I Don’t Want To Lose Her!

Here’s how to make sure that the girl you want chooses you over all her options with other men. “Fear of loss is a path to the dark side.” ~ Master Yoda. I remember feeling awkward and unsure of myself around women in my early 20s. I had no game. I had no idea when to set a date, what to do on a date or when to go for the kiss. I remember the worst part of it all was I never knew where I stood with a woman. I simply did not know what to look for like most clueless guys. These simply aren’t skills we are taught. The following is an e-mail from a reader. Apparently he ran into his old girlfriend from high school after he came home from college. He says they have been going out for about two months now. He mentioned that they held hands. So I’m thinking he’s been going out with this girl all this time and he has never once tried to kiss her. He writes me because he feels insecure and he has no way to tell if she likes him. He’s worried about other guys ripping off his chick. He’s obviously not read my book yet. My comments are (in bold brackets like this) in the body of his e-mail:

Hi Corey.

I have a problem with a girl that I really like. Actually I love her. (You better slow your roll with that “I love you” shit or she will give you the “let’s just be friends speech.”) We dated in high school when we were 16 for a year and a half. I broke up with her because I was going overseas to pursue my studies. I came back this year and somehow we met. (There are no accidents. Every encounter has a lesson. You have a gift for them and they have a gift for you. Don’t get attached to her or focus on the future with her. Only focus on the now and having a good time with her. Be present in the moment.) It has been close to two months now. The problem is that the 2nd time I met her I told her that I loved her and she said thank you. (Translation: “Slow your roll dude, we haven’t seen each other in years. I don’t love you yet, nor will I in the future if you don’t stop talking about your feelings. Just focus on showing me a good time and create an opportunity for sex to happen by taking me out, and then going for the kiss at the end of the date. If you are confident and don’t creep me out, you may just get lucky.”) I feel dumb and I know it’s the wrong thing to say, but that’s how I feel! (STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS! YOU’RE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN!!! If you keep it up she will convert you to her male girlfriend and maybe she’ll invite you to her wedding to some other dude. Women need and want to wonder where they stand with you. It’s a scientific fact!) We have been going out for few times like once a week. (Which is it? A few times a week or once a week? Sounds like you’re trying to make things sound better than they are by embellishing.) We were holding hands and basically we were like a couple in public. (Have you ever kissed her or tried too? If you don’t she will judge you as a weak man and reject you by making you her male girlfriend or her friend with no benefits.) The thing is, I don’t know how she feels toward me and whether she likes me. (You sound totally clueless. You better fix that ASAP by reading my book. You can download the Amazon Kindle version of my book to your Smartphone, PC, Mac or iPad in under 60 seconds for only $9.99 by CLICKING HERE to learn how to meet and date the type of women you’ve always wanted and have effortless relationships.) She did say before that I’m the only one in her heart, and that she loves me. (So what. That only applied to the moment in which she said it. When women speak of their feelings, they speak of how they feel only in the moment. Tomorrow they will feel differently depending on how much you get right or how much you screw up and turn them off.) Right now I’m really confused and insecure because I don’t want to lose her to other guys. (What you fear you ATTRACT, and what you look at DISAPPEARS! Forget about other guys. You simply need to focus on reading my book. Only call her once per week to ask her out for one definite date per week. Always go for a kiss at the end of every first date. If she likes you too, she will kiss you back. If not, she will turn her head and you will kiss her cheek. If you get her cheek, stop calling her for dates and go out with some other ladies so you can practice and master your skills of seduction.)

Help me!

Bob

“You can’t own something, obtain something you want or be given someone’s heart freely without getting to a place where you are ok with not having it at all. It’s only when you can completely do without what you want, that it comes to you and becomes yours.” ~ Corey Wayne