How to properly walk away and never look back after being dumped by your significant other, so they contact you later on down the road, and you can give them another chance.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email success story from a viewer who originally found my work after getting dumped by the woman of his dreams over a year ago. He thought everything was going great, but then he came home one night to a “Dear John” type of letter dumping him. He contacted her once and told her what he wanted as I discuss in my video, “The Best Strategy To Get An Ex Back.” He then went back to dating other women and walked away.
A few months later, she contacted him out of the blue. They have been together ever since. She is head over heals in love with him. They are going to be moving in together soon so they can start their new life together. He shares what he did and said to get her back, and how he permanently changed his beta male mindset into an alpha male mindset that continues to pay dividends. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
I Walked Away & Got Her Back!
Hey Corey,
First and foremost, I’d like to say thank you. You’ve changed my life. Before I bought your book and watched hundreds of YouTube videos, I was one of those guys that had no problem getting dates and closing the deal, but it never lasted for over a month, because I’d be on to the next one. I’d either blow them off, or they’d blow me off. I met a girl last year that blew my socks off. She was beautiful, and we had a pretty deep connection from the start. Then, one day I came home to a note basically saying I’m breaking up with you. (That’s a classless way to go about it.) I was devastated. I tried calling and texting, but no response. (I think that’s what people call “ghosting” now. Somebody breaks up with you, and you never get them on the phone again. They never tell you why.) This is when I came across your work and immediately ordered your book off Amazon.
I employed your strategy to get an ex back by leaving one last message saying, “I’m done. Give me a call if you change your mind,” and I walked away. Not only did I walk away, I went back to what I knew and started dating and sleeping with other women. I’m not sure if she crept into my Facebook and saw me with all these other good-looking women or not, (I’d say there was a really good chance she did, based on statistics of published studies. If you post positive, uplifting things in your life on your Facebook page, it will show you didn’t miss a beat), but out of the blue, I received a text from her wanting to get together. We successfully hung out, had fun and hooked up. By this time, I’d read your book, I can’t even remember how may times, and dissected your YouTube videos. (The idea is, the book is the coaching manual, and the videos are meant to help you fine tune and tweak your approach by using real world examples from men and women all over the world who are having the same issues you’re having. The videos demonstrate how to take the fundamentals and principles in the book and apply them to your specific situations.) I realized I had some weak, needy behavior and was a bit of a nice guy. (You were communicating you were weak and needy, which communicates you aren’t worthy and don’t deserve her.) I changed those things, let her contact me ALL of the time, and then I’d set the next date. (Like I discuss in my article and video, “7 Principles To Get An Ex Back,” when you have gotten pushed away, that person needs to be the one who earns another chance with you. That’s why they must do all of the calling, texting and pursuing.) She fell head over heals in love with me as this alpha male I had become. I took control of every situation, and she finally submitted to me. That was a big surprise, (It’s totally predictable when you follow what I teach), because she was, and still is, a very strong, confident woman. Anyway, our relationship is going on two years, we just found a place and are going to start a life together.
It’s all thanks to you bro, and a hell of a lot of effort on my part, to change my beta ways. Another success story for Coach Wayne! Bob… 3% man. Those numbers are going to start changing. Your next book’s going to be called, “The 5% man.” Lol! (It’s just a matter of helping one person at a time. Not only am I able to help that one person, but that person has the ability to change the lives of everybody they interact with after that. Someday, I’d like to see what I teach become common knowledge.)
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Debbie T.says
I am a woman and ended a relationship with my boyfriend. I still love him very much. He has not initiated any texts to me for months but will sound very happy to talk to me if I reach out first, which I have done numerous times over 3 months.
The risk with the man walking away and never looking back is that if he shows no interest whatsoever, speaks casually and talks about how busy he is, the woman will feel he no longer cares at all. This happened in my case. Total indifference by my ex boyfriend has caused me to pull back 100% and start moving on with my life.
My point is my ex boyfriend must display SOME interest in me if I am going to reciprocate – even if I dumped him. Lack of effort = lack of interest. Essentially, this technique can totally backfire and in my case has not prompted me whatsoever to seek him out.
Debbie, Corey teaches that your boyfriend must still have some attraction for you, greater than 50%, if he is to respond to your reconciliation efforts. Maybe with you ending with him, you upset him to the extent that he no longer wants you or maybe he has developed other female options. If you dump someone then you always run this risk. You have to live with the consequences of your decision to dump him.
You are also not following what Corey says. If YOU dumped HIM, you reach out to him ONE TIME. You then walk away and never look back. If he likes you then he will reach out again. You are now over-persuing and chasing, making you look weak and not worthy of his respect. Leave the ball in his court and wait for him to hit it back, Corey talks about this over and over. Watch his videos and read his book.
Meanwhile you have to start to move on from him, develop other options and maybe at some time in the future he will reach out. That could be tomorrow or in six months. Or never.
My GF recently did this to me. Upset me greatly. Women/Men cannot just dump their lover and then at the click of their fingers expect their EX to come running back at a moments notice.
Hi Coach
I’ve been in a relationship with the same girl on and off twice for over 3 years now.
Last year around March 2016 my jealousy and needy behavior came to a head for the second time, just want to say in all my relationships prior I’ve never acted in this manner before, thinking back now i realize i acted this way cause she was younger than me by 8 years and stunning , i mean she took my breath away,and i didn’t feel worthy of her love, so anyway she dumped me as i pushed her to breaking point with my trust issues and un worthiness behavior.
At first i was like blowing up her Phone sending her text messages begging her to come back to me, i even went down the lets be friends road. Wow looking back on it all i was so pathetic, and her responses were i’m just going to work on my self and focus on me and for me to leave her alone.
I found your work searching for answers , brought your book and audio book and to this day still listen to your book and you tube videos to improve who i am as a person and applying your work.
i broke contact for 2 weeks , i work in the oil and gas industry and work away so i waited till i returned home and text her i would return her things in the morning,i also let her know i realize that things are the way they are and i except the situation and continued on telling her i want her in my life but i don’t need her to be happy and that i will be happy with or with out her, i finished by saying if you want to catch up and hang out i’d like that but made it clear i’m not interested in being friends.
I returned her things and left it at that, 2 days passed and i received a text saying thank you for returning her things and she added if you would like to go bike riding sometimes that would be nice, i replied i’m pretty busy at the moment but would she like to have dinner at my place the following Friday, she replied later in the day saying that she didn’t think it was a good idea, i didn’t reply to her rejection , later that night she sent me another text asking if i wanted to go riding in the morning , i came so close to saying yes but i thought what would James Bond do hmm i replied no and explained that i go bike riding with my friends and i’m not interested in being her gay male friend, she didn’t reply.
4 to 5 days went by and i had no contact from her then i received a text asking how i was going and how did my date go the other night as she must have looked at my facebook page hehe, i let the message sit for 3-4 hours and i answered by saying Hey great to hear from you and i’m doing great and asked if she wanted to grab a pizza and drinks this Friday night? she messaged me back within 20 mins with a yes but she wont be having sex with me, i laughed to my self and replied o.k but like i said i’m not going to be your gay boyfriend , she replied yes i know how you feel and understand and i will see you Friday.
The date went great i was playful and loving towards her and she respond in kind, she stuck to her word about the no sex thing but i didn’t push it either.
12 months later and still together and going strong in every way from the bed room to living together and planning to get married in early 2018.
I cannot thank you enough Coach you have inspired me in all aspects of my life from career to fitness , relationship to my beautiful lady to my close family and friends.
Debbie T. says
I am a woman and ended a relationship with my boyfriend. I still love him very much. He has not initiated any texts to me for months but will sound very happy to talk to me if I reach out first, which I have done numerous times over 3 months.
The risk with the man walking away and never looking back is that if he shows no interest whatsoever, speaks casually and talks about how busy he is, the woman will feel he no longer cares at all. This happened in my case. Total indifference by my ex boyfriend has caused me to pull back 100% and start moving on with my life.
My point is my ex boyfriend must display SOME interest in me if I am going to reciprocate – even if I dumped him. Lack of effort = lack of interest. Essentially, this technique can totally backfire and in my case has not prompted me whatsoever to seek him out.
Steve says
Debbie, Corey teaches that your boyfriend must still have some attraction for you, greater than 50%, if he is to respond to your reconciliation efforts. Maybe with you ending with him, you upset him to the extent that he no longer wants you or maybe he has developed other female options. If you dump someone then you always run this risk. You have to live with the consequences of your decision to dump him.
You are also not following what Corey says. If YOU dumped HIM, you reach out to him ONE TIME. You then walk away and never look back. If he likes you then he will reach out again. You are now over-persuing and chasing, making you look weak and not worthy of his respect. Leave the ball in his court and wait for him to hit it back, Corey talks about this over and over. Watch his videos and read his book.
Meanwhile you have to start to move on from him, develop other options and maybe at some time in the future he will reach out. That could be tomorrow or in six months. Or never.
My GF recently did this to me. Upset me greatly. Women/Men cannot just dump their lover and then at the click of their fingers expect their EX to come running back at a moments notice.
Hope it works out for you Debbie!
jeffery pacey says
Hi Coach
I’ve been in a relationship with the same girl on and off twice for over 3 years now.
Last year around March 2016 my jealousy and needy behavior came to a head for the second time, just want to say in all my relationships prior I’ve never acted in this manner before, thinking back now i realize i acted this way cause she was younger than me by 8 years and stunning , i mean she took my breath away,and i didn’t feel worthy of her love, so anyway she dumped me as i pushed her to breaking point with my trust issues and un worthiness behavior.
At first i was like blowing up her Phone sending her text messages begging her to come back to me, i even went down the lets be friends road. Wow looking back on it all i was so pathetic, and her responses were i’m just going to work on my self and focus on me and for me to leave her alone.
I found your work searching for answers , brought your book and audio book and to this day still listen to your book and you tube videos to improve who i am as a person and applying your work.
i broke contact for 2 weeks , i work in the oil and gas industry and work away so i waited till i returned home and text her i would return her things in the morning,i also let her know i realize that things are the way they are and i except the situation and continued on telling her i want her in my life but i don’t need her to be happy and that i will be happy with or with out her, i finished by saying if you want to catch up and hang out i’d like that but made it clear i’m not interested in being friends.
I returned her things and left it at that, 2 days passed and i received a text saying thank you for returning her things and she added if you would like to go bike riding sometimes that would be nice, i replied i’m pretty busy at the moment but would she like to have dinner at my place the following Friday, she replied later in the day saying that she didn’t think it was a good idea, i didn’t reply to her rejection , later that night she sent me another text asking if i wanted to go riding in the morning , i came so close to saying yes but i thought what would James Bond do hmm i replied no and explained that i go bike riding with my friends and i’m not interested in being her gay male friend, she didn’t reply.
4 to 5 days went by and i had no contact from her then i received a text asking how i was going and how did my date go the other night as she must have looked at my facebook page hehe, i let the message sit for 3-4 hours and i answered by saying Hey great to hear from you and i’m doing great and asked if she wanted to grab a pizza and drinks this Friday night? she messaged me back within 20 mins with a yes but she wont be having sex with me, i laughed to my self and replied o.k but like i said i’m not going to be your gay boyfriend , she replied yes i know how you feel and understand and i will see you Friday.
The date went great i was playful and loving towards her and she respond in kind, she stuck to her word about the no sex thing but i didn’t push it either.
12 months later and still together and going strong in every way from the bed room to living together and planning to get married in early 2018.
I cannot thank you enough Coach you have inspired me in all aspects of my life from career to fitness , relationship to my beautiful lady to my close family and friends.
Regards
Jeff