How to tell when your woman is testing your strength just to see what she can get away with, and the importance of standing up for yourself, what you want and making sure that your actions are congruent with your words. The danger that failing her subtle tests will pose to the future of your relationship, her respect for you and her continuing to stay in love with you.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss four different emails from four different viewers who are struggling to pass the tests women are throwing at them. The first email is from a viewer whose girlfriend wants his attention all of the time. They just moved in together two months ago. She wants sex everyday, initiates sex and is obviously very in love with him because he is doing everything right. However, he sometimes feels trapped and is not completely sure if he’s doing the right thing.
The second email is from a guy who met a girl through online dating a year ago. She was not very interested in him and quickly blew him off. Recently he ran into her and later contacted her. Her tests were very subtle, but he did not notice or pass them. The third email is from a viewer whose girlfriend dumped him because she wants to sleep with other guys, but still wants to hookup up with him from time to time. She has been contacting him, but he’s unsure of the meaning of things she says or how to go about hooking up with her. The fourth email is from a viewer who is dating several women. Each of them has an opinion on how he should wear his hair style, how he should dress, etc., and he wonders how to stand up to them and their efforts to change him.
“When a woman senses weakness or timidness in her man, she will test him by pretending to be irritated, displeased or unhappy with him in order to see if he will stand up for himself to her, and if he will stand up for his principles and what he believes in. If he fails these tests, it causes her to doubt his masculine core, and causes her to question if she were ever in any real physical danger, that he would stand up for her and protect her. Men must know who they are, what they want, what their mission and purpose is, and be unwilling to compromise their values and principles to maintain the respect and love of their women. When a woman loses respect for her man, she will lose her feelings of safety, security and love for him. This is why “nice guys” who don’t stand up for themselves always finish last with women.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne