Is It Cat Like Behavior, Low Interest Or She’s For The Streets?

How to know if she’s showing cat like behavior, low interest or she’s for the streets.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss 3 different emails from 3 different viewers. The 1^st email is from a guy who’s frustrated with women disappearing for weeks and then coming back. The 2^nd email is from a viewer who’s confused after a hinge date went sideways he thought went well. The 3^rd email is from a viewer whose girlfriend of 6 years disappeared after going to a concert with a male “friend” in another state. My comments are in bold italics like this below in the body of his email.

Hi, I’m Coach Corey Wayne, and this is my Video Coaching Newsletter. And the topic of today’s Members Only Newsletter is, “Is It Cat Like Behavior, Low Interest Or She’s For The Streets?”.

Well, I’ve got three different emails that I’m going to go through with you. The first email is from a guy he’s frustrated about women disappearing for weeks, then coming back. Obviously they got low interest or another dude in the background. The second email is from a viewer who’s he went on a hinge date that he thought was pretty good, and when he tried to set a second date, she just basically said, have a nice life. And the third email is from a guy whose girlfriend of six years disappeared after going to a concert with a male friend in another state.

He went along with it. I’ve seen some guys, like when I talk about how women are like cats, especially the Red Pill guys get really upset at that. You’re not our first choice. And so they think that that means that if you’re in a relationship like this, that I’m saying, oh, yeah, no problem. Just be indifferent to your girlfriend going to another state and hanging out with a male friend staying at his place.

Of course, she’s staying in another bedroom and then they’re going to go to a concert together. If your girl really loved you and you were her man, she’s taking you with her. She’s not going to do something like that. A girl that does that and you’re like, oh yeah, no problem. And you’re indifferent to it. Well, are you going to get cheated on? Which is pretty much what it looks like happened.

So let’s go through the first guy’s email.

First Viewer’s Email:

Hi Corey,

I’d like your perspective on something I’m trying to figure out in the dating world. I’m in my 40s, have been studying your work for a several months, and have read your book four times. Taking the ideas into the dating “wild,” then circling back to the fundamentals, has been incredibly helpful.

Well, if you think about it, just like in the NFL, if you’re on the offense, you got to spend time with the playbook. You spend time learning the playbook. Then you go out in the field, you rehearse it, they film it, you come back in, you review film, you correct your mistakes, you continue to review the playbook. Then you go back out in the field, you practice again, you film it some more, and you keep fine tuning it until game day comes along and you absolutely crush your opponent. Repetition is the mother of skill. As the great Aristotle said, “Excellence is not a singular act. It’s a habit. You are what you do repeatedly.”

My experiences often line up with what you teach. My question is about where “women are like cats” ends and avoidant or disrespectful behavior begins. Here’s an example. I had two good, long-form dates with a woman. No Indoor Olympics, but good chemistry. For context, we’re both middle-aged divorcees, part-time single parents. We were texting toward a third date without me over-pursuing, and then she went silent.

So in the book, dating is like tennis. You hit the ball over the net and you’ve got to wait for the girl to hit it back. So she’s attractive and fit, remember, 74% of Americans are overweight or obese. She’s going to have more than one choice. And more than likely, she’s probably got other exes or male orbiters in the background that she’s talking to. And so if you’re doing online dating, where women have all the leverage and all the power because you’re socially awkward, or maybe you just don’t have time to get out there and meet people. You’re not very social person.

You’ve got to understand, you’ve got to do a lot more work to get a date than a woman does. So the odds are not in your favor. So you should expect flaky behavior because there’s ten other dudes behind you that you know when you’re trying to date somebody that’s online. And so you go out on two dates. You don’t make a move. You act like a statue. You don’t try to seduce her. And then you try to go out on a third date. More than likely, if she just stops replying, she probably is hanging out with some guy that’s a little more brave, a little bit more courageous, and advances things a little faster than you.

Or an ex came back in the background, so you should expect these things to happen. And if they do, if you hit the ball over the net and she just all of a sudden stops replying, then just let it be. You have to give women the time and space away from you to follow through on their plans and commitments, or to flake out and disappear forever. So this is just par for the course, dude. Again, if you’re going to do online dating, you should expect to see a lot of this. This is why it’s always better if you’re a social person and you’re always doing things, whether people, you have lots of friends, lots of family that you hang out with, meeting women is just a side effect of having a great social life.

Two and a half weeks later she reappeared with basically a “hey.”

What a shock. A woman’s favorite pick-up line. “Hey.”

I responded that it was good to hear from her and steered things toward the next date. Though it was two and a half weeks, it felt like “cat-like” behavior.

I’d say. More than likely she was hanging out with Chad Thunder Cock or some other guy that things had progressed a little further with, and then once that went sideways, she re-engaged with you. That’s going to happen over and over again. If you’re doing online dating, expect it to happen. And sometimes women will stop replying or leave you hanging for a while just to make sure that you’re not a lunatic and you don’t blow your top, because a lot of guys get really upset if the woman all of a sudden you’re going back and forth in texts and then next thing ten hours go by. Guys that are insecure, they get upset, they get mad. They’re like, “Why did you stop replying?” They’ll never hear from her again. So women do that to screen out guys because they have to, because there’s a lot of nutty dudes out there that got no game.

At the same time, the abrupt drop-off in communication felt inconsistent.

Well, it’s just a factor of interest, and her interest was lower in you and higher and probably spending time with somebody else, that’s why. Or maybe you put your foot in your mouth. Maybe you were boring. Maybe you went out on two dates. You didn’t try to kiss her or escalate anything physically. So that’s to be expected.

In a relationship, I wouldn’t be okay with communication that feels avoidant or disrespectful.

Again, dude, you went out on two dates. You probably haven’t kissed. You definitely haven’t slept with her as you said. So not much has happened. She doesn’t owe you anything. So you’re putting the cart before the horse.

In this case, she could have communicated earlier, but bottom line is that she either chose not to or didn’t know how to navigate. And to me, that’s a yellow flag. In contrast, some other women have communicated when they need space from dating or wanted to pursue another connection.

Well, again, at the end of the day, those things are going to happen. Again if you’re going to only meet women online, you’re going to get a lot of that. So you’re signing up for a giant helping of that.

I respect that type of clear communication, which is what I want long-term.

Well, find a girl who’s easygoing, easy to get along with, who’s nice to you, and does what she says she’s going to do. What are you guys barking at out there? Goofies. Fuzzy Gremlins.

So my question is, when do you think normal, feminine “cat-like” behavior cross the line into avoidant, flaky, or disrespectful behavior early in the dating process?

Thanks for everything you teach. It’s been a huge help.

Well again, don’t get butthurt and get upset about this. This is why I say you’ve got to be indifferent. You should be expecting this. Women who have high interest typically aren’t going to do this as much. Women with lower interest or that are talking to another guy, or that have an ex in the background, they’re going to put you in the back burner and go spend time with that other guy. And then when they figure out that it’s not going to go anywhere with the other guy, I mean, then they’ll be back. So don’t get upset about this.

Again, you had two dates with this girl, and it doesn’t look like you even kissed her. So you’re acting like you have claims on her when it’s just. It’s way too early, so don’t take that shit personally. It’s just the way women are. So keep meeting, keep dating, keep cycling through on your practice squad. Keep dropping girls that don’t treat you properly, and replace them with girls that respond to your text in a timely manner and are happy and excited to see you.

So let’s go to the second email.

Second Viewer’s Email:

Hello Coach,

Have a story with a girl I met on Hinge. We matched on hinge and begun messaging. Her replies were always kind of short they were never like really long or anything and she would take hours to reply.

When a girl does that, it’s usually a sign of low interest. A girl who likes you will respond. She’ll be direct. She’ll be to the point. She doesn’t, you know, she wants you to like her. So she’s going to be nice. She’s going to be punctual, and she’s going to do what she says she’s going to do. If you’re one of like 20 dudes she’s talking to. Again, you’re on hinge, what do you expect? Guys are a dime a dozen on there. So you got 80% of dudes chasing 20% of the women, and 20% of the guys are getting 80% of the women.

So if you’re going to compete in that arena, you’re competing against guys that are jacked, that are incredibly handsome, and they’re getting most of the matches, and they’re getting most of the dates. And they’re just hanging out and having fun and hooking up, turning and burning. They’re hitting it and quitting it. And so when a girl meets a guy like that and they hit it, and the girls thinking, “Oh, wow!” She’s all up in her feels. And then she realizes she just met another Chad Thunder Cock, and he doesn’t want to see her anymore because he’s on to the next challenge.

Because, you know, a lot of guys are like that. Just, to them it’s the challenge of meeting a new girl and seducing her and then getting on to the next one. So when she realizes that it’s not going to work out with the other guy, she comes back. So that’s normal. That’s why you don’t burn a bridge and you don’t take it personally. It helps you remain indifferent, and it helps you become good at exercising self control. Because you can’t blow your top when these things happen and they will happen a lot.

That’s just something I noticed just from the get-go. I then set up a date for Monday at 7pm. I thought she may have been playing hard to get something as she would make plans with me. We met at a nice bar at 7pm, and I greeted her with a hug saying it was lovely to meet her.

It’s so lovely. I think he’s from the UK. It’s so lovely.

We got some drinks and were chatting. From the get-go of the date, I noticed that she had this like low energy kind of vibe.

Well, maybe she took an edible or smoked a bowl and put some eye drops in. That’s possible. Or she’s on some kind of psychotropic drugs and she’s just a fucking zombie. That’s possible too.

And she even said that she was a low energy kind of person. I can’t really describe it. You know like how some people just have like a low energy vibe?

Yeah, usually because they’re baked or they’re shy or maybe they’re on a psychotropic drug. Easygoing, easy to get along with. Who’s nice to you. Preferably has some enthusiasm and has some energy. Not somebody that’s like, hey man, what’s up bro? Let’s go out on a date, bro. What do you think about that? What do you think, Lyla, bro. Anyway.

Anyway the date was good, the conversation flowed very effortlessly. We stayed at the first bar for just over an hour and then I said we should go to another bar down the street, which we did. As we walked down the street, she was bumping into me and all that stuff. We got to the second bar and I sat next to her instead of opposite her. We were talking for ages and she was playing with her hair and necklace several times. Then it dawned on me that we had spent almost three hours together at which point I said, let’s go.

Well, if you’re going to seduce a woman on the first date, typically you got to spend about 4 to 5 hours per usual. So you want to go to three places. The third place is a place where you can facilitate physical interaction. So if you’re bar hopping, some place that’s got like a pool table, some darts. Something like that would be fun. Top Golf, miniature golf, throwing axes. Dave & Busters.

Video games, anything like that that can facilitate physical interaction because then, you know, it creates the conditions where she’s got to touch you. You got to touch her. Especially if you’re showing her how to hold a pool cue or the golf club. And it facilitates a little kissy poo. Kissy poo leads to heavy petting. Heavy petting leads to, hey, why don’t we get her and go back to my place and open a bottle of wine?

As we were walking down the street, I knew I wanted to kiss her, so I stopped and went to kiss her. My kiss was quite weak as when I stopped to kiss her, I sort of asked rather than my usual just pull her in and go for it.

So just women love confidence. And so you weren’t really confident in going for the kiss. And just from her earlier responses, it looks like she’s just not super into it anyways, as you’ll see in a moment.

We kissed on the lips for a couple seconds and then she said, “that’s all you’re getting.”

I would have been like, what? No sample platter. It’s like, that’s not a good amount of kissing in order for me to judge your ability to kiss. But it was a good practice. It is a good start.

We carried on walking, and she was continuing to bump into me.

Again you should have gone to a third place. So you ended the date after three hours. This is again, you’re kind of straying from the book. The book is designed to put you in the best possible position to get what you want, which is to the promised land. And so, in my opinion, based on what you’re sharing here, you ended the date too early. You should have gone to a third place.

We got to the train station and kissed each other on the lips goodbye, she said get home safe, to which I said, yes let me know when you get home. Half an hour later, I get a message “home!” And that’s it. I replied with, “Nice, goodnight x”. Then left it. On Thursday evening at around 8pm, I messaged saying, “hey, hope you’re having a great week! I had a great time the other night, when are you free for a drink next week?”

On Friday at 9am, she messaged with, “hey next week is super busy for me and then I’ve got quite a bit on in the run up to Christmas, so I think it’s maybe best to call it. Just don’t think I have the time to give up at the moment, sorry if I’ve given a different impression and all the best!” I replied a couple hours later with, “no worries, take care.” Any ideas what happened here coach?

Well, you were on a date with a woman who had low interest. I would have gone to a third place. Maybe things could have escalated from there. But the fact that it just seems like her interest was low, and you were kind of sheepish about how you went for the kiss. You’re asking for permission. And the other thing I would have said is when she says, you know, “she doesn’t have the time to give it up at the moment”, I would have just said, “hey, no problem, hit me up if you change your mind.” Never burn a bridge.

But she didn’t have super high interest to begin with and it might not have worked out. Maybe you would have gone to a third place and still the same thing would have happened. But if you follow the script that’s in the book it gives you the best possible chance. If you’re just cherry picking and you’re asking for permission, you’re cutting the date short. You’re just going to lower your chances of success and getting to plow the strawberry fields. Strawberry fields forever.

All right, let’s go to the third email.

So this one, this guy was in relationship or was, I should say six years. So this is not where you would be indifferent to her. If your girlfriend or your wife comes to you with something like this, you can be like what? You want to go to another state and stay at some other man’s house who you claim is just a friend, and I don’t know this guy. It’s like, what do you fucking think I’m stupid? It’s like, you can go, but I’m not going to be here when you get back. I’m not going to be your boyfriend anymore. It’s like, that dog won’t hunt.

No man in his right mind is going to be okay with his girlfriend going to another state, staying at some man’s house who is just a friend so she can go to a concert or something. So this is not the time to be indifferent. This is not the time to treat your girlfriend like a cat. She’s basically asking you for permission to go. It’s like a hall pass. It’s like a trial hall pass. Hey, would you mind if I went and hung out with my friend and, oops, it just kind of happened. His penis ended up inside of me. Yeah.

Third Viewer’s Email:

Hey Corey,

So my longtime girlfriend of six years came to me rather last minute and informed me she was going to see a concert with her “friend” in another state. We are in Chicago, this dude is in Kansas City. So they met in Saint Louis where this concert was.

I love how she just, Oh, by the way, I’m going to Kansas City, Saint Louis for a concert with this man. Oh, he’s just a friend. I’d be like, what? I don’t think so. Like, why would you think I’d be okay with that?

She then tells me it will be a three day weekend kind of trip.

Oh, sure. You know, no problem. Honey, that’s just sounds delightful. I’m going to go hang out with the hot secretary. We’re going to go to sandals for the weekend, but we got separate rooms, so it’ll be fine. Don’t worry. Don’t worry about us.

She insisted they would sleep in separate hotel rooms.

Yeah. I can’t believe you were okay with that dude.

She has told me about this dude in the past, said she has been to his house and even slept there, before our relationship. She claimed there was no sex, they’re just good friends and have remained so online, unbeknownst to me until now.

So obviously the relationship got to the point where it’s probably dull and boring. He probably stopped dating and courting her properly and wasn’t making her feel heard and understood. And the fact that she just informs him, “oh, by the way, I’m taking a trip with this guy.” And he was like, “okay.” Bro, you need to read the book because you acted like a total doormat. You gave your girlfriend permission to go fuck another guy. In other words, you gave her permission to have a hall pass without explicitly stating it. Because no self-respecting man is going to be okay with this.

She assured me there wouldn’t be and hanky pinky in Saint Louis and I had nothing to worry about.

“You have nothing to worry about. Oh, don’t worry about him. He’s just a friend.” Well, he’s just a friend until his dick ends up inside her. Then it becomes, “It just happened. I couldn’t say no. I’m so sorry.”

I didn’t protest at first, but after not hearing from her all weekend, I knew this was a bad thing. Unfortunately I did confront her when she got back and flat out asked her if they’d had sex. She wouldn’t give me a yes or no answer, only stating “I’m sorry I hurt you.” Now she has ghosted me for three weeks.

Thoughts?

Um. You’re single bro. So if I were you, I would read the book. It’s free to read online at UnderstandingRelationships.com. Just subscribe to the Email Newsletter. It sucks. I’m sorry that happened, but you know your chick, she fucking belongs to the street. She’s a whore. She’s a fucking hoe. But at the same token, she told you that and you were like, uh, deep down you’re going, this is probably not okay. But you didn’t say nothing and you let her go. So that was a mistake. I wouldn’t have done that.

But then again, it seems like she’d already checked out. So if you haven’t heard from her in three weeks, date and fuck whoever you want. And I would just block her number. And if she shows up or just say, “We’re done. You’re a fucking whore. Get out of my fucking face. You’re dead to me. I don’t ever want to hear from you or see you or speak to you again. I’ll never even give you another chance. You ruined it. So whoever the dude is in Kansas City or Saint Louis. Go live with him. I don’t give a shit. Don’t call me. Lose my fucking number.” That’s what I would say, because it’s over dude.

You’re not going to fix that. And if you were to take her back, you might as well go buy yourself a cuck chair and invite this guy to fly in to see your girl. And then you can watch them have sex in your bed, and then he can take her out on dates, and then you can sleep on the couch while she sleeps in your master suite with him. It’s like you’ve got to have some self-respect. No man with a brain is going to go, “Yeah, this is a good idea. Sure, honey, I have fun at the concert. Send lots of pictures.” And be like, who’s this guy? It’s like, no.

And just the fact that your girl brings this up to you, it’s like her way of testing you to see if you got the balls to stand up to her, because she can be like, oh, I’m sorry. It just happened. Because you let her do it. You let her get away with it. Like I said, any self-respecting man knows what’s going on there, so. But at least you’re single. And now you can find yourself a woman who has character and integrity. I wouldn’t speak to that bitch as long as you live. She’s out of there.

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