Why you deserve to have the best in every area of your life that is important to you and why you should demand the best from other people and yourself, so you can overcome challenging times, bad breakups and become more centered and successful than you have ever been in your life.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares his success story of how he has turned his life around after a bad breakup and finding out about my work. He became seriously ill while he was living with his girlfriend and her kids. He became grumpy because he had trouble regulating his blood sugar. They had an argument before he left on a business trip, and she moved out. He tried winning her back while he was in the hospital, but he was unsuccessful.
He says she started dating a fat and bald guy. He started hitting the gym and began to eat right and take care of himself, instead of her. He now holds himself to high standards, demands the best and he will not settle for anything less. He says he now has more women than he knows what to do with, and he is confident he will eventually find the right woman for him again. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I wanted to drop you a line of thanks. Let me start by saying that I have gone through a rough time personally. (We all have challenges and things we have to overcome, but those circumstances improve our strength and ability to overcome obstacles. They grow our confidence and stretch us beyond where our comfort zone happens to be. When you are uncomfortable, you are usually doing things you’re not too familiar with and expanding your capabilities and skills. If you’re expanding your skill set in anything you have a passion for, you’ll be able to add more value.) I was to be married to a woman I loved very much, we were happy for two years, she is beautiful, and I loved her very much. She moved in with me with her kids, and we were planning a wedding. Then, I fell sick very sick. I was having trouble regulating my blood sugar, and it made me grumpy. We got into a fuss, I left on a business trip, and she moved out. (She left instead of working things out. Women don’t leave men they’re head over heels in love with. This is a difficult and challenging thing to get past.) I ended up in the hospital and started the process of trying to win her back. That’s how I discovered you. So after months of trying to win her back, she went on to see another guy who is 5’3,” fat and balding. (The good news is, she’s his problem now. She left you when you needed her most. When you go through adversity like this, you find out who’s on your team and who’s not. You potentially avoided another divorce.) I know guys compare themselves physically to other men, so I hit the gym, began to eat right and take care of me, instead of her. (You focused on becoming a person of value. You must become the person you want to attract.) I was a combat soldier at one time, and I am 6’6″ and a weightlifter. (Thank you for your service.) More importantly, I changed my attitude thanks to your book and videos. I have always had an easy time with women, but did things through instinct. You put what I was doing into words. (It improves your sensory acuity and your awareness.)
I will fast forward. I saw my ex. She is still with this little turd, but she couldn’t keep her hands off of me. (She doesn’t sound like a very loyal person. When we’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t looking out for us, we won’t feel safe and comfortable and won’t be able to trust that person. She has disqualified herself from being in a relationship with you.) I used your advice, told her I missed her and I loved her, but I am not second to any man, especially a sheep like him. I am a fucking alpha male. Well, I was hurt. I admit, I am a good man, I am a successful man and I loved her, hell still do, but I moved on with confidence and a new outlook. (At the end of the day, it sounds like you accepted your circumstances for what they were. You two did not have the same goals and values. If you’re going to have an exclusive, monogamous relationship with someone you can trust, you have to make sure they have no history of being unfaithful, and you want to date someone who places a high value on communication, commitment and loyalty.) Since that time, I am not kidding; I have more women than I know what to do with. Because of your advice, I do not get caught up in the needy things. I deserve the best, I demand the best and will settle for nothing less. (That sounds like an alpha male.) I wanted to tell you that what you teach works. (Even if you think that I’m full of crap, if you just apply the things I teach, you will see that they work for you.) I am living proof.
In closing, I wanted to tell you these women are beautiful, and I am feeling better than I have in a long time. (It’s your birth right to feel this way. You’re in your masculine energy and acting like a man is supposed to act. That is why everything is falling into place.) I have women coming out my ears. I am singing in a band. I am bodybuilding. I am confident I will find that right woman for me again. Coach, thank you so much. I owe you for helping get me through a rough time in my life. (Thanks for writing a great email and for being fucking awesome. Not only are you changing your life, but you’re having a positive impact on the women you interact with, and you’re influencing everyone you know and encounter in your life in a positive way. Because you have high standards, your presence gives other people the confidence to hold themselves to the same high standards and to follow your example. As Sun Tzu said, “A leader leads by example, not by force.”)
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“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the people you surround yourself with, the standards you hold yourself to, the quality of the action you take and your ability to learn from failure and improve your approach. In order to get what you want in life, you must know what you want, (your outcome), why you want it, (have emotionally compelling reasons why you want what you want), and be willing to pay the price to manifest it and make it happen. Your belief system and the action you take is either moving you towards what you want or taking you away from it. Trust your heart, see reality for what it is, see your circumstances for what they are, and never place someone else’s opinion above your own.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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