Is A Happy Relationship With A Far Leftist Impossible?

How to know if it’s possible to have a relationship with a far leftist when you’re conservative.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who lives in a rural area and was initially excited when he met his now ex-girlfriend. However, she started policing his speech, getting upset at who he followed on social media and bossing him around. He quit working out and started drinking like she did. They haven’t spoken in two weeks after her latest round of insults.

My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Well, this particular email is from a viewer who lives in a rural area and he was initially really excited when he met his, I guess apparently now ex-girlfriend. He noticed shortly thereafter, she started policing his speech, telling him what he could and couldn’t say what he could and couldn’t believe, insulting him, getting upset at who he followed on social media and just basically bossing him around. So she just wore him down so much. He said he quit working out and he started drinking like she did because I guess she drank all the time. So on their last time they were together, she was just constantly insulting him, telling him he was a racist, because he supported Trump. Just all these nasty things, and he, like, didn’t say a word. Just dropped her off. He’s like, “We haven’t spoken in two weeks,” and you could tell he’s pretty much over it.

Personally I’ve seen this in my own family. I’ve seen it with some of my friends that were on the left. Especially over the last 10 years, they just they continue to go further and further left to the point where they just became insufferable to be around. My parents had the same experience. Some of their friends that were on the left that they used to hang out with, go on trips, vacations together, dinners, really cool people, over the last eight or nine years, it’s like anything on Facebook, they’re an absolute expert. It could be foreign policy, it could be guns, things they know absolutely nothing about. They’re all of a sudden experts on it, on everything in their opinion, of course is right, and if you question it, then obviously you’re just stupid or racist or whatever.

It’s like, all in my family, we’ve seen a lot of people that were friends, even some family members, where we just don’t talk anymore just because they’re insufferable, and every time you get around them, as soon as the topic comes up, they just flip out, start insulting everybody, and it’s just pretty crazy. What’s interesting, I was reading an article a couple of weeks ago and was saying that about 80% of the population just believes whatever the government says. What trusts the authority blindly won’t believe any evidence to the contrary.

It’s like 80% of them, and it makes sense, having been a coach all these decades I’ve been doing this, is that most people, they don’t want personal responsibility for their own lives and anyone or anything that basically alleviates your personal responsibility for your own life, especially when they say, “We’re going to take care of you. We’re going to give you this. We’re going to give you that. We’re going to give you money. We’re going to do this. We’re going to cut your taxes. We’re going to give you credits,” or whatever, they’ll give everything up just to have the government be their mommy.

I mean, it’s like when you look at the American Revolution, only about 3% of the American colonists supported, fought in, and finance the Revolutionary War. When you read the Founding Fathers and all the people that sided with the colonists and the revolutionaries, a lot of them lost everything. They lost their farms. They lost their livestock. They lost their relationships. They lost their families. Family members got killed. The overwhelming majority of the colonists really had nothing to do with the Revolutionary War was only about 3% of them that created this democratic constitutional republic that we have, that we’re trying to hold on to, and the people that want the government to be their mommy are doing everything they can to put all power in a central government, which obviously when you study history, it never ends well. When that happens, the government at some point eventually just starts killing people, and when you look at especially what was on Twitter, people on the left just openly calling for anybody that didn’t get the jab. They felt that they were killing people. Therefore, they deserved to be put in an internment camp and executed because they refused to get the shot. I mean, it was pretty sobering to see that and how people really thought and believed that if you didn’t comply, you were an enemy of the people and you should be killed. It was surprising, very shocking, and it was illuminating.

If you saw any of the videos with Yuri Bezmenov, the former defector, he was the guy that ran the ideological subversion campaign for the Soviets, and he defected, I think it was in the late 1970s. There’s lots of videos on the internet where you can see him lay it all out and how they ideologically subverted or were working since the 40s and 50s even before that, to subvert the United States and any kind of democracy. The one thing he said is that once somebody has been demoralized, in other words, when they’ve accepted that communism, Marxism, socialism, collectivism, when they’ve accepted that ideology, then they basically give up any personal responsibility for their own lives. The reason why they’re not successful or they don’t have money is always somebody else’s fault, and they’ll fight it to the death. He says it, they cannot recognize true facts or information anymore. They’re not able to look at it and entertain facts and data. If it goes against their ideology, they ridicule it. They dismiss it.

I’ve had these conversations with people on the left on Twitter over the years. You send them a video and they just dismiss it, “Oh, that’s a joke. That’s ridiculous.” The most recent thing was with the ICE shooting with the woman that ran into the ICE officer. There were three camera angles and the one camera angle that was from behind the driver’s side, where the agent is kind of hidden until she bumps into him. It almost looks like he just kind of steps out of the way around the car from that angle, and that’s what the media showed. So anybody that saw the mainstream media was like, “Oh, he just shot her for no reason,” but when you see the other two camera angles, you can clearly see her running into him and knocking him. Luckily she bumped him and he got around the side, but if he’d have fallen back, she would have run his ass right over, probably killed him because that same agent got drug like 300 yards about six months before, got 30 something stitches, fucked him up. On top of that, he had internal bleeding in his hip from the impact of the car. Then you’ve got, what’s his name? Jacob Frey, the Minnesota white guy who is the mayor of Little Somalia in Minnesota, he’s like, “Oh, he could have got that injury closing his refrigerator door.” You know, these people would be telling me, “Oh look, here’s this one video,” just showing what the mainstream media showed. I would send them the other angles and they would just laugh at it and dismiss it, or just not even respond after that. They just didn’t want to hear it. They wouldn’t accept it. Even though you could see it, you could see the guy get hit, even zoomed in and close up shots of it, they still just refused to believe it. Like that’s exactly what he was talking about.

So when somebody has been demoralized by the propaganda, it’s like facts and information reality, they just can’t accept it. They won’t acknowledge it. Yuri said the only way they finally realize that they were wrong or they wake up is when they’re in the gulag and they’re nuts are getting crushed under the boot of one of the people in there, abusing them, interrogating them, torturing them, or whatever, but until that point, it’s like you’re just not going to get through. I’ve noticed this over the years. You send them stuff. It’s like, how can you look at the video and see something completely different? It’s like one of the things that Scott Adams said, it’s like everybody’s watching the same movie, but they see two completely different things. It’s pretty nutty, pretty crazy.

So this is just some of the things that this guy has experienced with this girl that he dated for about two years. It’s like you date somebody like this who’s diametrically opposed to pretty much everything you believe in or stand for, you discuss and she’s insulted him. I’m surprised that he’s stuck with her all this time because she was really nasty, really insulting him, and condescending, like she’s an expert on everything and he’s a moron, a racist, terrible person, white supremacist, the whole nine yards. So it’s like, I think everybody watching this is had people like this. I’ve got people in my own family that are doctors, and they’re on the left, and they believe everything they’ve given their kids, every single injection. One of my nephew’s got autism and my niece, this is on my aunt’s side, they’re in their 20s, and one of them is dying of, was it prostate or colon cancer? I guess colon cancer, and the other one’s dying of either throat or lung cancer. Never been a smoker or anything like that. It’s like 22 and 27 years old, and their parents gave them every single injection jab, booster shot. There’s no way they would ever acknowledge reality that what they did to their kids basically shorten their lives.

My uncle went and got it, because he wanted to travel, because he was retired. He went and got the jab and he got myocarditis. Now he’s got a pacemaker and it’s probably shortened his life. That shit kind of pisses me off, and people go, “Oh, Corey, that’s just anecdotal. There’s no such thing as turbo cancers.” Yet you see on Twitter every day there’s some article where scientists are baffled why so many people are dropping dead suddenly, or they got all these cancers that are really aggressive. They’re just totally baffled by it. Yet it’s the one thing they all have in common, is the clot shots. The other thing we know is that the quality control was really shitty in some cases. The shots were very weak and were mostly like placebo and other batches. People got overdosed and they had high incidences of people that got those batches dying in droves.

Again, the evidence is out there. It’s like all the governments of the world, especially in Asia, Japan, they’ve looked into it. The stats are troubling, but people on the left will just completely ignore it. I got members of my own family who are just never going to admit that what they did is cause their kids to die, but that’s the world we live in. Pretty fucking crazy. It seems insane when you think about it. Just the fact that I’m talking about this after all these years, it’s like something out of a bad movie.

Viewer Email:

Hey Coach,

I’ve followed you a few years, and you have posted videos responding to me before.  You helped me out a lot in securing my last relationship. She was the prettiest woman I’ve dated, and since there are hardly any women in my area, I was excited to be with her.

So he’s got a little bit of a scarcity mindset, probably because he lives in the middle of nowhere.

Things were great at first, but about two or three months in, she saw that I followed Andrew Tate on Twitter. I had watched some of his videos for inspiration during a tough breakup, mainly just to get inspired to hit the gym and toughen up. Of course I had issues with some things that he has done, as you have touched on before…

Yeah, he’s a fucking garbage human. I wouldn’t want anything to do with that guy. He’s a pathological liar, but with his political takes, most the time, I was like, “Yeah, I totally agree with that,” but the way he lives his life, the way he talks about women, the way he acts around him, especially when you look at the conversations and all the stuff that came out, all the evidence that’s been out there, like that guy’s full of shit. I wouldn’t want that guy anywhere near my daughters, that’s for sure.

…But I still found him funny and mostly correct when it comes to women. 

She went full woke on me, demanding that I not follow him. 

That’s the other thing. I noticed people on the left, it’s like they only follow people on the left. They will not follow anybody on the right. I follow people on all sides just to hear what they’re saying.

I told her, “Nobody is going to order me on who I’m allowed to follow on Twitter.” I told her, “I can follow anyone I want.” 

Remember, easygoing, easy to get along with, she’s nice to you. She makes your dick hard, not your life hard. This woman is clearly making his life hard. To the point where you’ll see he questions himself, he starts to let himself go. A woman like this will just ruin your life.

After that, she fully revealed just how woke she was. It was constant. She moved in with me pretty quickly, and everyday while I was working, she would ALWAYS text me whatever current event was going on, about how all conservatives are evil, and how moral leftists are. 

Yeah, I call that the, “I’m a good person” delusion. I’ve seen it with some of my own friends on the left. They all of a sudden became experts in guns and started lecturing me on pistol and rifle. I’m like, “Are you fucking kidding me? Really? You’re gonna lecture me with all the training that I’ve had? Get the fuck out of here,” but didn’t matter. Didn’t want to hear anything I had to say anymore. They were expert all of a sudden on guns, just through osmosis.

She sounded extremely childish every time. She would tell me things like ,”So you support child abuse if you support Trump. I can’t be with someone who supports all that evil!”

Yeah, what about all the women that have been sexually assaulted and brutalized and all the members of all our fellow citizens have gotten murdered and abused at the hands of these people? “Oh, it’s just a one-off, Corey. It doesn’t happen very often.” Like it’s just not a big deal. It’s totally acceptable. “Oh, it’s just women and children coming across the border.” Even though it’s mostly military age males with no women, no children. I can’t be with someone who supports all that evil.

It was literally every single woke talking point. 

Yeah, I would hear the same thing. “Oh Corey, nobody needs a 30-round magazine. Nobody’s trying to take your guns.”

She would police my language and always accused me of being some extreme racist person. This was constant, every single day, endless texts.

Oh, man. Like I said, it reminds me of my parents. One of their friends who, “We saw you hang out with. He was a cool guy.” His family’s all conservative. He’s like the only lefty. His family did a lot of business with the Trump family for the last 30 years, and he absolutely fucking hates Trump. It like broke his brain when Trump became president. This guy, the diatribes that he would go on on Facebook or when we get together, it’s just like, “Oh bro, come on, dude.” He was insufferable. So we don’t talk to him anymore.

I would try to defuse and redirect, but it just never worked. I always thought if I was just a little bit more masculine, she would fall into line and lighten up. Nope. All she did was constantly threaten breakups and harass me for my conservative views. It really dragged me down. Two years of that. I quit working out and developed a bad alcohol habit like she has.  

Well, you become who you hang out with the most. You attract how you act. You are who you associate with. I talk about that a lot. Especially if you’re fit and in shape and you start dating a woman who looks good, but she doesn’t exercise, has no interest in it, and tries to get you not to go to the gym just to hang out with her, eventually you’ll stop going to the gym and you’ll become just like her. That’s why it’s important that you share the same goals and share the same values, and this guy clearly doesn’t have the same values. Even though he tried, he’s living in a rural area, there’s not a lot. He doesn’t meet a lot of girls, and he was like, “Oh, finally!”

I recently dropped her off at her house without saying a word, because she was drunk and rude towards me at a concert. She called me names and deleted me from location sharing. Haven’t spoken in two weeks. I guess I dodged a bullet, but it still makes me sad. I miss her family. I’m extremely isolated now where I live, but I don’t know any way to solve the issue. It seems she can’t be reasoned with. 

That’s what we’ve all noticed. Again, Yuri Bezmenov, if you watch the videos, the ones that he did with Edward Griffin back in the 1980s, he goes through all that in extensive detail and explains why this is and why it happens.

Is this just inevitable with these far leftist woke feminist women?

Thanks,

Bob

It’s like, that’s what I’ve seen. I’ve done a bunch of videos over the last several years that this has really become an issue. There was the one girl, my feminist green-haired girlfriend, I think, and she was the one that wrote in. Her boyfriend was a cop and I guess they met because she had some kind of legal issue going on, she was a victim of a crime or something like that, and he was the detective. After the case was done and finalized, he asked her out. They started dating and she stopped coloring her hair green, she grew her hair out, she got real feminine, and she submitted to him. So it doesn’t mean 100% of them can’t see the other side, but when you have somebody that’s like this, that no matter how much information, data, facts, stories or evidence you give them, they’re just going to dismiss it or ridicule it. They won’t accept it. They’ll tell you that you’re stupid or that you’re an idiot. That you’re blind, that you’ve been brainwashed, you’re part of a cult, and the whole nine yards.

So it’s like when somebody is too far gone, the fact you stay with this girl for two years putting up with this stuff it’s like, dude, you should get a medal for that. I certainly wouldn’t have put up with it because I’ve seen it in my own family and I’ve seen it with friends of mine on the left. It’s like they just got to the point where they sounded crazy and nutty. It’s like every one of them, like during the lock-downs, they didn’t leave their house for two years. They didn’t interact with anybody. They wouldn’t even let anybody come over unless they were jabbed, and even then, they didn’t want people coming over because they were afraid despite the fact they were jabbed, that they might still get it from somebody else, even though they’re vaccinated. That’s the whole purpose of a vaccine. It’s supposed to prevent transmission, but obviously we now know that wasn’t really the case. I mean, you can see the compilation videos when they started out 100% efficacy and even Fauci, it went from 100%. It was 90%, it was 80%, 85%, and it was like 50%. Then they just stopped talking about the efficacy, and it’s like, well everybody needs to get jabbed just as a precaution. So here we are.

Thanks for sharing, dude, but like I said, you’re not going to fix this girl. After two years, she ain’t going to change. She’s married to her ideology. Facts, data, information doesn’t matter. She’s just going to behave this way until you either submit to her, which will just make things a thousand times worse, or in this case, you just never speak to her again. If it was me, I’d never speak to this bitch again, because you’re not going to fix her. She’s not willing to change. She’s not willing to see things your way in any way. Again, that’s what I’ve seen when somebody believes they’re an expert on every single thing. Even, I don’t know the first thing, like friends of mine that all of a sudden became experts on guns, even though they don’t even know how to handle one, pick one up, or have picked one up, then they start lecturing me. It’s like, really? Get the fuck out of here. So I don’t talk to those people anymore just because I want my life to be a drama free zone. I’m not going to hang out with somebody that’s brainwashed and thinks they’re an expert on everything, even if they never went to college. It’s like, give me a break.

So it is what it is, my man, but you get a medal. I’m sure you guys can post in the comments. I’m sure there will be people on the left that’ll be all upset about this video and storm off saying they’re unfollowing me or whatever. Good riddance. You guys that have had similar experiences, maybe you can post it in the comments because there are other guys that are going through this now that are trying to make it work with somebody that’s acting nutty and is far left. Just seeing stories like this and seeing stories from other guys, it’s like, I haven’t been able to get through, and I’m pretty skilled with understanding people, but when somebody doesn’t accept facts, information or reality despite the evidence, they live in an alternate reality that doesn’t exist. So instead of trying to frustrate yourself, it’s better to let them go on down the road and drive somebody else crazy because life’s too short. Make sure you buy plenty of guns and ammunition and learn to train with it.

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