I Think The Girl I’m Seeing Is A Little Crazy

Some things to consider if you think the girl you’re seeing is a little crazy.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who started seeing a girl who is a friend of his sisters. He thinks she started out love-bombing him. Her brother even warned him what to expect. He’s also seen her giving out her number to other guys when they have been together.

He’s unsure of what to do and wonders if she’s a little nutty. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

This particular email is from a viewer, he started seeing a girl who’s a friend of his sister’s, and he thinks that initially, as soon as he started hanging out with her, she was love-bombing him right away. The she introduced him to her family, said some like kind of weird things in front of the family, and her brother even pulled them aside and kind of warned him a little bit that she’s a little kooky. On top of that, they’ve been hanging out and been on a few dates, and he’s noticed that she’ll go up and start talking to a guy and give out her number right in front of him, and he’s like, “What? What the hell’s going on here? Is she a little mental?”

So this is a good email of how to avoid going through Crazy Town. I had in the last couple of years had a guy who was dating a girl who was kind of crazy, and I think it was a trip through Crazy Town or something like that, or another trip through Crazy Town because he kept getting back together with her like two or three times. So he sent in probably, I must have done two or three video newsletters, I think it was like in the past two or three years. They were entertaining newsletters because I mean, the things that were going on, he had to write in. So this guy’s got an interesting situation.

So let’s go through his email.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach,

I met a girl (My sister’s friend) at my sister’s wedding, she came up to me and introduced herself wasn’t familiar with the term “love-bombing” at the moment but first thing she said was, “I find you really attractive.” She was touching all over me the entire night. I was making out with her and went back to her place. Started seeing her for a month. Some odd things, in my opinion, happened that I ignored. Like after the first date, she drove to her brother’s house to pick up mail and insisted I went inside with her to meet her brother and his wife. When I went in her brother’s wife was giving her the death stare the entire time.

So now we know why she wanted him to go with her, because it looks like the brother’s wife can’t stand her sister-in-law. So that’s kind of a red flag. The other thing you got to think of, especially if you want to get married, you want to have kids, you want to start a family. Her family is basically going to become your family, and they’re going to be co-parenting with you. So when you walk in and the brother’s wife just has the death stare, I just imagine what that looks like, that’s not a good sign, because then all of her problems and family drama, congratulations! It also becomes yours if you choose to get that deeply involved.

As a matter of fact, today’s Members Only newsletter is a video from a guy who’s been dating his girlfriend for two years, and he slipped one past the goalie. Everything was good. You know, the guy’s parents really loved the girl that he’s with. Now that he’s faced with being a dad, he’s gone, “Man, if I was single, would I even want to stay with her? Would I want to be single again?” So you got to think about those things. You’re going to get involved, especially when it looks like the girl might be a little nutty.

The second date she invites me to go to her family party, as we were eating her brother said, “That’s what she does. She wants her cake and she’s gonna want to eat yours too. You’ll learn that soon enough…”

So it’s all about her. Maybe she was spoiled. Maybe her dad turned her into a little tyrant. Obviously that’s not a good sign. In other words, she’s going to run everything. She just takes over, takes over his life, takes over decisions. The other thing is, maybe he must be new to my work because he’s going on a group date on a second date, going to a family party, but then again, you really get to see really quickly what things are really like.

…In front of her family. I kind of laughed it off, as her brother left he kept saying to her, “Please be careful. Promise me you’ll be careful,” which I found a little bit strange.

So obviously he knows his sister’s a little nutty. “Don’t screw it up. Don’t act nutty like you always do.” It’s basically what he’s saying.

She also asked me in front of her family while we were eating if I was good at massages and if I brought my pj’s. Another time we hooked up, she said to me, “You might be stronger, but I’ll always get what I want,” which really confused me.

So that’s basically her way of saying, “Hey, I’m the bull in the China shop. Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated. I run shit here.” Probably another way of revealing that she’s got a lot of boss girl energy, and once he gets hooked, she’s going to want to run things.

Another time I get up to use the bathroom and she starts freaking out yelling, “Where are you going?” Like five times.

“Just going to drop a turd, babe.”

Then she invites me to her friends wedding and within a hour of being there she says, “I think I know that guy,” gets up and starts talking to him and pulls out her phone and got his number.

Yeah, OK. Gonna pass.

I know this because later I saw his Snapchat name pop up. Later during dancing with her, she just walks away from me again and starts dancing with another guy and later in the evening leaves me again to go sit down with him at the bar alone and got his number too.

Yeah, that’s a fuck-buddy, friends with benefits, sex playmate. If you’re considering dating her for a relationship, it’s like, “Yeah, no thank you.” He may have been acting soft as well because again, he’s going on group dates and doing a lot of things with her that are against what the book says.

In this case, I mean, if you’re thinking about being in a relationship with a woman that’s giving out her number to or getting the number of two different guys when you’re supposedly on a date with her, it’s like, that’s a deal breaker. You don’t fix that. Trying to set healthy boundaries, like doing that is so blatant and in your face it’s like, “Check, please.” Booty call, always wear a raincoat. Don’t finish inside her. Don’t want to slip one past the goalie with somebody like this.

The whole entire thing was very confusing to me. I don’t know if she’s narcissistic or has a severe mental issue or something.

Bob

It could be all of the above. At the end of the day, it’s not your job to figure that out. What is your job is to vet her, and based upon her actions, well she’s not girlfriend or wife material definitely. She just seems a little nutty. So be careful, as the brother said. When you hear that every single one of her relationships ends in a really bad way, that’s not a good sign. It’s usually a sign that she’s a little nutty.

You can have some fun for a while, but after that I’d be like, “Hey, I think you’re a great girl, but I’m going to move on. I wish you all the best. I’m on a date with you. We’re at a wedding and you’re going up to and hitting on other guys. You asked me to come to this wedding as your date, yet you’re getting numbers from other guys. So I’m not interested in going any further after that. So you got two numbers from two other dudes. I wish you all the best with them. Hasta la vista.” I’d be tapping out after that. Dude, I wouldn’t stick around because it just looks like things will go downhill, especially if you stick around after that. Be like, “No, thank you.”

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