If You Dither & Hesitate Her Attraction For You Will Expire

Why a woman’s attraction has a time limit & you must be direct & decisive.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who met a girl though his friend group. He got her number the first night. Instead of making a date, he turned into a robot because he didn’t have any free evenings for several weeks. After hanging out together for 4 nights with her and his friends, her attraction vanished and she lost interest. He asks what happened. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Newsletter is going to be, “If You Dither & Hesitate Her Attraction For You Will Expire”.

Well, this particular email is from a viewer. He met a girl through his friend group. I guess apparently all of these friends are also followers of my work. And apparently they are like, this girl really likes you dude. And so what ended up happening was that he gets the number. So he meets this girl. They’re all hanging out and for like four nights in a row, basically.

Him, his friends, this particular girl. The first night he’s direct, he’s decisive, he gets the phone number, but he’s like, well, I don’t have any time for the next several weeks to go on a date. So instead of making an instant date or hanging out with her and then going and doing something with her alone.

In other words, instead of staying with his friends for the next four nights consistently. He gets her number on the first night and then doesn’t do anything. And you’ll notice several days later she’s like, “You got my number and you never called me.” He’s like, “What’s up with that?”

So he realized by like the last night he suggested she kiss him and she’s like, no. So he realized that her interest dropped and the more time you spend around her, in other words, her interest dropped, and he talked her out of liking him because he basically became a robot, thinking he has to go on an official date with her in the evening in the future. Instead of taking advantage of the fact that she’s there, he’s there.

They’re hanging out. When everybody breaks up, he’s like, “Hey, you want to come back to my place, have a glass of wine or something?” He doesn’t do anything. So he hesitates. It looks like he blew his opportunity, because the more you interact with a woman and she knows you like her and you don’t do anything, the higher the likelihood that she’s going to dip on you.

So let’s go through his email.

Viewer Email:

Hi Coach Corey,

First off, thank you for all your work, it’s helped me more than I could have imagined before discovering it. Here’s my situation. Over the holidays, I met a girl (friend of a friend) who was basically my kryptonite. We spent 3 to 4 days hanging out in a group. The first night, I bantered with her for about 30 minutes, got her number easily, and she seemed excited. I planned to ask her out, but I didn’t have a free evening for a couple of weeks.

Dude, figure it out. I mean, you’ve got time to hang out with your friends, but you’ve got no free evenings? Maybe instead of just hanging out with your friends, you and her could go to dinner and then maybe meet up with that particular group. Or just not hang out with that group of friends for one particular evening so you can go out with her. Because again, you’ve probably heard me say, if you hesitate, you will masturbate.

By days 3 to 4, she was sitting close, laughing at everything, and my friends, who also follow your work, agreed her interest was high. But I never kissed her, I just teased and bantered.

Well, the whole purpose of seduction is to get closer and closer to a woman until you ultimately end up inside of her. And so you’re already together. You’re already hanging out. You’re having fun together. The next step is to isolate her, meaning you and her go and do something alone.

Like, if you’re all leaving, “Hey, why don’t we go grab a drink here or this or that or whatever? Go have a glass of wine.” Or, “Hey, why don’t you come on over and we’ll open a bottle of wine and have a nightcap?” You’ve got to figure it out. Can’t be a robot. “Coach. I must wait till I have a free date in the evening. Two, three weeks from now. And then I will call her and ask her out properly.”

A few days later, we were all at a friend’s place. When I got there, I could feel her attraction was dropping.

Well, remember, he’s saying he’s got no time for 2 to 3 weeks, And yet he’s always hanging out.

I also noticed she was testing me more. She even asked why I got her number if I wasn’t going to call.

Ah, come on man.

Later, when most people had left, we were sitting close. I went to say goodbye, hugged her, and said, “Kiss me for good measure.” She replied, “Not tonight.”

Again, it’s like if you’re hanging out and she’s liking you, “Hey, why don’t we get together and go do this?” It sounds like he was just kind of being a robot and trying to play it cool and act like he wasn’t really interested after he’d already gotten the number. And she saw this. Probably saw through his act and was like, “Yeah. I’m not feeling it.”

Since then, I’ve seen her a couple times in group settings. I’ve acted like nothing happened (no butthurt vibe), pulled back my attraction, and started treating her the same as everyone else in the group. Also she has my number. How should I proceed from here? Do I just wait for her to reach out and, if she does set a definite date?

Well, who has the penis? You or her? Who’s supposed to lead? You or her? So it’s like you get her number, but then you never call and she even called you out on it. And so now you’re expecting her to call you and ask you out and basically be the man. It is our job to start the courtship. You got her number, but you just dithered and hesitated.

I mean, again, you’re write in saying you claim you have no free evenings for the next 2 to 3 weeks, but yet you’re constantly hanging out with her in the evening, so that doesn’t make any sense at all. Maybe it’s just kind of a cope that you’re telling yourself, because it looks like you may have blown it.

Or is there something else I should do?

Any advice is much appreciated.

Thanks,

Another Bob

Well, it’s your job to be the appointment setter as the book says. Make a date, call her up, text her, invite her to go out and have dinner together, or to go meet up for drinks or something. But it just looks like it was a missed opportunity. Here we are, end of January. And this happened during, I guess I assume over the Christmas holidays when everybody was back home. So if nothing’s happened in a month or so, because again, he just sent this email in about maybe a week ago.

So it looks like he hasn’t done anything. So probably the moment has passed. And again you asked a girl out, you get her number and then you never do anything. And then the next time you see her, you act like you don’t even know her and she’s a stranger. So I don’t know what you were hoping to accomplish by that.

If it was me and you had that much chemistry and connection, you should have invited her to go do something or to come and have a drink with you somewhere else, away from your friends so you and her can hang out together. That’s what should have happened the first night. But instead you got the number, and then you acted like a statue and she’s going, “This guy got my number. And then he’s not doing nothing. He’s kind of ignoring me.”

So it’s a bad way to go, my man. I would imagine your friends would tell you the same thing. If you hesitate, dude, you’re going to gonna masturbate. So at this point, if you haven’t spoken to her and you haven’t seen her, I’d call her up and if she says, “Well, why did you wait so long to ask me out?”

I’d just say, “I just didn’t have any free evenings. I’ve been so jammed up at work or this or that, and now things are finally caught up, and I’d really like to get together and have dinner and spend some more time with you.” But the chances of this working out at this point, I would say, are slim to none.

You’ve probably got a 49% chance that she’s still interested. So as he said, it was his Kryptonite. So he couldn’t know what to do. He just fell apart. It was like, you know, as Doc Love used to say, “A beautiful woman is like Kryptonite to the average guy.” She has the power to make him fall apart. And that’s basically what he did.

He just totally came apart after he got the number. And he like didn’t know what to do. It’s disappointing. But again, if you hesitate, you’ll masturbate. But like I said, I would give her a call or text her. Try to make a date, see if she’s down to meet up for dinner or something and go pick her up. You should have enough rapport to where you can go pick her up, so it shouldn’t be an issue.

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