jealous nonsense – I was a real asshole.

Well, that’s a quick way to dry her up. You’re supposed to be hanging out, having fun and hooking up, not drying her up because you can’t handle your alcohol. And again, I say this every time I see this just as a reminder because I always got new people coming in. If you tend to over drink, the best thing to do if you’re gonna drink on a date is like Miller Lite. And then every two beers, maybe a 12, 14 ounce glass of water to wash it down.

I’d stay away from the hard liquor. I’d stay away from the shots, including the IPAs. I love IPAs, but if you’re on a date, you know those things will sneak up on you because sometimes they’ve got up to two times the alcohol content of a regular beer. So you have two of those. It’s like four beers. And if you’re a guy that drinks occasionally, you’re gonna be getting fucked up. Or getting blackout drunk and grabbing your girlfriend’s best friend’s ass in front of her.

MMA boyfriend, which is, you know, those things happen. So stick with the light beer. If you’re going to go to the beach and you’re going to take a cooler with you, Keystone light for the beach. Keystone light for the beaches, and Miller Light for everything else. And I saw the lovely Livvy Dune, I think the gymnast from was it New Orleans or whatever, just did a Miller Lite commercial. Tastes great. Less filling, which is very smart.

Miller Lite guys. Good job with the marketing there. She’s an absolute smokeshow and she looks great and quite frankly, great looking girls that are fun should be drinking beer that tastes great and is less filling, and won’t get you as fucked up. So again, two beers and every two beers, 12 to 14oz of water. You’ll pee a lot more, but you won’t be like, I’m not as sick as you. Drunk I am tonight, baby. You won’t be getting like that.

To add fuel to the fire, I accepted a group date the following week which got me nowhere. Finally, when she declined a last date due to pre-existing plans. I was forced into no contact after messaging her “Hit me up whenever you’re back in town” and being left on delivered.

So again, he didn’t really follow instructions, dried her up. She came to the city, didn’t get together with him because again, he dried her up. So she’s like, she wasn’t turned on. She probably got turned on by Chad Thunder Cock and or Bob Thunder cock or Tom Thunder Cock or Tyrone Thunder Cock or whoever.

Fast forward to last week when I went to her city in London, England to party with some friends. I did not reach out to her because she left me on read so I said fuck it and treated her like a ghost.

Which is the right thing to do. So good job there. I know it was probably hard. You were probably thinking about her, but she came to your city, didn’t care to see you. So if you happen to be there, go spend time with people that want to see you. Go where you’re celebrated, not tolerated. Another reason why you don’t reach out. Your friends are happy to see you and have a good time. Help you meet new girls and get laid. And who knows, maybe occasionally you might even bump into the ex, which is kind of what’s about to happen.

She happened to be there and she was very surprised to see me.

See, this is like something out of a movie. Bob.

She walked right up to me and had a look on her face and said “Bob!? what the fuck!?”, then proceeded to ask me what I was doing here, how long am I staying, etc.

Well, if again, if this is a girlfriend of mine and we’ve been very intimate and I haven’t seen her in a while, first thing I’m doing is I’m kissing her on the lips like she’s fucking mine. So that’s how you greet your girl. Even if she blew you off, who cares? She comes up to you. It’s like, hey, babe, you just kiss her like it’s natural, instinctual. I have ex girlfriends that I don’t see for years, and then we see each other. First thing we do is we’re kissing each other on the lips like we just saw each other yesterday that’s how it should be. “That’s the way it is when you move freely in the land of women”, as Zan Perrin likes to say.

I hugged her and said it was nice to see her. Spoke for a bit then told her it was really nice seeing her, she looks great, but I’m going to go see my friends.

Well, love is allowing. If she’s keen to see you and you’re kissing is like, “You look great. What are you doing?” “I’m here with my friends.”  So you spend a little bit talking to her. And as she’s really starting to enjoy it, and she’s playing with her hair and she’s touching your arm and you’re catching up, just say you look hot. But I gotta get back to my friends. So come see me before you leave. And then go back to your buddies.

I just focused on having a good time and when we crossed paths again I asked her if she wanted to get some fresh air.

Well, it’s a good job there.

She just grabbed me and pulled me beside her.

See. You should have been fucking kissing this girl, which she’s about to do. So he redeems himself. So I’m happy about that.

We talked some more until it got really crowded, so I told her bye again to go back to my friends where there is more space.

So again, I would have kissed her and probably made out with her and if I hadn’t seen her in a couple of years or a year or six months, it’s like kissy poo is happening right there. That’s my girl, that’s my woman. I just take her and do what I want.

Maybe 20 minutes went by when she came up to see us and I just said, “fuck it”, looked at her and kissed her a couple times cause she’s hot as fuck and I was tired of the small talk. She told me to come back to see her before I leave and went back with her friends. I enjoyed the rest of my night and said bye to her before leaving to which she replied, “Let me know whenever you’re back in London!” and I just said “hmm, it probably won’t be for a while” with a skeptical face.

To be honest Corey, she’s cool and all but she left me on delivered. I’m at the point in my life where it turns me on when women reach out to me – and I’m not willing to take a flight just to see this girl – she can message me when she’s back in town. Anyways, I’d appreciate your thoughts on this. Did I make the right move kissing her out of nowhere after a no contact scenario?

Fuck yeah. This is your woman. You take her. What I would have been doing is like, when we’re making out is like, hey, we should get out of here. And then you and her go hang out and do something on your own. Spend time with your friends. And then when this shit’s happen, it’s like, hey, let’s get out of here and go hang out.

Also, since she said let me know whenever I’m back in town, does this mean I can message her again if this is the case?

No, I would not do it. But you definitely missed an opportunity here this night.

Or should I continue to never reach out?

Well I wouldn’t reach out at all because then you want her thinking about it. And then next time she comes to see you, she’s going to be thinking about that kiss. So all is not lost. But you missed an opportunity to fuck her brains out there. That’s a you thing. Again, I put examples of seducing a woman that comes up to you like this and you missed the boat.

I’m indifferent about it, but in the case where I am back in her town before she’s back in mine. It would be nice to see her.

Thanks champ!

Bob

Well again, maybe post something to social media. “Hey, I’m going to be back in London next week. I’m looking forward to seeing all my friends and people I love, or I’m looking forward to seeing all the people I love back in London.” And then let her be the one to see that and reach out to you. That’s how I would handle that. But I would not call her. I would not text her. Because then she’d be like, “oh, he’s going to call me.”

And then you don’t call her. And she’s like, who is he talking about? Did he meet somebody else? Is that why he didn’t try to seduce me last time I saw him? He just kissed me. What’s going on?” And then she reaches out to you. So that’s how I would handle that.

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