In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who makes around $100,000 per year working for a major US corporation. He’s also just started a small business. He says that he works seven days a week and seventy-six hours per week at his job after getting a recent promotion. He goes to the gym three to four days per week. Because of his demanding work schedule, he does not have much free time to enjoy his life or to meet and date the kind of women he really wants.
He’s been on three dates over the past month. One of the women did not like him, and he says that the other two demanded money for sex. He says that he feels totally unhappy and unfulfilled in his life. He asks my opinion on what he can do to attract higher quality women since he feels that things are just not happening in his personal life. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email.
My name is Bob. I am 31 years old, and I live in Kentucky. I seem to be doing well in life. I just got a promotion at my job working for General Electric, and I make around $100,000 a year. I just paid cash for a nice red convertible car. (Money gives you choices. It doesn’t necessarily make you happy.) I recently started a small business as well, yet I am totally unhappy, and unfulfilled. I seem to be having issues with two things. First, I am having a very busy work schedule at my job lately, working 76 hours, 7 days a week. (That’s not a healthy way to go about your career. Studies show, productivity drops when employees approach 70-80 hours a week. You need to have at least one day a week to yourself. The whole purpose of life is to enjoy it.) I’m trying to find a better work to life balance, but after working 7 days a week and going to the gym 3-4 days a week, it does not leave much free time to go out and have fun and enjoy life. (You should schedule it. Work five days a week with longer hours if you can. If you’re unhappy about your personal life, it will sap your enthusiasm for what you’re doing. The reason you are earning that money is so you can do the things you want to do. However, you have become a slave to your job. You’re living to work and not working to live.) Then second, I have totally struck out in the dating world. Just in the past month, I went out on three dates. One girl said that she just wanted to be friends. Then the other two girls I have dated both demanded money for sex, which I refused. (Where are you meeting these kinds of women? Maybe you could meet somebody at the gym who’s healthy and just as focused as being in shape as you. You want to find someone with the same goals and values as you.)
I would really like to attract higher quality women into my life. I’m looking for longer-term relationship material. I know in your videos you say that like attracts like and to be focused on your mission in life to become a better version of yourself, then the women will fall into place. (That’s true, but if you’re trying to date escorts or strippers, you’re fishing in the sewer. Fish in a better pond. Where are the kind of women you’d like to meet? That’s where you should be spending your free time.) However, lately it is just not happening for me. I have been so frustrated lately. (It’s great that you went out on three dates in the past month. Maybe you should change your approach though. You could try setting up an online dating profile. See my article, “Attracting Beautiful Women Easily… How To Create The Ultimate Online Dating Profile.”) Please let me know if you have any advice. I watch your coaching videos daily. (The approach you’re taking is not efficient. You’re not being as productive as you could be. Work smarter not harder. Create a great life and lifestyle for yourself, and meeting members of the opposite sex will become a side effect of you being awesome.)
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“The purpose of life is to enjoy it. We were not put on this earth to simply trade our time for money, slaving away at our careers or businesses. A healthy work and life balance is the result of working to live, not living to work. Your career or business should provide you the financial resources to design and live your life in your own way. You should always be focused on increasing your skills, and therefore, the value that you can add through your life’s work. The more value you add, the higher your compensation will be. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Make yourself necessary to somebody.” Money gives you choices, but most people are simply trying to survive the work week and make it to the weekend, instead of being focused on becoming great and valuable at something they love for a living. By having a compelling vision and purpose for your life and creating a solid plan you can execute to achieve it, in time you will be able to design and live the life and lifestyle of your dreams.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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