I Need To Get My Life Back In Order

What the causes are and what it means when a woman you are dating says that she needs time to get her life back in order, I am numb to everything, I need to get my head together, I need time for myself, etc.; and she says that she wants to take a break from seeing you. What you should do in order to have any chance of turning things around.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who had just started dating a woman he really liked. She had recently broken up with her boyfriend and things looked good until he jokingly told her on April Fools Day that he was breaking up with her, and could not see her anymore. She did not take it too well and he made a few other needy and desperate blunders afterwards, to the point that it appears the joke is actually on him.

A few days later she told him she needed time to get her life back in order and a bunch of other confusing BS, but that she would contact him in the future when she was ready. He has not heard from her in over a month. It looks like he may have driven her right back into the arms of her ex.

“Dating is supposed to be full of fun, mystery, excitement and romance. Not needy, possessive, controlling, jealous or insecure behavior that is a constant source of drama and complications. Acting inadequate or unworthy is the quickest way to cause the other person to feel like being with you infringes upon their free will and freedom. If you have weaknesses you are working on trying to overcome, you must learn to act in ways that respect the freedom, personal space, desire and feelings of those you love, and those who you want to be loved by. Love is about giving, not possessing or controlling another person so you feel good about yourself. If you don’t feel good about yourself or your life, get your shit together first, so you can ensure you’re not simply looking for another person to make you happy.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne