In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a success story of how he got out of friends-zone with women in general, and was able to finally seal the deal romantically with a woman who friend-zoned and blew him off for another guy a year ago. He spent so much time with this girl when they first met, but never made a move romantically, even though she was pursuing him and asking him to hang out. Eventually, she realized he lacked confidence, did not have any game and was basically clueless. She even came right out and told him that, since they hung out so much as friends and he never made a move, she was not attracted to him. He then vomited his feelings all over her, but she still blew him off. A few weeks ago, she called him out of the blue, and since he had become very successful with women, he knew exactly what to do. He made a date, she came over and he finally sealed the deal. He even talks about how he improved his career as a result of my work. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
I just wanted to drop you an email to thank you for the great work you do helping people to improve their lives. A year ago, I was as clueless as any guy you have probably ever met. I was raised in a pretty messed up household, which had some serious negative effects on my self-esteem. Although I didn’t realize the serious nature of the problem, I ended up codependent, and this caused me so many problems in my dating life.
I met a girl for the first time in a long time that showed high interest in me, but due to my issues and lack of knowledge, I messed things up. She asked me to hang out a bunch of times and was really cool, but I didn’t act, out of fear of rejection, and got myself friend-zoned. (This reminds me of things I did in my 20’s, but those are the kinds of experiences that shape you. I learned what not to do, and can now share my wisdom.) Eventually, she met a guy who did know what he was doing, and I ended up vomiting my feelings all over her. She told me I was such a nice guy, and that in the beginning she just wanted me to make a move on her, but we hung out so much and got on so well as friends, that she wasn’t attracted to me. I was devastated, and it was at this time I found your work.
Over the past six months, I have read your book well over 15 times, and watched thousands of hours of your videos. (This is a guy who is serious about his success. He put in the time, he did the repetition and now he’s getting results.) I download them to my iPod, and listen to them all the time. I now know and understand every mistake I made, and more importantly, why I made them. I have blasted through my negative mindset and look at my past as a gift from which to learn from. (Everything he has read in my book, because he’s read it 15 times, is instinctual at this point.) These days, things are very different for me, and I am having a lot of fun, I’m hooking up, and even improved my career using your advice.
A couple of weeks ago, I was thinking about the girl from last year, and reviewing it in my head, having a laugh about my mistakes and telling myself, “come on man.” Two days later, she texted me. I told myself, Coach would say “what a coincidence,” and I decided to assume she wanted to see me. I made a date with her. I had to pass one or two shit tests, but it was no problem. I was prepared to walk and never look back, but she agreed to come to my place. (He’s following what I teach in my article and video, “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back.” If somebody blows you off, you don’t go to them. If they want to see you, they can come over and make dinner at your place. They need to earn you back.) I sealed the deal that night, and we have been having fun ever since.
A year ago, this would never have been possible, and it’s all thanks to you. You are making a huge difference. Your work is the truth. (Thanks for being a great example, and thanks for reading the book 15 times so it became instinctual, because it became easy and effortless.)
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“Many men who are unsuccessful with women and who are constantly getting friend-zoned, incorrectly assume that they need to hold back, delay and spend a lot of time interacting with women as friends to prove themselves before expressing any romantic interest. Women want to be in a love story. They want to be swept off their feet by a man who says and does all the right things with confidence and fearlessness. Men who dither, delay and hesitate, thinking they are being respectful by acting like a friend, are in for a rude awakening when they finally can’t take it anymore and vomit their feelings all over women. Attraction isn’t a choice, but if men act like a friend and hide their romantic interest, they will never be anything but platonic friends.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne