How to spot untrustworthy women, so you can make the right choice if you are looking for a loyal, exclusive, monogamous and trustworthy woman.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who is a divorced dad of two kids who shares how my work helped to improve his romantic prospects after he became single again. He asks about his current girlfriend of eight months who he says is a great woman and the only one out of a hundred women he has slept with since his divorce that he would consider marrying.
However, recently they have had a falling out over the numerous male orbiters in her life and the ones she has slept with that are always lurking in the background. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.
I wanted to say how enlightening your book and content is. Honestly, it’s saved my life. I am a divorced dad of 2 and I was in a seriously bad way post divorce. I realized how beta I was with my ex and came across your book. Short story, I picked my sorry ass up, fucked nearly a hundred women and went the other way. I applied the work from your book, and although it was an unstable time in my life, I literally went from zero to hero.
That’s a lot of women to sleep with and not feel anything for any of them. That’s slightly psychopathic to do that. Now, I’m just saying that to share yourself, your body, risk getting a disease with that many random women, maybe it was out of revenge, I don’t know, but that’s a high body count in a short period of time, bro. I’m just giving you my opinion. If it makes you happy, God bless you.
I’ve also bought a gym in this pandemic, risen above fear and panic and again followed you. I honestly can’t thank or say how helpful you have been! (P.S. free lifetime gym membership if you visit the UK, bro). Your work is amazing!
Well, thanks for the free gym membership. I don’t know that I’ll ever be going back to the UK any time soon, because you guys are locked down over there. The communists are fully in control of the UK.
Women! So, I had the nightmare hot ones, and I’m a sucker for hot women who display alpha female qualities, despite also hating them.
So, maybe just sleeping with women and blowing them off was a little bit of revenge for you? I don’t know. Like I said, it’s a little psychopathic to go through a hundred in a short period of time after a divorce. That’s a lot of women, dude. That’s a lot of drinks, that’s a lot of dating apps, a lot of approaches. That’s a lot.
After many women, sweet, submissive and downright fucking nightmares ones, I can honestly say I’ve had my fair share of them and their drama. I’ve learned so much.
I’d would say, you probably have plenty more to learn. You must unlearn what you have learned.
I have realized women can really weaken us and distract us from our purpose.
If you’re not centered and you don’t believe in yourself and what you’re doing, absolutely, because they’re going to find the chinks in your armor, and they’re going to test that weakness. And if you’re not too sure of yourself and what you’re doing, they will discover this and they will exploit it to help you either change your approach, change the way you’re looking at things, or maybe change your mind completely.
I have a current girlfriend who I’ve had for 8 months, and she is the only one post marriage that I’d consider marrying again. We started off amazing, but now she is driving me nuts.
She’s driving you nuts and you’re going, “Oh yeah, I would totally marry her.” Think about that statement, bro.
I’m aware it’s some of my insecurities too, which I’d also like to thank your book for helping me identify this, but here’s where I really need your help.
So, the bottom line is he’s obviously blinded by his interest in this particular woman and he’s not too good at spotting women that are trustworthy versus those who are not, which will become very clear in the next few paragraphs.
She’s a gorgeous smart independent woman with no baggage (37!!).
You sure about that, dude?
She’s very attentive and loving, more so that any woman I’ve had. She is very alpha and has calmed down as I’ve asserted my position in the relationship and led with actions, but she constantly has too much male attention. I made the mistake of asking her past, and she’s basically had a 20-year-long fuck buddy that she constantly revisits between relationships!
Oh, twenty years. I read somewhere, they said if somebody’s in your life for seven years, that means they’re always going to be in your life. If they’ve been hooking up for twenty years, like Gerald Celente of the Trends Research Institute says, “Current events form future trends.” I don’t think he’s going to be going anywhere in her life. You’ve only known her for what, eight months? He’s known her for twenty years.
He’s always sniffed around, she cheated on her ex 10 years ago with this guy and I’ve got the burden of keeping this secret.
“She’s a gorgeous, smart, independent woman with no baggage,” remember that earlier in the email? No baggage at all, none whatsoever.
She claims she doesn’t sleep around and this guy has been her “lifeboat” in-between all her relationships, even though he has a Mrs.
Oh, so he’s married? I don’t know if that means he’s married or has a girlfriend, but he’s supposedly in a relationship with somebody else, even though he’s totally in contact with your supposed girlfriend. But she’s got no baggage.
I am angry, but good on him for having so many options. I can’t be a hypocrite, as I have cheated before and paid the price and felt shame but had the balls to go counseling and better myself.
Well, that’s the difference. You recognized that you had no integrity and you operated from a place of integrity and you went and got some counseling. Now, does that mean that you’ve actually permanently changed? I don’t know.
Not only this, but I am becoming suspicious and jealous now and that’s time to re-read your book again to pull me back in! I feel she doesn’t set boundaries with men and constantly flirts and uses them to gain leverage. I’ve seen this with so many of her “friends” sniffing around, which lots she’s slept with.
She belongs to the streets, bro! Come on man. The only one you considered marrying. She belongs to the streets, dude. You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife.
I know this is part of a new relationship, and as things go by these orbiters go away, and I feel that as a man you have to stay strong.
The thing you’re ignoring is the fact that she likes this attention and she’s obviously inviting it. A good, family-oriented woman is just simply not going to do these things, dude. A chick who just doesn’t value it, who’s a little psychopathic, kind of like you are sleeping with a hundred women in a short period of time, and you felt nothing for any of them? You shouldn’t use people as disposable commodities. If you’re not that into them, why? It’s glorified masturbation. But it’s your body, it’s your life, you do whatever you want.
However, I looked on her phone this week and saw a male colleague weasel trying it on and felt it was disloyal she engaged in chat, regardless of her telling him about me. He’s definitely pursuing her, and I can handle the attention she gets, but I’m seriously questioning her integrity as to why she feels it’s appropriate to reply at 20:30 in the evening!
So in military time, that’s 8:30 at night. You know why it’s appropriate for her? Because she belongs to the streets! It’s a true story. She’s a street creature.
Bottom line is that I don’t feel its morally right what she’s done with her fuck buddy, but the past is the past.
Well, obviously it’s not the past because they’re still in contact. Current events form future trends. See, she’s consistent. Gerald Celente was right.
And I completely understand your advice on jealousy and how it makes women lose attraction.
At the end of the day, she’s behaving like somebody that didn’t get enough strokes as a kid. She’s a liar, a cheater, she likes male attention, male co-workers. I mean, she’s giving out her phone number to male co-workers, even though she supposedly has a boyfriend. Now, why would she do that? Yeah, she belongs to the streets, because she doesn’t care. It doesn’t mean anything to her. She’s thirty-seven. You aren’t going to change her. She was this way before you met her.
But people go, “Oh, I’ve got Corey Wayne’s book. I’m going to use this to make her into the perfect woman.” You can’t make good wine from bad grapes, dude. The purpose of the book is to help you identify these shady behaviors. There’s red flags everywhere, and you’re like, “I would seriously consider marrying her.” Great thinking.
Obviously, I’ve asked her about the FB, as her messaging a male work colleague has pissed me off.
She likes the attention. She didn’t get enough strokes when she was a little girl.
I now feel disgusted that this woman I love has recently, (2 months before we dated), fucked her 20-year affair again.
Dude, she’s consistent. This is totally not surprising to me. I’m like, of course she did. He’s always going to be in her life, long after you’re gone.
I am confused, as she had the integrity to tell me about him and she didn’t need to, but I’m also confused if women do this to create jealousy and control.
It’s full disclosure. This way, she can say, “Hey, I didn’t lie. You don’t have to worry about him. I can control myself. I can keep his penis out of my vagina. I have total willpower.”
We have fallen out massively after I confronted her about messaging men at work and why they have her number.
Why do they have her number? Because she belongs to the streets!
I have also stated to her my values…
She doesn’t care about your values, dude. She’s like, whatever. It means nothing to her.
…what I expect from a woman and how I treat them as a man with my loyalty and integrity.
Well, you’re making the mistake of assuming loyalty and integrity mean something to her. Look at her actions, it means nothing, zero.
I have asked her to let me call her fuck buddy and for her to have the integrity to tell her ex, who’s still “friends” with her, what happened and why she left him. It feels controlling, but I want to eliminate this dirty secret and to be honest for her to have the balls to make sure this is over, as it’s making me feel horrible knowing this orbiter for 20 years is an option.
He’s still going to be an option long after you’re out of her life, dude. She ain’t changing for you. She’s thirty-seven years old. Come on. People don’t change who they are. They may become a better version of themselves. She might just become better at hiding it and maybe she doesn’t do it as much, but you ain’t going to change her.
What’s the saying, “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn.” That would apply in this particular case. I see a lot of fucking dudes throwing that shit all over my YouTube channel, but in this particular case, that would definitely apply. Why? Because she belongs to the streets.
She told me she’s blocked and deleted his number, but let’s be honest, with today’s tech it’s easy to get hold of someone again.
Corey, I’m a bit lost here between being stable and not letting any of this affect me…
Obviously, it is affecting you.
…or by having the balls to take action and address this (like I did). I’d really appreciate your opinion here.
Dude, you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife. It’s not your job to be Captain Save-a-Hoe and fix her or be the white knight or save her from whatever happened in her childhood that caused her to think that this is how you have relationships with members of the opposite sex. Your values are not aligned.
Now, obviously, you view yourself as a reformed cheater, because you went to therapy and counseling. Hopefully, you live up to that, but at the end of the day, as soon as you decide to cheat, you cheat. The key is consistency.
Just like the person that promises that they’re not going to do drugs or alcohol anymore. It’s like every day you’re making that choice to go twenty-four hours without a drink or a swat, or in Hunter Biden’s case, some crack. Like Whitney Houston said, “Crack is whack!” Or like Rick James said, “Cocaine is a hell of a drug.” You go twenty-four hours and you make the choice not to go over to the dark side and do bad things.
But she’s a fuck buddy, friends with benefits, sex playmate, that’s it. She’s not wife material. If I could reach through the camera virtually and smack you or have you take your right hand and reach out and choke yourself, I would definitely tell you to do that. Because you’re delusional thinking that you’re going to make this girl, by using what you learned in my book, a changed woman. It’s not your job, it’s not your responsibility. This is the way she is.
So, you can either continue to hang out, have fun and hook up with her until you find a woman with integrity, or you can leave the situation and tell her to go on down the road. Because at the end of the day, she belongs to the streets!
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